Someone wrote:Another good idea would be to look in the girls and / or Junior's underwear section of sites / stores if you want more modest, and playful but as flashy underwear and bras that can easily be hidden under clothes.

Any ideas if I'm looking on Amazon?

ashleah wrote:When I'm in between sizes I just go based off of the desired fit! Really whatever is most comfortable. With underwear, I would recommend going with the larger size.

Thanks, I should also keep in mind that I could wash them with cold water to shrink them if need be.

I ran into an issue, I may be inbetween sizes, which may make finding things hard. (Although, I haven't took measurements in awhile.)

I got news, I should be getting stuff off of Amazon soon. Just have to arrange alternative shipping addresses.

Karyn wrote:This piece from our Trans Summer School series has some tips and is probably a good place to start: http://www.scarleteen.com/trans_summer_ ... ssion_gear

Oh my god, I forgot about that article in the series. Thanks for that.

Got it, and sorry for not checking in with you about something like that before making my suggestion: that was a big mistake on my part. Oh, it's fine. I'm thinking about starting to write things elsewhere, like how I'm writing some naughty stuff in a binder that she won't probably think of looking...

Oh, and an additional thing, anyone have an idea on reducing the bulge down there?

Yes, while it could be like that it's a bit of spectrum.

Okay, hmm... So, I guess I'll start with the basic gist. So, basically there's an owner and pet (dom/sub equivalents, for this type of play), there really isn't much risk involved. (Unless a scene involves something that has risks, like collars being chained or tied to something.) There isn't too mu...

Like just general info, or what puppy/pet play pertains to?

I don't know much, but I'm a little bit into pet play in general. What kind of info are you specifically looking for?

Danny S. wrote:I'm not sure what shopping looks like where you live, but pretty much any clothing store or department store that sells clothing should sell them. None of the things I mentioned are uncommon.

Okay. I should look around, then.

Thank you Danny S. and KittyPink. You have cleared up some of my confusion, but not all of it. I can understand why this might be confusing, but the bottom line is that you need to respect what your friend is saying. It seems like you're a really supportive friend, and that's awesome! Continue to s...

Okay, any of you have an idea where I could look for these things cheap?

Oh, and like some clothes, like leggings and tights, and anything you can think of that's less noticeable.

Mainly underwear.

I think maybe he's upset about the growing non-binary acceptance among the community. (They are totally legitimate trans people too!) Which might explain the suddenness of him saying he doesn't consider himself part of the community. Which is fine if he doesn't, I have a couple of trans friends who ...

Any idea on how I can wear more feminine things under my clothes without it being noticeable?

Long story about journaling, my grandmother took a few pages and I stopped after that.

"No, that's not it" usually ends up extending the conversation.

As far as the last few times I said "I don't want to talk about this." It was "You don't get the choice." as the response.

Something you could try is to have written down somewhere that having fluxes in dysphoria does not invalidate who you are. It can act like an affirmation from your past self to your future self. You might also find this article helpful to have around. It's part of our Trans Summer School series, an...

Hi Kittypink, What you're describing, especially having days where touching is fine and days where touching is a big old NOPE, is something plenty of people who experience dysphoria express. That doesn't make it any less unpleasant when it happens, but sometimes it can help to know you're not the o...

Countering first, failure then calls for getting away.

Well, she'll try to connect it to trauma. Or she'll try to connect it with the fact that my grandmother isn't very feminine... (Well, at least conventionally.) Or the fact my mother thinks my grandmother is overbearing. I don't have reliable means of stopping her, and about the only thing I can thin...