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- Wed Mar 22, 2023 9:45 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I am to scared to finger my self as a 15 year old female
- Replies: 4
- Views: 26274
Re: I am to scared to finger my self as a 15 year old female
Hi there, Newtothis, and welcome to the boards. I want to just start here by telling you a few things. 1) Very few people will experience a lot (and many won't experience any) of pleasure just by putting a finger into the vagina. The same goes for penises or toys. The vagina all by itself isn't very...
- Wed Mar 22, 2023 9:15 am
- Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
- Topic: i hate gendered language when it comes to bodies
- Replies: 2
- Views: 9128
Re: i hate gendered language when it comes to bodies
Same! And this is certainly welcome here: we were one of the first sources of this kind of information to make it inclusive and to try and get others to do the same, so we certainly get it!
- Tue Mar 21, 2023 8:45 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Heavy bleeding after losing virginity and Dr visit
- Replies: 2
- Views: 5811
Re: Heavy bleeding after losing virginity and Dr visit
I also want to check in to see if they verified that what you indeed saw were clots. I say that because menstrual flow doesn't usually clot: it just both isn't all blood and isn't that *kind* of blood. More often, when people think they are seeing clots, they are instead seeing flow mixed with thick...
- Mon Mar 20, 2023 12:44 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: being into bondage as a minor is mildly annoying
- Replies: 5
- Views: 6580
Re: being into bondage as a minor is mildly annoying
Hey there, aulikeevan05: Just a reminder per our user registration agreement and guidelines that: a) It's not okay to post personally identifying information about yourself or others here, like a full name or address. b) There aren't other ways here on Scarleteen besides the boards for users to conn...
- Thu Mar 16, 2023 1:46 pm
- Forum: Supporting Each Other
- Topic: Volunteering Death/Dying Support and Talk
- Replies: 18
- Views: 27998
Re: Volunteering Death/Dying Support and Talk
I'd love to hear what you think about the Gawande. I hope to read it soon, too!
- Thu Mar 16, 2023 1:42 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: struggles regarding hrt
- Replies: 36
- Views: 9341
Re: struggles regarding hrt
Sure thing. Using that term doesn't mean someone's info is outdated, just FYI. Some places do still use it, especially if they do or have served an older population, or they want to be sure to catch people looking for help or info who do only know the older terminology.
- Thu Mar 16, 2023 1:30 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: struggles regarding hrt
- Replies: 36
- Views: 9341
Re: struggles regarding hrt
I also just want to pop in to let you know that HRT, as a term, will often pull up hormone therapies for menopausal people, or just older information since it's not the most modern term. That "R" was always a problem, since the idea that hormones can be "replaced" or need to be (...
- Thu Mar 16, 2023 1:24 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 861415
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
Hey, Crow. I don't mean to leave you hanging! I just had a feeling that some of the missing each other might be because I'm not the best fit for you for any number of reasons. Sometimes that happens! So, I have a shoutout to other staff and our volunteers here to see if one of them can pick this up ...
- Wed Mar 15, 2023 11:29 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Sexually Frustrated ( Virgin ) Male
- Replies: 1
- Views: 92862
Re: Sexually Frustrated ( Virgin ) Male
Hey there. How about we pick this up in one of the two threads you've already started about this?
Those are:
• viewtopic.php?f=5&t=12417
• viewtopic.php?f=5&t=12486
Those are:
• viewtopic.php?f=5&t=12417
• viewtopic.php?f=5&t=12486
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 1:39 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 861415
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I'm so sorry if I'm not hitting the mark here, and I can understand why you're feeling the way you are. Here's one thing I can say with complete certainty: if you are having ANY kind of sex that you are not going into feeling a lot of desire to be doing whatever that is (and I don't mean a desire to...
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 1:29 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: i don't know how to masturbate
- Replies: 1
- Views: 6398
Re: i don't know how to masturbate
Hey there, welcome to the boards. So much of the time, pleasure is way more about what's in our heads than about what we are doing to or with our bodies. Just touching our bodies won't necessarily be pleasurable or even all that interesting unless our heads are really in the game. Even when we're ju...
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 12:42 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 861415
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I really appreciate you putting so much effort into trying to get clear on this with me. I hear you on the "too much." It definitely sounds like if and when that happens, it isn't something you can kind of bounce from easily, and like it is upsetting for you. That given, I would ignore som...
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 11:39 am
- Forum: Supporting Each Other
- Topic: Volunteering Death/Dying Support and Talk
- Replies: 18
- Views: 27998
Re: Volunteering Death/Dying Support and Talk
Thanks so much!
Which did you find? I'm curious!
Which did you find? I'm curious!
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 11:37 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 861415
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I have a little to say about #2 there, and then another question. I would actually posit that trying to create rigid boxes for what is and isn't sex is often a barrier for people trying to just find out what they want and like. If we didn't live in a world that made sex so loaded, including within r...
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 11:10 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 861415
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
Thanks again, this is helping me get a clearer picture. I'm sorry to keep asking you questions, but I have a couple more, if you don't mind: 1) What if you two simply are exploring any of this together -- physically in the moment, not intellectually ahead of time -- and you do find a given thing ove...
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 9:41 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 861415
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I appreciate that. This can all be really complicated even in the simplest iterations! So, when I talk about being sexual, what I'm talking about are ways your actively express and explore your sexual feelings, alone or with a partner. That can certainly include genital sex, but it both doesn't have...
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 8:27 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 861415
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
Thanks for this. So, it's interesting to me that I hear you saying you mostly have a desire for touch and more general pleasure but the only thing I'm seeing you say sex is for you is genital. Does your sexual life together not include other ways of being sexual, and touch and sensation of your whol...
- Mon Mar 13, 2023 1:49 pm
- Forum: Supporting Each Other
- Topic: Volunteering Death/Dying Support and Talk
- Replies: 18
- Views: 27998
Re: Volunteering Death/Dying Support and Talk
I also really want to thank you, thanks to you I learned that something like death doulas exist and then after some research I realised how profoundly important part this kind of care can play in people's life. And I'm a little ashamed that I never thought about all this before. Probably because th...
- Mon Mar 13, 2023 1:39 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 861415
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
Hey there, Crow. I wonder if you might fill us in on what "having sex" looks like for you? In other words, what does it involve? Do any of those activities, whatever they are, feel more or less pleasurable and fulfilling for you? Can I also ask what your motivation is when you choose to in...
- Mon Mar 13, 2023 11:35 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: (Male) How safe is oral sex?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 3616
Re: (Male) How safe is oral sex?
Using condoms feels different than not using condoms, and the idea we can put that on a more/less continuum of pleasure just doesn't really square with the diversity of our experiences. There certainly are some things that can make it so that it feels less pleasureable for most -- like not using lub...
- Mon Mar 13, 2023 11:31 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I really want to have sex but I don't know how. ( Male 25 )
- Replies: 7
- Views: 11112
Re: I really want to have sex but I don't know how. ( Male 25 )
Something a lot of people don't realize until or unless they have had a few sexual partners is this: EVERY new partner is a first time if we're doing it right. Let me explain: because all of our sexualities, our bodies, our lives, our vibes together and more are all so diverse and different, no one ...
- Wed Mar 08, 2023 2:34 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: a couple questions
- Replies: 10
- Views: 24722
Re: a couple questions
Sure thing.
Is there anything else I can help you with right now? If not, you're welcome to circle back here anytime, be it to talk more about any of this, or about something else.
Is there anything else I can help you with right now? If not, you're welcome to circle back here anytime, be it to talk more about any of this, or about something else.
- Wed Mar 08, 2023 2:10 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: a couple questions
- Replies: 10
- Views: 24722
Re: a couple questions
If it helps to know, I'm a 52-year old lifelong allosexual and I even work in sex and sexuality conversations. And yet, I by no means feel comfortable with the way anyone and everyone talks about sex and their own sexual lives.
- Wed Mar 08, 2023 1:14 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: a couple questions
- Replies: 10
- Views: 24722
Re: a couple questions
Glad to be of help! By no means does what you're asking about make you a hypocrite. Just because we're okay with sex or sexuality in one context doesn't mean we have to be in another, or we're somehow doing something wrong. Too, being okay with your own masturbation doesn't mean that you -- or anyon...
- Wed Mar 08, 2023 11:58 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: a couple questions
- Replies: 10
- Views: 24722
Re: a couple questions
Thanks for sharing all of this with me. This is helpful. You know, I don't think there is any hypocrisy here, because what you feel and want in your own masturbation has literally no impact on anyone else. It doesn't impact the asexual community, it doesn't impact anyone else who is asexual and/or r...