Unfortunately I just found out last month that my family's having financial trouble as well. Which isn't fun at all of course but I feel better knowing that there's something directly I can do. And knowing that others have give through similar experiences makes me feel about better about the whole t...

I'm sure it wouldn't bother me as much if I didn't feel the "need" to be attracted to those types of people. My brother once said I was "picky" about who I found attractive even though I'm realizing that you can't help who you're attracted to! I'm sure once I get more comfortable...

Congratulations!

I don't know if it's just heteronormativity or not, but again and again I see portrayals in the media expecting someone to be sexually attracted to EVERYONE of the opposite sex. A woman is attracted to every "attractive" man and vice versa (I say "attractive" because it's relativ...

Hi, treehugger99! Sexuality is really a personal thing. There's no way to "prove" if you're gay/bi/etc. It depends on how the individual feels and what they feel personally fits them as a label. What I'm trying to say is there's no way you could be "wrong" about being a lesbian. ...

If they're not using your pronouns then I have to question how supportive they actually are. Someone who's supportive would use the correct pronouns and if they accidentally misgendered you they'd apologize and work on getting your pronouns right. Just because they say they support you doesn't mean ...

Like Heather said everyone has their preferences so you could just try something and see which one he likes from his reaction/response to you (if he says it feels good/doesn't). Even if he's never masturbated before he'll know what feels comfortable when you do it and you'll both likely figure out w...

I guess just as someone who's never engaged in partnered sex before I feel kinda ignorant about these kind of topics. But I'm sure I'll learn more once it actually happens instead of wondering. Thanks again

Glad everything worked out!

Thanks! Yeah, I guess I just heard about people mentioning going "deep" with oral sex and I wasn't sure how feasible that was. And I should've said if someone had a stronger gag reflex since of course most people have them, though a "strong" gag reflex is relative now that I thin...

Hi, Babe101! Everyone has their own preferences on how they like to be touched. Some ways are common and of course you could look up how most men like to masturbate, but I think the best thing to do would be to ask your boyfriend how he likes to be touched/ show you what he likes. That way, you're n...

Just wondering, how hard is it to give oral if you have a strong gag reflex? Can you "train" yourself not to have one?

I would say you're already looking to change your expectations since you've acknowledged that your expectations in a guy probably aren't realistic and that you would like to change that. Being aware of our thoughts is the first step to taking any change we would like to, so you're off to a great sta...

I'd actually love to talk to my friends about that but I've never meant anyone as open, or I just haven't been as open being an introvert. But I think what Alice said fits the bill - just ask! Sometimes we spend so much time wondering what people are thinking when the only way to find out is to ask ...

I think it's because still aren't used to it. Of course the LGBT+ community has always been here, but until recently people have not been as open about it. People simply aren't used to it as a whole and people are generally wary of what's different/new to them. Also, people who are straight and grow...

Avondran left a great response, and I just wanted to add my own: I don't think you're "too young" to know if you're sexually attracted to women; I don't think you need to be a certain as to recognize your sexuality. Sexual attraction is a personal experience that really can only be defined...

You're welcome!

The great thing about masturbation is that there's no way you "should" masturbate. I could give you suggestions, but it really depends on what you enjoy. Some people like using their hands; others use objects (like vibrators). Some people like penetration: others prefer outside stimulation...

I love Hamilton! So many good songs

That's great! I'm glad everything worked out!

"All of Me" by John Legend is pretty good. I also really love "Enchanted" by Taylor Swift, "Still Into You" by Paramore, and "Mirrors" by Justin Timberlake. There are so many good love songs out there!

Just seconding what Mo said, but best of luck with your conversation with your boyfriend and everything else going on! I hope everything works out well for you

I'm glad some of what I said helped! Okay, so what I'm getting at is that you are attracted to both men and women, but you've never been in a relationship with a woman, and you are interested in being with a woman. You also have had some negative/abusive experiences with men, so you are wondering if...

Hi, biversity (love the username)! Welcome to Scarleteen! I'm not an admin nor have I been here as long as some people, but I've found my way around the ropes and hopefully I can give you some helpful advice! It sounds like you're really worried about your sexual desires interfering with your relati...

Thanks for the comments! I think I sometimes overestimate how little things really can help people in large ways. I think she knows I'm willing to help her out so I'll wait to see if she says there's anything I can do for her. Thanks!