People have suggested I just tell my brother that, but I don't want to offend him. I know he's trying to help. But it really would help me so much more if his answer was to help take my mind off whatever is getting me down. Because that's the problem. I get stuck in my head, and only get these amorp...

I know there are people who care about me, online there are quite a few. And I feel like a total piece of crap that I can't see in myself what they see in me. Moving and trying harder mostly comes from my brother. I think my friend thinks the same thing, but she's more hesitant to say so, because sh...

It's hard. If my mother doesn't love me, who does? And so far, the only answers people have are to "try harder" or "move" but at this point I don't have the emotional capital for either of those things. I've been "trying harder" for over a decade now. And in that time, ...

I have talked about that with my therapist...a lot. Unfortunately, I think the relationship is beyond repair at this point. She refuses to acknowledge me as I am, and will come out swinging with slurs and abuse if I give so much as an inch. I'm mostly considering the whole thing over at this point, ...

I could certainly draw the line with my mom, but I'm scared that doing so will shut down the last remaining anything we have with each other. I'm afraid I'll never have her love again, and that is very scary to me.

Thanks, I'll check that book out.

Will I ever be able to catch up?

I'm so sorry your mom is that way. Have you found any supports, like community groups or even a counselor, that would give a safe space to process what's going on and offer some messages to counter what your mom is saying? I speak with a therapist weekly, so that helps. And I'm independent of my mo...

That technique is a great place to start. If you'd like, we can help you come up with some other resources or techniques to work on combating the jerkbrain. Yeah? I don't know why but it's become a real problem lately. My mom is pretty emotionally abusive and that tends to provide a lot of fuel for...

Thanks, Mo. It's really, really hard to read about relationship stuff, or sex stuff, because it makes me feel so inferior and unwanted. Nobody has ever wanted me that way. What if they never do? To cope, I desexualized myself and called myself asexual. I don't really know if my hidden transness some...

Are there any groups for trans folks near you that might at the very least get you in touch with other people? That could include support or social groups for trans women or trans people in general, or women's social/activist/professional groups that are explicitly welcoming to trans women. If you ...

I've actually followed this site for years and always appreciated its easy to understand information and the manner in which it's presented. I always felt like these topics are discussed in a way that others me, and disrespects my experiences, but that never happens here. I decided to make a forum a...