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by Heather
Wed Nov 01, 2023 8:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: if you tie a thread around your labia minora, would the tied off part fall off like a mole?
Replies: 1
Views: 14225

Re: if you tie a thread around your labia minora, would the tied off part fall off like a mole?

I can't and won't answer this question in the way that you're asking for. For one, I don't know for sure what would happen save that doing this would certainly cause injury, potentially permanent depending on how long this was left on and how tight. Second, this is something I would consider to be s...
by Heather
Mon Oct 30, 2023 8:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Lumps on shaft of penis
Replies: 3
Views: 3596

Re: Lumps on shaft of penis

If they are causing you pain, by all means, it's time to go and see a healthcare provider. They can diagnose what this is and help you treat it so you're not in pain anymore.
by Heather
Mon Oct 30, 2023 7:41 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Lumps on shaft of penis
Replies: 3
Views: 3596

Re: Lumps on shaft of penis

Hi there.

These lumps: are they painful for you at all (itchy or sore)? Also, are they small, a little raised, and a bit lighter than the skin around them?

I'm not sure what you mean by "it" is thicker above and below the ring. What's "it" in this sentence?
by Heather
Mon Oct 30, 2023 7:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: 16 Year old Virgin
Replies: 3
Views: 8165

Re: 16 Year old Virgin

Welcome to the boards. :) There is no "should" in what feels good to people when it comes to sex and sexuality, only a loooooooot of diversity. Some people like activities or ways of doing them that other people don't, or only like when done in different ways, or with particular partners o...
by Heather
Mon Oct 30, 2023 7:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: penetration issues (virgin).
Replies: 3
Views: 32194

Re: penetration issues (virgin).

It could absolutely also be the angle. A lot of times, people will go to go into the vagina like the canal is straight up or back. But it's actually curved, so kind of poking something straight in can tend to just push against the posterior wall of the vagina instead of sliding inside and upward, in...
by Heather
Sun Oct 29, 2023 9:18 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: penetration issues (virgin).
Replies: 3
Views: 32194

Re: penetration issues (virgin).

Hi there. So, the hymen isn't something that usually breaks at all, and it certainly isn't something that needs to be "broken." It also is something that gradually wears away over a lifetime with or without any kind of vaginal sex, so the idea that one person has a hymen different from som...
by Heather
Sun Oct 29, 2023 9:05 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Late period and Fingering
Replies: 1
Views: 4574

Re: Late period and Fingering

Hello again. Before I say anything else, this is part of what I meant when in the last post, I brought up taking a break from sex -- ANY kind of sex that creates this anxiety and worry for you, and that leaves you feeling panicked after instead of feeling good. Pretty clearly, even when you have sex...
by Heather
Thu Oct 26, 2023 2:56 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: ball shaped lump kind of in entrance of vagina
Replies: 1
Views: 17839

Re: ball shaped lump kind of in entrance of vagina

Hi there. So, vulval cancer is very rare in young people. And the g-spot -- which is part of the internal clitoral and urethral structures -- isn't flat, but you also can't see that area from the outside anyway. The hymen also isn't ball-shaped, it's thin tissue that surrounds the vaginal opening ju...
by Heather
Wed Oct 25, 2023 7:47 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: masturbation + sex drive
Replies: 3
Views: 7611

Re: masturbation + sex drive

Hey there, crowbar. This is a good start! I wonder if we could narrow this list down -- or expand it -- so that what you're really focusing on are the things that bring you the most sensory pleasure, or even physical pleasure. Like, what really feels delicious in your body, what gets you kind of cau...
by Heather
Tue Oct 24, 2023 2:38 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Yellow Seman
Replies: 2
Views: 998

Re: Yellow Seman

It's impossible for us to say. It can be from some urine in the urethra, but also can happen when using certain supplements or from eating certain foods. It's not generally a cause for concern, though, if it just happens once or every now and then, and if you know from recent testing that you don't ...
by Heather
Tue Oct 24, 2023 11:53 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: No pleasure from clit
Replies: 3
Views: 23158

Re: No pleasure from clit

Glad to fill you in!

Here's a whole lot more information on that and other related anatomy that should help fill these gaps in for you some more!
With Pleasure: A View of Whole Sexual Anatomy for Every Body
Innies & Outies: The Vagina, Clitoris, Uterus and More
by Heather
Tue Oct 24, 2023 11:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Very paranoid please help!
Replies: 4
Views: 1494

Re: Very paranoid please help!

Please use the links I gave you to do that for yourself if you want to stay focused on that question. Sam has already answered that for you right here in this thread.
by Heather
Tue Oct 24, 2023 8:56 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: masturbation + sex drive
Replies: 3
Views: 7611

Re: masturbation + sex drive

Hi there, crowbar, welcome to the boards. :) There's no one way everyone asexual identifies or experiences things. Some people who ID as ace feel arousal and want to masturbate but not have sex with partners, others don't. And there are also many people who aren't asexual but haven't experienced or ...
by Heather
Tue Oct 24, 2023 8:50 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: No pleasure from clit
Replies: 3
Views: 23158

Re: No pleasure from clit

So, I think the first thing to start by knowing is that the clitoris is much bigger than just the glans, shaft and hood that can be seen on the outside. It includes components that surround the vaginal opening and the canal, and also is part of the system that includes the g-spot. So really, if the ...
by Heather
Tue Oct 24, 2023 7:53 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Very paranoid please help!
Replies: 4
Views: 1494

Re: Very paranoid please help!

Also, as we ask in the user agreement when using any of our direct services, please search the main site for help before posting to direct services. For now and if you find yourself in this spot again, these three resources cover all of these kinds of questions and concerns: • The Pregnancy Panic Co...
by Heather
Sun Oct 22, 2023 11:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: query about a post
Replies: 8
Views: 5808

Re: query about a post

So, what I hear you saying is that you are doing things that keep leaving you feeling afraid. Probably, in order to get past that, you'll need to stop doing those things -- or doing them in the ways you are -- until you can manage that fear. I'm not troubled or annoyed, but I do feel like just tryin...
by Heather
Sun Oct 22, 2023 11:39 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: My sexual thoughts shifting after testing masterbauting
Replies: 1
Views: 8660

Re: My sexual thoughts shifting after testing masterbauting

Welcome to the boards, Azulin. Our fantasies don't cause any harm to the people we have them about. In fact, they usually don't impact them at all because they don't have any idea we are having them. So, I don't think you need to worry about doing this person wrong. That said, if you find that while...
by Heather
Sun Oct 22, 2023 11:18 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: query about a post
Replies: 8
Views: 5808

Re: query about a post

So, like I said, if this already happened there is nothing you can do from here save thinking about how this has you feeling and what you can do (or not do) next time to feel differently. What you are describing here is not at all how pregnancy happens, though, so it seems to me the first thing you ...
by Heather
Sun Oct 22, 2023 10:24 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: vaginal ejaculate on pregnancy?
Replies: 5
Views: 6625

Re: vaginal ejaculate on pregnancy?

You don't need to be sorry, it's okay. But you'll see in your other post I did suggest that if this is about something that already happened that you are worried about, I think there's a better way to approach this.
by Heather
Sun Oct 22, 2023 10:24 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: query about a post
Replies: 8
Views: 5808

Re: query about a post

No one is ever going to be able to tell you that no one, in the history of human beings, has never had a pregnancy happen when there are penises and vaginas involved in some way. History is simply too long, most pregnancies throughout history won't have ever had any data collected about them, and ev...
by Heather
Sun Oct 22, 2023 10:18 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: vaginal ejaculate on pregnancy?
Replies: 5
Views: 6625

Re: vaginal ejaculate on pregnancy?

Like I said, I have never heard or read anything to suggest it can. I am a sex educator, not a scientist studying this, so I can't say with absolute authority like you seem to be asking. I can only tell you that I have never seen anything to suggest that in any reliable source.
by Heather
Sun Oct 22, 2023 10:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I can't masturbate, I'm a 19 year old female
Replies: 27
Views: 87115

Re: I can't masturbate, I'm a 19 year old female

I feel like at this point, all of this has become so much more about trying to solve a problem, and so little about just experiencing pleasure that the best thing you could probably do for yourself right now is take a break. When someone is coming to this this way -- seeing sex and response as probl...
by Heather
Sun Oct 22, 2023 10:05 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: vaginal ejaculate on pregnancy?
Replies: 5
Views: 6625

Re: vaginal ejaculate on pregnancy?

I have never heard or read anything to suggest this, no. Cervical mucus plays a role, but not ejaculate from the person with the vagina. On top of that, sperm cells need THEIR fluids for reproduction, need quite a few cells -- about 500 -- to even have a chance at gamete fusion, and trace sperm on f...
by Heather
Sun Oct 22, 2023 10:00 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Boobs not growing
Replies: 5
Views: 3806

Re: Boobs not growing

You know, I'm still close friends with Audra, so if you feel like you'd benefit from a conversation with someone who has been in this spot, I'm happy to ask her to come by the boards for you, just LMK.
by Heather
Sun Oct 22, 2023 9:58 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: query about a post
Replies: 8
Views: 5808

Re: query about a post

Whether it's in an article or in a post, when we are accounting for pregnancy risks that can occur with a given activity, we account for all of the factors that can be involved. But trace amounts of semen on fingers, even if that is part of manual sex, just isn't a way pregnancy can happen, for a fe...