Karyn wrote:A quick google search didn't turn up any resources in your town specifically, but would you be open to phoning some of the services in Cleveland to see if they have any suggestions for you?

Yeah.

Ouch. If that's the case, maybe check-in with the school nurse to see if everything is okay? Do you know if there's a DV resource you're able to contact? I'm not sure if there is resources to contact, and if anything, they would be for nearby major cities. (I.e. Cleveland.) Got some ice for my shou...

Ouch. If that's the case, maybe check-in with the school nurse to see if everything is okay? Do you know if there's a DV resource you're able to contact? I'm not sure if there is resources to contact, and if anything, they would be for nearby major cities. (I.e. Cleveland.) Got some ice for my shou...

Sam W wrote:Ouch. If that's the case, maybe check-in with the school nurse to see if everything is okay?

Do you know if there's a DV resource you're able to contact?

I'm not sure if there is resources to contact, and if anything, they would be for nearby major cities. (I.e. Cleveland.)

That's a great strategy. If you can, I would suggest making a list of all the places you could stay or go to that would keep you away from your aunt, so you know your options if things continue like this (or escalate). One other option is to contact a domestic violence resource in your area. They m...

Okay, then I would definitely contact your counselor and tell them about what happened, and ask if they can make another report to CPS (FYI, CPS may not investigate after one instance, but the more times they're pinged about a certain case, the more likely they are to actually open a case file). Ar...

If you can, I would follow up with them soon, so that they also know the behavior seems to be escalating. You mention CPS, have you had any direct contact with them? If we haven't shown you this already, this is a safety planning tool that could be very useful to you right now: The Scarleteen Safet...

Sam W wrote:That's an excellent first step. What did the counselor say or suggest?

I haven't got much of a reply and haven't got back to them that it actually happened. Not like it matters, law enforcement won't do anything unless I'm practically clinging to life. And, it seems CPS could care less.

Sam W wrote:Okay, so it sounds like your grandmother's house is even more of an unsafe place for you as long as your aunt is there. and like some safety planning may be in order. Have you told anyone besides us about what your aunt is doing?

Told a counselor.

Doe she live with your grandmother? And when you say threats, what kind of threats have they been and how likely do you think it is she'd follow through on them (also, good job on getting yourself away from her). Yes, she lives with my grandmother. And she's threatened to beat me before, and clearl...

Sam W wrote:Was she trying to restrain you? And is this something your aunt does often?

My aunt gets up in my face and tries to scare me, and I don't think she was trying to restrain me. (And, I certainly wasn't going to wait and find out with the threats she's made before.)

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Sam W wrote:It can certainly go a long way towards building up a shield to keep other people's beliefs from constantly poking at you.

Is there anything else we can help you with around this?

Not that I know of.

If you want to try that, you can try mentally adding "you think" after she says something that you know or feel us not true. That can help you remember that it is her misconception rather than a failure on your part. Does your school have an academic counselor or someone similar who you c...

If changing her mind seems daunting, do you feel like there's merit in trying to let some of her misconceptions bounce off of you? That can be difficult, but there are a few things you could try. If you're finding a specific class is hurting your optimism about getting through school, have you had ...

We can certainly offer you some words of encouragement. One way to think about the situation is that, with school at least, giving up there will ultimately only bite you. It won't change her mind, and it will put you in a stressful position. It can also help to think of school as something you get ...

You absolutely did not do anything to deserve this: no one deserves to be treated poorly. It can be difficult to stay motivated at school when there are other difficult things going on in your life, so what you're feeling is totally understandable. What kind of support would you like from us around...

I don't know what to do anymore, I'm not even sure if my lack of wanting to try to even do any work is justifiable. My grandmother is becoming increasingly more common with remarks like "I don't respect her, I only respect my mother. Because you give her more privilege than you do me." (No...

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Yeah, thanks.

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Like purely platonic, (although maybe sexual), make-out sessions with friends? Is this something reasonable to want? Also, like tips on discussing this with friends?