I definitely plan to be, thanks! I guess I'm just concerned with exactly HOW much detail etc. I'll have to be sharing in order for her to get a good idea of where I'm at? Do you think she'll have to know every little detail? I'm also worried because, while my workmate is able to come with me tomorro...

Thanks for that Sam. I think me worrying about her feeling that way is just some of that anxiety coming in to play, but my other workmate has said the same thing so I'm comfortable thinking that she is not offended at all. I called up the health care provider in my country, who was a bit perplexed b...

Hi all, just another update and a couple of questions if that's okay :) So since my last post, I've told a couple of friends, but more importantly told my doctor; my manager found out that I can receive free counselling if referred by my doctor (who files a claim on my behalf), so I mentioned it whe...

Hi Sam, I think that might work, I think I'll say something like that. She's also always telling me that if she's being too pushy, I can say so. I don't want her to stop supporting me though; I guess that's what I'm worried about here. I never thought about it that way. I think I'd be comfortable st...

That makes sense. While I'm not glad to hear that this is the case, I'm glad I'm not crazy for expecting those kinds of reactions. That does sound about right. I also feel like I'm letting her down if I don't want to do this right now, but I really don't feel up to going through all of that again ju...

Hi Scarleteam! Quite a bit has happened since the last post. Firstly, I told my manager more-or-less the gist of what happened (not the specifics of the night, but enough). She has been extremely supportive, almost overwhelmingly so. I never expected her to be so supportive. I also told another clos...

Hi Jacob, thanks for the advice, I'll keep that in mind :) I did have another question. My next appointment was on Thursday, and there are a few things I want to address/ask her about. My question is, is it alright to have a sort of plan of what I want to talk about, and effectively drive the conver...

Thanks for the article :) it helped. So I went along today. It was okay, but I didn't really understand some of what happened. The counselor kept pausing and looking at me after she would say something, which made me feel awkward. My friend thinks she might've been trying to gauge my reaction/trying...

I made the appointment :) now all that's left is to tell the manager and then actually go. I was talking to my colleague today about all the anxieties I have about actually going; I've never actually seen a counselor before. I'm a bit afraid to be honest, like will she make me talk about everything ...

Thanks for the advice re self-care and telling my manager Sam! Will definitely take both on board, will let you know how it goes :) I guess so, yeah. Do you think they'll ask me the reason why I'm making the appointment? I keep going to do it, but I can't seem to make myself dial. I just keep kinda ...

Hi Scarleteam, it's been a little while! I've been extremely busy at work, which has kept me occupied, but now things are starting to calm down (workwise, anyways). There are good days and a few bad days, today was a bad day. I talked to the colleague that knows about what happened about it, and she...

Thanks for that Heather, just an update on what's been happening. I ended up doing a couple of the things you suggested - I haven't disclosed specifically but one of the friends who knows told him not to mention the guy again (around the group), and kind of really strongly hinted that harm was done ...

Hi Sam, thank you for your response! What you said makes sense - and while the feeling of being weak for seeking help keeps cropping up (funny how I encourage seeking professional help and care to friends in need and certain clients, but I feel differently when it comes to myself), I'll try to put t...

Hi Scarleteam, I hope you all had a lovely break! I certainly did :) but have recently returned to work. Thank you Heather, I think I might try both. It's weird - I fluctuate between thinking I'm absolutely fine and don't need to speak to anyone else, to being totally not fine. I think I'll talk to ...

I'll say. I find I'm quite good at riding out the emotions if I have the space to do so, and have learned quite quickly what kind of self care does and doesn't work for me! I told her today. Unfortunately I didn't have time to view this post, and it all came out in verbal diarrhea followed by me baw...

Hi Sam, a lot has happened today. I'm really glad to hear that reacting that way doesn't sound so silly. I can't think of anything that can make me feel more in control, apart from being kept in loop about things and having my opinion considered. Apart from that, I guess just being able to ride out ...

The rough times ahead are actually more to do with workmates/work structure than the actual work itself. For some reason, apart from that one incident, I haven't had much of a problem being in contact with our clients who are sex offenders (I didn't think that made me strong but thank you!) The reas...

Thanks for your reply Sam. In regards to my rough day, I can sense some turbulent times ahead at work and I'm afraid I won't be able to handle it. I have a few self care techniques in mind for when I feel overwhelmed/occasionally triggered at work, but is there some sort of way to just kind of cope ...

Hi Sam, Thank you for that response. Today was a bad day :/ one minute I was fine and after speaking with a client (who is a convicted sexual offender), it hit me like a truck - I felt so upset and mad again, and had a bad rest of the day. I even broke down in front of a work friend but couldn't say...

Hi there ashleah, thank you for the response! Thankfully, the meeting went great and I had a (thankfully) normal, boring day at work :D I've never actually thought about it that way, like I've never actually thought about ME being the one to receive the care, as it's so often the other way round in ...

Hi everyone, thank you all for your responses. After I posted what I last posted (and read Sam's reply) I felt a lot better - I think I realised that work and what happened that night are two separate incidents, and focussed my energies on try to sort out my work situation. The situation has calmed ...

Hi redskies, thank you for your response, I would like to pick it apart a bit later but I just want to get how I'm feeling out atm. Work has been caving in and has been becoming stressful and unfair for me very recently (over the last 2 days) - this is something I could probably handle pretty easily...

Re the self care, it's a great article! I feel like I'm particularly good at a couple of things on the list (watching videos online, sleeping in :lol: ) I've definitely bookmarked though, a lot of those sound like a good way to even destress after work :D I don't know if I'm ready to even say the wo...

The only thing I can think of that I've been through that comes close to being traumatic are a couple of car accidents - one I was quite young for, and the other didn't effect me too much (we were all fine but the car was wrecked) and afterwards my friends and I talked about it and laughed about it....

Hi, thank you so much for your response. All day I was scared to look at the thread, but I'm glad I did! I've only told my friend who was asleep on the floor, which happened as soon as the guy left - apparently I looked pale and terrified. I've made her swear not to tell anyone else, especially as h...