Naurmi: I agree with everything Amanda just said. I also want to check in with you: it's been sounding more and more to me like some of your struggles may be so frequent and so reoccuring because you're going this largely on your own as a very young person. Are the parents/guardians or other trusted...

I'm so sorry. This sounds really frustrating. I wonder if you feel like you can tell your parents that no one else can actually tell you what they think your gender identity without mostly basing that in their own ideas and projections. Figuring out our gender identity -- even just day to day and mo...

Hey there. So, one thing we won't do here is to engage with reassurance seeking someone is doing because they are having anxiety. We just know from many years of this work and knowing quite a lot by now about what does and doesn't work with this kind of anxiety that that not only doesn't help, it of...

I think that when you know that someone is uncomfortable, then it's very clear that they are NOT someone to tell a thing that will make them feel that way. I don't know how big a group of people this is, but I think who you tell what about the feelings this is creating in you is a decision that is m...

Moved, as asked!

I think this really ultimately boils down to this (and please be like, um, no, if I'm off): • You like flirting and talking about sex with your friends and it sounds like your friends, do, too (unless people are answering these questions with silly things you/they are not actually into at all, this ...

I want to add something for you, Jay! It sounds to me like a good next-level-up thing the two of you could do together is each doing this: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/yes_no_maybe_so_a_sexual_inventory_stocklist (A printable PDF version is at the bottom of the page.) I think each shari...

Got it!

So, since there is clearly no real risk of pregnancy, these thoughts are just something to get yourself through, and it should be pretty easy since the stakes are so low. Sometimes to get through something like this for ourselves, we really just need to do it ourselves.

I do also want to add that in a very sexist and misogynistic world, it also makes a lot of sense for just about anyone to imagine being a man and feeling happy about it, especially during life phases, like puberty, where being a girl or woman can be extra uncomfortable. There are some areas where ho...

I think this is one of those things where when we're considering or choosing a partner, we can ask people how they feel about it and then make decisions together about if we'll be a good fit or not. For instance, we can ask someone, "How do you generally feel about your sexual partners watching...

No worries, you didn't upset me. It's all good. I figured, but I couldn't get a good sense of what you were asking there, separate from asking why we don't have to share every sexual fantasy with a partner. I can speak to that, and maybe we can just take it from there? Our sexual partners don't own ...

I can see the thread. I just try and ask if it's okay when someone has either had an ongoing conversation with one other person before, or where it's kind of been a cast of thousands already. And I asked about where you wanted to pick up the conversation today because I wasn't clear on that from you...

Of course, if you'd rather. Can you let me know what you're looking for in a someone else so I can leave a note for the rest of them team?

Hi there, sorry that you had to wait. I'm new to talking with you, so I hope it's okay I'm coming into the conversation at this stage.

Can you get me started by letting me know what you're wanting to talk about or talk about more right now?

Hi there, and welcome to the boards! You know which of these terms -- if either of them do at all -- are right for you really isn't something someone else can tell you, but something for you to decide. If you want a shorthand term for your sexual identity when it comes to the gender of people you fe...

Hi there, nivilivi. So, we can't give you the kind of information you're asking for, save to refer you to the effectiveness rates of condoms, which you'll find here: https://www.scarleteen.com/birth_control_bingo_condoms But you picked a title for this that says you feel irrationally scared of being...

Naurmi: we need to hold our limit on circling back to you with more reassurance around the facts about pregnancy risks. We've already given you a handful of different articles that explain this, and they all make clear that they take everything relevant into account. We also always fact-check all of...

By any chance, did you have your period recently?

What do you think might help you make that call? Do you want to talk through what’s making you anxious about it?

Can you perhaps circle back to your psychologist and a) tell them about that fear and get help getting through that to make that call, and b) ask them to just contact your psychiatrist to order the Ativan?

Glad to be of service.

Hey, Max. I do think it’s likely this is something you’re overthinking, and that probably everything is absolutely fine with your body. I think trying to evaluate your cervical position for yourself is a bit of a losing strategy, too, because you’re just not going to have the education or the vantag...

Hey there, Riverstyx (nice handle!), You're right, latex condoms and topical estrogen aren't a good pair. Nonlatex outside (or "male") condoms are just as effective as latex, though. It's with inside ("female") condoms where we see an effectiveness differential, but even that dif...

I totally get it, I take things very literally myself. (Which is why almost everyone close to me at least once has been the recipient of me saying, "Words have specific meanings!" :P) I hear what you're saying about having some more hope with a Black practitioner. I really hope this goes b...

Hi there, Yukkish. I personally find it helpful around a lot of things to remind myself that there really is no knowing ourselves precisely. Knowing who we are is always in a state of flux, because we, in our lives in this world are never in a static state. With something like sexuality, there simpl...