Hi Sam,

Yep I do - that's really helpful advice, thank you! And yes I am probably overthinking things. It's been about 10 months, which is a long time I know. The pain comes back in cycles and I don't know exactly what triggers it either, which is also confusing.

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Thanks for this - I wish I had seen this a few months ago, maybe it would have helped me to understand everything better. I've learnt for next time.

Thank you so much for your help !

Okay I see, that's helpful! Thank you.

And yes, that does make sense, although would you mind giving me a few examples?

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