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- Sun Apr 02, 2023 1:44 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: struggles in fantasy
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2043
Re: struggles in fantasy
Happy to help.
- Sun Apr 02, 2023 1:41 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: struggles in fantasy
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2043
Re: struggles in fantasy
Hey there. So, you know, if you're not really feeling it when it comes to being sexual, it's fine not to be. In other words, you don't have to try and come up with things to turn you on to be sexual with yourself. You can instead simply let those things show up when they do, and then be sexual in re...
- Mon Mar 27, 2023 8:45 am
- Forum: Supporting Each Other
- Topic: Volunteering Death/Dying Support and Talk
- Replies: 18
- Views: 28570
Re: Volunteering Death/Dying Support and Talk
Sure. I am mostly not at work this week save with office work because I'm trying to get some rest, but if this is time-sensitive, I can schedule a time in the next few days. When is good for you?
- Mon Mar 27, 2023 5:42 am
- Forum: Supporting Each Other
- Topic: Volunteering Death/Dying Support and Talk
- Replies: 18
- Views: 28570
Re: Volunteering Death/Dying Support and Talk
Hey, whispermae. I’m happy to talk with you.
When you’re next here, fill me in and we can get started. <3
When you’re next here, fill me in and we can get started. <3
- Wed Mar 22, 2023 9:50 am
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: What are some of your favorite ways to get your body moving outdoors?
- Replies: 5
- Views: 5069
Re: What are some of your favorite ways to get your body moving outdoors?
I love this topic! Totally here for walks, especially with my dogs, who are very, very happy about the warming weather and all the new smells. I'll also start working on my back porch container garden as soon as I can! I geek out on this just like everything else, so I want to broadcast that some ba...
- Wed Mar 22, 2023 9:45 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I am to scared to finger my self as a 15 year old female
- Replies: 4
- Views: 29352
Re: I am to scared to finger my self as a 15 year old female
Hi there, Newtothis, and welcome to the boards. I want to just start here by telling you a few things. 1) Very few people will experience a lot (and many won't experience any) of pleasure just by putting a finger into the vagina. The same goes for penises or toys. The vagina all by itself isn't very...
- Wed Mar 22, 2023 9:15 am
- Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
- Topic: i hate gendered language when it comes to bodies
- Replies: 2
- Views: 10599
Re: i hate gendered language when it comes to bodies
Same! And this is certainly welcome here: we were one of the first sources of this kind of information to make it inclusive and to try and get others to do the same, so we certainly get it!
- Tue Mar 21, 2023 8:45 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Heavy bleeding after losing virginity and Dr visit
- Replies: 2
- Views: 5878
Re: Heavy bleeding after losing virginity and Dr visit
I also want to check in to see if they verified that what you indeed saw were clots. I say that because menstrual flow doesn't usually clot: it just both isn't all blood and isn't that *kind* of blood. More often, when people think they are seeing clots, they are instead seeing flow mixed with thick...
- Mon Mar 20, 2023 12:44 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: being into bondage as a minor is mildly annoying
- Replies: 5
- Views: 6698
Re: being into bondage as a minor is mildly annoying
Hey there, aulikeevan05: Just a reminder per our user registration agreement and guidelines that: a) It's not okay to post personally identifying information about yourself or others here, like a full name or address. b) There aren't other ways here on Scarleteen besides the boards for users to conn...
- Thu Mar 16, 2023 1:46 pm
- Forum: Supporting Each Other
- Topic: Volunteering Death/Dying Support and Talk
- Replies: 18
- Views: 28570
Re: Volunteering Death/Dying Support and Talk
I'd love to hear what you think about the Gawande. I hope to read it soon, too!
- Thu Mar 16, 2023 1:42 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: struggles regarding hrt
- Replies: 36
- Views: 9674
Re: struggles regarding hrt
Sure thing. Using that term doesn't mean someone's info is outdated, just FYI. Some places do still use it, especially if they do or have served an older population, or they want to be sure to catch people looking for help or info who do only know the older terminology.
- Thu Mar 16, 2023 1:30 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: struggles regarding hrt
- Replies: 36
- Views: 9674
Re: struggles regarding hrt
I also just want to pop in to let you know that HRT, as a term, will often pull up hormone therapies for menopausal people, or just older information since it's not the most modern term. That "R" was always a problem, since the idea that hormones can be "replaced" or need to be (...
- Thu Mar 16, 2023 1:24 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 862319
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
Hey, Crow. I don't mean to leave you hanging! I just had a feeling that some of the missing each other might be because I'm not the best fit for you for any number of reasons. Sometimes that happens! So, I have a shoutout to other staff and our volunteers here to see if one of them can pick this up ...
- Wed Mar 15, 2023 11:29 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Sexually Frustrated ( Virgin ) Male
- Replies: 1
- Views: 92931
Re: Sexually Frustrated ( Virgin ) Male
Hey there. How about we pick this up in one of the two threads you've already started about this?
Those are:
• viewtopic.php?f=5&t=12417
• viewtopic.php?f=5&t=12486
Those are:
• viewtopic.php?f=5&t=12417
• viewtopic.php?f=5&t=12486
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 1:39 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 862319
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I'm so sorry if I'm not hitting the mark here, and I can understand why you're feeling the way you are. Here's one thing I can say with complete certainty: if you are having ANY kind of sex that you are not going into feeling a lot of desire to be doing whatever that is (and I don't mean a desire to...
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 1:29 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: i don't know how to masturbate
- Replies: 1
- Views: 6459
Re: i don't know how to masturbate
Hey there, welcome to the boards. So much of the time, pleasure is way more about what's in our heads than about what we are doing to or with our bodies. Just touching our bodies won't necessarily be pleasurable or even all that interesting unless our heads are really in the game. Even when we're ju...
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 12:42 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 862319
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I really appreciate you putting so much effort into trying to get clear on this with me. I hear you on the "too much." It definitely sounds like if and when that happens, it isn't something you can kind of bounce from easily, and like it is upsetting for you. That given, I would ignore som...
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 11:39 am
- Forum: Supporting Each Other
- Topic: Volunteering Death/Dying Support and Talk
- Replies: 18
- Views: 28570
Re: Volunteering Death/Dying Support and Talk
Thanks so much!
Which did you find? I'm curious!
Which did you find? I'm curious!
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 11:37 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 862319
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I have a little to say about #2 there, and then another question. I would actually posit that trying to create rigid boxes for what is and isn't sex is often a barrier for people trying to just find out what they want and like. If we didn't live in a world that made sex so loaded, including within r...
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 11:10 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 862319
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
Thanks again, this is helping me get a clearer picture. I'm sorry to keep asking you questions, but I have a couple more, if you don't mind: 1) What if you two simply are exploring any of this together -- physically in the moment, not intellectually ahead of time -- and you do find a given thing ove...
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 9:41 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 862319
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I appreciate that. This can all be really complicated even in the simplest iterations! So, when I talk about being sexual, what I'm talking about are ways your actively express and explore your sexual feelings, alone or with a partner. That can certainly include genital sex, but it both doesn't have...
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 8:27 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 862319
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
Thanks for this. So, it's interesting to me that I hear you saying you mostly have a desire for touch and more general pleasure but the only thing I'm seeing you say sex is for you is genital. Does your sexual life together not include other ways of being sexual, and touch and sensation of your whol...
- Mon Mar 13, 2023 1:49 pm
- Forum: Supporting Each Other
- Topic: Volunteering Death/Dying Support and Talk
- Replies: 18
- Views: 28570
Re: Volunteering Death/Dying Support and Talk
I also really want to thank you, thanks to you I learned that something like death doulas exist and then after some research I realised how profoundly important part this kind of care can play in people's life. And I'm a little ashamed that I never thought about all this before. Probably because th...
- Mon Mar 13, 2023 1:39 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 862319
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
Hey there, Crow. I wonder if you might fill us in on what "having sex" looks like for you? In other words, what does it involve? Do any of those activities, whatever they are, feel more or less pleasurable and fulfilling for you? Can I also ask what your motivation is when you choose to in...
- Mon Mar 13, 2023 11:35 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: (Male) How safe is oral sex?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 3695
Re: (Male) How safe is oral sex?
Using condoms feels different than not using condoms, and the idea we can put that on a more/less continuum of pleasure just doesn't really square with the diversity of our experiences. There certainly are some things that can make it so that it feels less pleasureable for most -- like not using lub...