Oh I do intend to try her suggestions, I'm very grateful for the help, I was just venting more than anything with the giving up talk.

would you like some tools to help you out?

That would be nice, it's an awkward thing to talk about with guys.

Thanks for the advice. I'll try those things out.

God, maybe this whole sex thing just isn't for me, I mean I clearly don't enjoy it, and I'm getting to the point where I'm just beginning to accept that.

Hmm, I think a couple of times I've felt secure and relatively comfortable about how I looked like. But even then it's like a lot of pressure on you while you try to have sexual thoughts to get aroused because they're constantly looking at you, it's distracting. I always get nervous.

Hmm, I've had around 5, most of those people I've had sex with only once, although there were some long term FWBs in the mix. I think self consciousness has something to do with it, I got bullied a lot for what I looked like in school, and I have had sex partners who weren't very enthusiastic about ...

I'm used to masturbating on my own, when I have sex with someone I can't relax.

Should I have an (alcoholic) drink or two before I have sex? But that dulls sensation, doesn't it.