When you read the article, did any of the suggestions about why you might be feeling like this -- like being sexual when you don't really feel ready or want to, or feeling like if you did get pregnant, you'd be unsafe at home or in your community, for example -- feel particularly applicable to you?

Hey there. Sorry you're in that spot!

We have a piece written expressly for people in the headspace you're in. Have you seen this yet?

You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You think You Are?

That's so lovely that you had that night and gave your mother that love and affection. I bet that meant a lot to her. I think it might be helpful to realize that when someone is making a decision about their own pregnancy, it's actually usually not a situation where it is often helpful to be asking ...

I appreciate you taking in what I said, it's all good. <3 The internet -- including our site! -- can be great, but with this kind of information, it can be tricky to understand it in broad strokes or generally. I've written most of our abortion info though, and I have also worked in clinics, so plea...

Before I say anything else, I do want to say that you can ask your mother about abortion, and potentially her abortion, if you like. Maybe not right now, because like you say, if it seems she's not been herself she might be tired, and neither you or I currently know how she might have felt about tha...

Of course. So, I think that it might help you to know that separate from all of the anti-trans hate going on right now, those of us who *are* trans or otherwise gender nonconforming don't tend to feel scared the way you're describing. Like, we're not afraid of ourselves, of who we actually are, if y...

Hi there. You know, I feel like there are more options here than you're seeing. For instance, can you tell me what her disappointment was with you? Was it just about having sex, or was it about not being honest with her about it? Maybe also about having sex in such a way that you were worrying about...

Hi there, lunasun. I'm glad you found us. One thing that you have identified that can make this all tricky is to be trying to figure out both what gender(s) of people you may or may not feel sexual interest in and then what your gender identity is. I would strongly suggest not linking those together...

Hey there, Redstones. I'm happy to answer your questions for you. It's absolutely always okay to ask questions about abortion here, and there really aren't wrong questions. So, you're asking about surgical abortion, just so we're clear. The tubing used in surgical abortion is clear, flexible tubing....

Hi there. This isn't at all how human reproduction works. Why don't you start by taking some time to read through this explanation of how it actually happens -- including what is needed, like a lack of these kinds of barriers: Human Reproduction: A Seafarer's Guide . If there's anything in there tha...

It might help to know that much of what sensation we feel inside the vagina is *because* of the clitoris, the internal portions of it, which are considerably larger than the parts many people think of as the whole thing, the hood and the glans. Past the first inch or two of the vaginal opening, the ...

Hey there, SunderedHeaven. Welcome to the boards. <3 So, above all else, I think it's always important to remember that much of what porn represents is what sexual material people, and most often cis men, will spend money on. It's an almost-entirely profit-driven industry. Why do you see what you're...

Pelvic floor PT? Does that sound familiar? My best advice would be to reach out to the PT they referred you to. More times than not, PT is all about showing you how to do things on your own, and much of the work of PT *will* be things you do for yourself. You can let them know you have a lot on your...

Yep! Why don't you try taking a standard dose and see if it helps at all?

Hey there.

Before anything else, when you saw that OB/GYN, did you ask them these same questions? If so, what did they suggest?

Unless it gets worse or continues for more than another week, I wouldn't sweat it. We won't always experience our bodies and the impacts of their processes the same way over a lifetime. Just because this hasn't been part of PMS for you before doesn't mean it isn't now. As well, breast heaviness or t...

Hey there, Makasbsuu. I'm going to throw a few more ideas at you to consider: 1) Have you considered not centering PIV sex as the core way you are sexual with a partner? In other words, that's just one kind of sex of so many, and other ways of being sexual can allow for a lot more adaptation than th...

Hey there, leider. I feel like something that's missing in the way you primarily have been thinking about sex with other people...is the other person. This idea that we can have any real sense of if we do or don't want to be sexual with someone else without knowing who the someone else is is a littl...

Hey, brooke: VPNs are what adults who troll or harass us most often use, so we need to ask you not to use that when you are posting here, please.

By all means, just like without gloves, lube is pretty essential for manual sex to feel good to folks most of the time. It might help with this to ask to have a conversation about it to see if you can't find some middle ground here. For sure, when you have a skin disorder flare up, the fluids from s...

Glad to hear it! Maybe this is a cue for you for a second conversation? You could ask to talk about what her concerns about porn are, for example. Of course, her being okay with you watching porn doesn't necessarily mean she won't be okay buying you a toy. Mind you, many parents aren't comfortable d...

Hey there, welcome to the boards. Chances are this isn't about your fertility/menstrual cycles, since those won't usually change our sensitivity like this. Instead, it's probably about how just sometimes, too much stimulation to one area, or too much of one kind, and sometimes any at all, feels like...

Hey, Halcyon, I really appreciate the way you replied to my ask. Thank you. I'm going to try and answer what you're asking for as best I can. I think a "how" that can be helpful is to figure that you are talking to an abuse survivor when you write. You don't strike me as an insensitive per...

Hey, elle. I'm around today if you'd like to talk. I'll be in until about 5 CST. I'll also be here tomorrow from about 10 - 5 CST.

Hi there, bollymory. I’m so sorry this is happening to you. There isn’t anything we can do about what’s on Google, unfortunately. But I can fill you in more on that and help you with this today if you’d like. Since this is about harassment based on posts people can see, though, let’s manage this for...