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Good ideas, thanks!

What else can we do to curtail the chances of ending in an election like this again?

Thanks for your input, Heather. You’re right, now that I think about it. We should give respect and attention to those who accuse these men, not to men (or anyone else) with any history of sexual misconduct or lack thereof. I thought I had a decent solution in mind, but I didn’t. I’m learning a lot ...

I used to think that men becoming rich and successful and taking up important positions with sexual misconduct allegations on their records was so commonplace that it didn’t even matter anymore. It does. We don’t have to and shouldn’t be desensitized to the problem with men with a history of disresp...

Thank you. I kinda rushed that last post. There are some things about politics that I am neutral about (like certain ways the government should distribute taxes, for example) but I am vigilant and take seriously accusations of harmful and illegal behavior and when the rights and safety of others are...

I thought I held a position that I could share honestly and unintrusively here. For that, I’m sorry. Sexual abuse and assault is a big deal no matter who is involved and I will be more careful what I say, how I say it, and where I say it in future. I’m sorry if I’ve hurt anyone with my previous post...

I hope you don’t mind me chiming in, but I’d like to share that I believe we can support a certain candidate while discouraging some of their behavior. It’s not like we’re voting for someone to embolden ourselves or others in engaging in antisocial behavior. For example, a Trump-supporter I know pro...

Short answer: Yes. Long(er) answer: I’m doing totally fine. I am continuing to perform well academically with online learning and I have healthy relationships with everyone in every household I share (I periodically go to visit nearby relatives and stay overnight at their place). One of the people i...

It’s too bad we have a nihilist (for lack of a better word) as our president. It’s also too bad that people support and vote for him. I mean, I have a Trump-supporter in my own family. I will never let my grudge against him lift and once I go to college, I will break off all contact I have with him,...

Thank you lots, Heather. I will add your advice to my solution. I will definitely spend more time with the folks in my life who are real friends and not deceitful delights who care about me, but not many others.

Since I can’t change people’s minds or put an end to the madness Trump and his administration have been unleashing on America, as much as I wish I could, my question is and should be about what I feel is best for me to do (and what is best for me not to do) with people in my own personal life. It’s ...

I never started taking it as seriously as I should until now. Today being the last President’s Day before the next election reminded me how serious a problem in my life is that I didn’t even see as a problem (or as much of a problem) to begin with: There are people in my life who have in the last el...

Thank you, Al. I'm open to learning more about extremely poor governmental decisions like the Alabama abortion prohibition (and other such legal implements in other states and around the world) and people's experiences without reproductive justice and autonomy, in addition to the experiences of peop...

(The topic title probably has nothing to do with this particular discussion board. It was literally all I could think of to name it.) I'm having trouble forgiving myself for my "shady" (for lack of a better word) history on these forums. The horrible, horrible shit I've shared on these for...

Thank you very much, Heather. I'm happy and relieved with how I'd changed over the past year and with my willingness to admit to and share the mistakes I had made, as difficult as they were to address. :) Also, monster was a term I must admit was very bigoted of me to use. I don't consider myself or...

I've been contemplating my previous behavior on these message boards since a bit over a year ago I've posted them. I feel very bad and disgusted that such a person had once been me. I was someone who felt there was something very wrong with what I was born with, and as a result, wrote and shared mes...

I thought what I said would help you understand, but it seems that it didn't. I'm sorry that I have been unintentionally causing you to feel hurt and bashed. I guess I shouldn't be brutally honest and thorough like I have been here. I was trying to express how ashamed I feel of being a man. I need t...

I've been thinking for 17 days what to say next here. Thank you for your time. It's not any easier to write than what I started this discussion with. I like what Sam said about supporting a pregnant partner, but what I've been thinking is quite harsh to me. I sometimes feel like I would've been bett...

Bear with yourself here, COTD. :cry: I realize how batshit I went on the political section of these forums. I think this is one of those situations where I completely misunderstood my own motives. I thought I would have my life and genes possessed and controlled by a woman if I were to make her preg...

I totally misunderstood what you've been saying in previous discussions and what has been happening in the world. I'm very sorry. I feel like a pro-life person bashing you for your pro choice policies. But I'm not pro life. I should've emphasized the "choice" better. I understand better th...

Following up on my discussion from the Pregnancy and Parenting section, I feel that U. S. legislature has been and still is causing us problems by seemingly trading off rights, especially reproductive rights in this case, between men and women. Women weren't seen as independent, for a time. Now, wom...

Thank you Heather. I'm totally alright. I'm in a very safe place where, from my knowledge, there has never been a terrorist attack or mass shooting. I've just been owning up and saying that I made a mistake in responding to that thread you would soon delete because I wasn't being supportive. I didn'...

I just wanted to recognise after COTD's post, that we do try not to assume the gender of someone's potential partners. Attraction, and preferences vary from person to person, and it isn't particularly about being 'female' or not. I didn't mean it like that. This guy's profile said he was straight s...

Penis size is a lot more of a concern than it needs to be in our culture. If you research this and other sexual education websites, you'll discover that, based on the information based on female anatomy, penis size shouldn't affect female sexual arousal and response. As long as you have birth contro...