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by snailshell
Thu Jan 19, 2017 6:02 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexual Anatomy?
Replies: 26
Views: 6809

Re: Sexual Anatomy?

It's very possible that the low online rating and reviews are from people trying to tear down the clinic and convince people not to go. It's worth walking in and checking out the vibe for yourself - you can just walk out if you don't like it. It's worth trying! There are also various websites and nu...
by snailshell
Sat Jan 07, 2017 10:09 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: ball gags
Replies: 10
Views: 5332

Re: ball gags

Thanks for fixing that, Mo! My apologies. BiKinksterBoy, I found them through a basic Google search, so you can totally re-find them by searching for terms you're interested in. Did we answer your question?
by snailshell
Wed Jan 04, 2017 11:17 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: ball gags
Replies: 10
Views: 5332

Re: ball gags

They are little squishy balls - imagine like a cross between a bouncy ball and a stress ball - on a strap. You put the ball in your mouth, then the strap connects at the back. The strap keeps it from falling out, or from falling back into your throat and choking you. When the ball is in your mouth, ...
by snailshell
Tue Jan 03, 2017 10:39 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: My brain won't stop...
Replies: 19
Views: 11010

Re: My brain won't stop...

Here is a great article about asking your parents for help with your mental health: https://www.buzzfeed.com/annaborges/how-do-i-tell-my-parents-i-need-mental-health-help If you're a student, is there a counselor or health center you could talk to? Or a teacher you trust? Does your family belong to ...
by snailshell
Tue Jan 03, 2017 10:34 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Soy interactions?
Replies: 12
Views: 5099

Re: Soy interactions?

by snailshell
Mon Jan 02, 2017 10:55 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Abuser up for parole
Replies: 5
Views: 5385

Re: Abuser up for parole

Is there someone you could talk to who could advise you - a lawyer, victim's advocate, officer, or another professional who is familiar with the case and could work with you to get the information you need and make the best decision for you?
by snailshell
Mon Dec 19, 2016 4:58 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Paragard & Diaphram?
Replies: 6
Views: 3229

Re: Paragard & Diaphram?

Talking to friends and family or connecting to a support group or social worker at the hospital, as Heather suggested, are awesome ideas. Here are some more resources that might help: http://www.birthtraumaassociation.org.uk/help.htm http://www.solaceformothers.org/ http://pattch.org/ http://www.pos...
by snailshell
Mon Dec 19, 2016 12:57 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Why can't I remember? Have I really been sexualiy abused
Replies: 8
Views: 6583

Re: Why can't I remember? Have I really been sexualiy abused

I really just want to know what to do next As for what to do next: keep reaching out for help. The list of things that you identify with include some serious mental health issues that need and deserve treatment and healing. You don't need to do this alone. Working through past trauma, identifying w...
by snailshell
Sat Dec 17, 2016 1:50 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Gay, but thinks some boys are cute
Replies: 6
Views: 5902

Re: Gay, but thinks some boys are cute

If you're "quite sure you're gay," then...well...you're gay! You don't need anyone else's permission, validation, or approval for your identity. It is entirely possible to find people "cute" without wanting to date or even have sex with them! Attraction is a wide spectrum, and re...
by snailshell
Fri Dec 16, 2016 6:37 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Can a moving condom have an STI risk?
Replies: 4
Views: 2675

Re: Can a moving condom have an STI risk?

This isn't exactly what you asked, but: if you continue to have issues with condoms slipping around, try other brands, sizes, and styles of condoms. It took me and my partners a really long time into our sexually active lives before we realized that all penises are not the same (even though all the ...
by snailshell
Fri Dec 16, 2016 3:07 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Pain during intercourse but...
Replies: 5
Views: 2741

Re: Pain during intercourse but...

First off, if your boyfriend lied to you about something that was important to you and violated your trust, that's a big relationship red flag. I think it's worth it to talk to your boyfriend about why he gave you wrong information and how that made you feel. You deserve to be in a relationship wher...
by snailshell
Fri Dec 16, 2016 11:22 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Pubic hair and discharge
Replies: 2
Views: 26353

Re: Pubic hair and discharge

It's normal and nothing to worry about - but if it bothers you, you can reduce it by trimming your pubic hair a bit. Use small grooming or safety scissors and always point the sharp bits away from your bits.
by snailshell
Thu Dec 15, 2016 11:33 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: gender roles
Replies: 5
Views: 6663

Re: gender roles

There is nothing about gender roles that I like - to me, something being a "gender role" implies that it is a requirement or somehow forced on me. Many things that I like to do on my own, I would resent being made or expected to do by someone else. I am a cis woman, so I like to think of i...
by snailshell
Thu Dec 15, 2016 11:18 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Pee holding?
Replies: 13
Views: 5776

Re: Pee holding?

It sounds like you have a good idea of what you like and what your body can do - my suggestion is to find erotica and/or porn that includes things related to this fetish and figure out what you really like, identify your fantasy, then work with a partner or on your own to find ways to safely live it...
by snailshell
Wed Dec 14, 2016 12:39 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Pee holding?
Replies: 13
Views: 5776

Re: Pee holding?

general tips to avoid UTIs: -Pee after sex -Stay hydrated! -Some people find that cranberry pills/juice help -Keep your immune system healthy in general (manage sleep, diet, stress, etc.) -Wear clean, breathable underwear -Keep sex as clean and safe as possible - use lube that works well with your b...
by snailshell
Wed Dec 14, 2016 12:09 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I was raped, hate my body, and need ideas to feel positive
Replies: 10
Views: 123018

Re: I was raped, hate my body, and need ideas to feel positive

As for having a hard time naming your feelings, if you have a smartphone there are lots of apps that can help. I know it can sound silly to use an app for help with emotional regulation, but they have really helped me. Different things work for different people, so here's a link dump to look through...
by snailshell
Wed Dec 14, 2016 11:44 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Pee holding?
Replies: 13
Views: 5776

Re: Pee holding?

Then it sounds like perhaps you need to take steps to keep certain information safe from your grandmother. It sucks when we can't be open and honest with people in our lives, but if people have demonstrated that they are going to introduce anxiety, shame, or fear-mongering into our lives, or spread ...
by snailshell
Wed Dec 14, 2016 11:41 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Pee holding?
Replies: 13
Views: 5776

Re: Pee holding?

This is a (relatively) common kink; it is not my thing but I encounter it often enough in erotica about other things I'm into. (If you don't already, check literotica dot com for tags relevant to what you're into; you can find a lot there! Plus, check this wiki page: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Om...
by snailshell
Tue Dec 13, 2016 8:21 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Unsure of things to use for bondage.
Replies: 7
Views: 36243

Re: Unsure of things to use for bondage.

Solo bondage is VERY dangerous - do not do it! Consider instead masturbating while reading an erotic story about bondage or looking at bondage porn. You can simulate the sensation of having something to struggle against by wrapping yourself up in a blanket, wearing tight clothing or doing something ...
by snailshell
Tue Dec 13, 2016 5:50 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Unsure of things to use for bondage.
Replies: 7
Views: 36243

Re: Unsure of things to use for bondage.

As in most things, at least part of the solution is communication! If you like the feeling of something to struggle against, that may take some strategizing between you and your partner. Most people - rightfully! - take struggling on their partners part as a signal to pull back. "Resistance pla...
by snailshell
Tue Dec 13, 2016 3:41 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Unsure of things to use for bondage.
Replies: 7
Views: 36243

Re: Unsure of things to use for bondage.

Oooh friend I gotta send you a bunch of links once I'm off mobile. For now: 1.) safety is the priority! Using things for bondage that aren't intended for bondage can be dangerous, so when in doubt be conservative and patient (even when it's annoying)! Don't take shortcuts - cuffs or rope not designe...
by snailshell
Tue Dec 13, 2016 12:30 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Problems with Sex/Relationship
Replies: 3
Views: 3153

Re: Problems with Sex/Relationship

First off, I can never seem to talk to him. I'm an incredibly shy individual, I can barely look him in the eye, let alone hold a conversation with him, it makes me feel so inadequate. You deserve to be with someone who you enjoy being around, not someone who makes you feel inadequate. Don't make th...
by snailshell
Tue Dec 13, 2016 12:13 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Shaving Pubic Hair
Replies: 2
Views: 2958

Re: Shaving Pubic Hair

When you say "it stinks" - do you mean just that you don't like it, or that it literally smells? The pubic area should not have a bad smell no matter how long your pubic hair is, and shaving is not a solution to whatever is causing it to smell. If you're worried about odor in that area, ta...
by snailshell
Tue Dec 13, 2016 11:34 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: intense cramping
Replies: 3
Views: 3152

Re: intense cramping

That sounds really intense - hallucinations, vomiting, etc. - and should be taken seriously as a medical condition. Unfortunately, it is REALLY hard for people who menstruate to get symptoms like that taken seriously by most doctors - we get told to take an Advil and have a lie down. My recommendati...
by snailshell
Tue Dec 13, 2016 11:18 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Beginning an open relationship?
Replies: 8
Views: 3390

Re: Beginning an open relationship?

Hi! I've been in poly/open relationships for going on 10 years now, so this is totally my wheelhouse. 100% seconded on trying different types of condoms and more lube! As for "rules" - I've found that rules work best when they are more abstract and focus on feelings rather than behaviors. ...