Something a lot of people don't realize until or unless they have had a few sexual partners is this: EVERY new partner is a first time if we're doing it right. Let me explain: because all of our sexualities, our bodies, our lives, our vibes together and more are all so diverse and different, no one ...

Sure thing.

Is there anything else I can help you with right now? If not, you're welcome to circle back here anytime, be it to talk more about any of this, or about something else.

If it helps to know, I'm a 52-year old lifelong allosexual and I even work in sex and sexuality conversations. And yet, I by no means feel comfortable with the way anyone and everyone talks about sex and their own sexual lives.

Glad to be of help! By no means does what you're asking about make you a hypocrite. Just because we're okay with sex or sexuality in one context doesn't mean we have to be in another, or we're somehow doing something wrong. Too, being okay with your own masturbation doesn't mean that you -- or anyon...

Thanks for sharing all of this with me. This is helpful. You know, I don't think there is any hypocrisy here, because what you feel and want in your own masturbation has literally no impact on anyone else. It doesn't impact the asexual community, it doesn't impact anyone else who is asexual and/or r...

Well, since he can't himself get pregnant, I feel like being asked questions or reassuring a partner is the least of the strain involved in a couple where someone CAN get pregnant, you know? You didn't say anything about your experience of the sex in this relationship. Separate from what your boyfri...

Hi there, and welcome to the site and the boards! I'd like to start by giving you some links to look at with some of the information you're asking for. I'm happy to fill in any gaps the articles leave you with. Here are two anatomy pieces that can answer some of your questions about the clitoris: • ...

I'm not sure what you mean by saying you "missed" the first and second days of your period. Do you just mean your period started later than your friend's did? If so, understand that staying in sync with periods with someone else over a long period of time is very unlikely. So, thinking som...

Because the material they are made of, and the friction involved with sexual activity when they're being used, is such that a small hole would almost instantly into a tear. Too, a small hole is something that's usually only going to happen if something punctures the condom, like teeth or say, someth...

Hey there. It's always so hard to compare how things feel physically (or emotionally, for that matter!) because we really are all so different. Just because we have the same parts doesn't mean we will experience them the same, you know? But by all means, our genitals are particularly sensitive parts...

You're welcome to keep talking here about any part of this you like. <3 I'm really sorry that you haven't been able to visit with your grandmother. If you want an alternative, you might try asking the hospice/skilled nursing facility if they can help facilitate a video call? I'm afraid that this are...

Hi there. I'm glad you found us. I'm sorry you have felt so unable to tell anyone else this until now. It is common for kids to explore their bodies like this. It is also unfortunately common for kids not to have gotten any or enough teaching from adults about what is and isn't okay with this (like ...

Hi there. Really, the idea that there's going to be some kind of tiny hole in a condom no one can see isn't realistic. In reality, when a condom gets snagged somehow during wear, it's quite obvious and absolutely something you can see, as any fluid in the condom will be dripping out. There's no need...

I'm so sorry it took me so long to circle back to this for you! These are really great questions. I've recently seen two people when they were dying i (in a long-term care hospital when visiting my grandmother) and it left me thinking quite a lot. I can't especially get over the fact how the nurses ...

You're welcome, I'm glad they felt good to you. Starting with the latter bit, I'd trust your own instincts with this. I do think that more times than not, it's both generally helpful and just a good idea to meet a partner's other ongoing or regular partners. I do think it often helps with envy or je...

Hey there, jojomo. I hope it's alright if I step in where you and Sofi left off. I do want to first say that 23 is a pretty common age for people to find us and use this resource. I'm telling you that, because in my experience, in the kind of situation you're in, if you feel like you should know how...

I appreciate that. We're good.

What wonderful and helpful additions, likikoi!

How late? I do actually expect folks who make appointments with me to keep them at that time, as my workdays have to have a lot packed into them as our director.

Sure thing. Talk soon.

Sure thing. Let’s do 2:30 EST?

Absolutely! No, yes, maybe but only this way — anything and everything we might say to claim what we want and don’t and to only engage in sex we really want the way we really want it? This is all sexual liberation and empowerment.

I’m available if you want to talk through any more of this, any time.

Most weeks, I could make time any time between 12 PM CST and 4 PM CST, Sunday - Thursday.

Hi there. I'm happy to schedule a time with you. Fill me in on what days and times work best?

Not a problem at all! Consider it ever-open. After all, it's not like we're going to stop dying.

I love these questions, they're so rich! Thanks for asking them. Give me a bit to finish some other things with deadlines I need to today, and mull some of this over a little, and I'll circle back.