Thanks for the reply. It’s a bit helpful but I’m still confused. When I mentioned not wanting sex unless there is an emotional connection, I did not mean “having a desire for sex with a person but not acting or not wanting to act on it unless there is an emotional connection”. Instead I meant there ...

I have been doing some thinking about sex and sexual attraction and I am just very confused. Basically what I have been wondering is whether it is sexual attraction if you are drawn to a person but have no desire to have sex with them at the moment. I use the word sex very broadly - for me it means ...

Hello all, I only started being open about my sexuality and LGBT issues around 2 years ago. However, I still have some lingering anxiety that prevents me from speaking up as much as I would like to when someone says something that is somewhat bigoted. I tend to be out to people who mostly believe th...

Hey everyone! Thanks for all the advice. Wintergreen, That was some really good advice. I think I'll go with the flirting for a while even though that terrifies me. And just see about asking her on a date after flirting and begin the journey of tons of communication. It was also awesome that you des...

So, this is something I've always been very confused about. I don't really understand how people get into romantic relationships. I never had to worry about it because I never thought I'd feel self-confident enough to enter into one, but now I have a crush on this girl and I don't know what to do ab...

Hi everyone :D , It's so strange to have so many replies at once. Karyn, Thanks a lot for your concern about the potential anxiety I would face by going with the bulletin thing. I was going to construct a really long reply where I explained that even though I felt super anxious about the whole thing...

Hi, Sorry that it has taken me so long to reply. I feel like I've just been pondering your response and waiting till an appropriate time to say something. I did an extensive conversation with my roommate and told her to be sure to communicate with me if anything bothers her. I check in before I put ...

Hey again! I just wanted to post this on here because I feel like I've gotten a ton of assistance in my coming out process on these boards. So I feel like I have gotten to a good place with my sexuality in general. I have become an active member of the LGBTQ group at my school and plan to go to thos...

Hey, thanks for replying. I really appreciate the sample you said to say to a roommate. I think that's certainly something I could use. I sort of get why people might be unwilling to communicate their issues with me to me. It's just kind of frustrating especially with the way my roommates have handl...

Thanks. LandUnderWave. I found this very helpful. I only didn't reply for so long because I think this is such a well-thought and accurate response.

Hey whoever replies, I have difficulties being friends with people because I am afraid of self-disclosure as a result of my social anxiety. I am actually making breakthroughs in this area, especially in realizing that I am allowed to choose the kind of friends I want, rather than just befriending pe...

Hi Jacob Yeah. The"it gets better" story actually helps. I know I could probably keep it a secret from them. It's just I've gotten a lot closer to my mom in general, because I like her so much except for the unbending homophobia. I hate knowing that something I am could make her love me le...

Hi Karyn and everyone else that has replied, I have this weird issue of not really having a word that perfectly fits me that's been coming up when I try to discuss my orientation. I feel that the definition of the word bisexual is really the most understandable and closest way of communicating what ...

I think I could try that. I'll let you know how it goes.

Hi, If you think it's a better idea for me to try with the LGBTQ group on campus, I guess I could work towards that. I just really want to be making some progress right now before I feel fully comfortable with that. Do you think with the more casual conversations I could say something like,"Not...

Yeah. Like I said before, the LGBTQ group is really not where my comfort level is at. There are too many people, some of which I know, I would be the subject of conversation, and I just can't handle that. What I've been trying to do with my social anxiety is do the things that are a bit uncomfortabl...

Hi again. I decided to lay off on talking to my friend for a while because I don't feel like it is really helpful to me. I told my therapist a little about the LGBTQ issues but we haven't really discussed that in the past few weeks because I had a pretty dramatic crisis. But now that I am out of tha...

I feel that you are right about it not necessarily being a good choice to tell him right now. It's just a bit of a bummer because I wanted someone that I knew from before on my side. I'm also wondering if you think that he might change in the future and if I should keep arguing with him. I don't eve...

So a little bit of an update on this. I'm considering coming out to my closest friend from high school that I could talk about stuff that other people disapprove of. I ended up asking how he felt about gay people and he got into saying that he doesn't understand how someone can be sexually attracted...

I guess what confuses me is not knowing if I've had romantic feelings or not. I had a lot of really intense crushes in high school that lasted between 1 and 3 years, and they all overlapped. And I'd just constantly think about them even though I had never spoken to them and did not know much about t...

I have been pondering this for quite a while now because all my previous answers to this question don't make sense because of new stuff I know. For one, I used to think that I had feelings for someone if I felt "butterflies" around them or particularly wanted them to like me as a person. H...

My whole family really is pretty much the same as regards views on same-sex relationships. And I think they are even more opposed to anything other than strictly gay because they feel that sexuality is a choice. To be honest, I have been very different from my family for a while and have successfull...

I am sort of out to one person in my friend group and have given other hints in conversation that I'm definitely not straight with other friends. I didn't really make it clear what I thought I was though. I definitely feel that the school I'm in is supportive, though it's very conservative and only ...

I am a 17 year old college sophomore that currently thinks of myself as bisexual and somewhat sexually fluid. I'm not always comfortable with the label and may later change it or not have any at all. But, I come from a country that believes that any kind of same-sex attraction is unnatural and some ...