Differences in sensitivity not only from one side to another, but also amidst each side is also normal. By all means, if you have a vulva, GYN preventative care is something you can start doing anytime. It is good for you, after all. So, whenever you want to start, you also absolutely can check in w...

I would say symmetrical labia minora are more the exception than the rule. I am not sure where you are getting your ideas about what vulvas look like, but given the way that part of the body develops, both in utero and after, having them be perfectly symmetrical would be very unusual. Outside that, ...

I asked about other partners becuase you said you had gotten them off, which I presumed meant via some kind of sexual activity? Am I missing something? If not, do I have it right you engaged in some kind if sex with them, too, even though you did not feel desire or arousal with them? And when you sa...

I do not know what brand and kind of pill you are using to know if all your active pills are the same. If it is a monophasic pill, they are, but not if it is a biphasic or triphasic pill. It is most common, once someone has used the pill for a while (remember, this is your first pack, so it is still...

(That sounds way more lecture-y than I intended, so sorry if it comes off that way!)

Can I also ask how far he is from this goal? If this is not likely something he will even start training for anytime soon, I would consider that when voicing your concerns. After all, if this is not something that literally concerns you anytime soon or could soon, voicing intense, immediate concerns...

Too, I hear you saying you just generally do not feel aroused by or with this person. And that really is ground zero for enjoying yourself with someone. And enjoying yourself is most often ground zero for reaching orgasm. Can I ask, with this partner and previous partners, if you have not felt sexua...

One last thing!

This is an organization in your area, with a hotline, no less, you could call or go to for help, where I can assure you you will get help: http://www.hopehouse.net/

(I'd also add that another first step you can take is to stop talking to him yourself and enabling the control dynamics -- like either of you saying who you can or cannot talk to, at all, something that should not be happening in any healthy relationship like that, ever. In a healthy relationship, i...

So, if you went to one or both of your parents or guardians and told them this person was physically and emotionally abusing you, as well as trying to sexually blackmail you, can I ask what you think would happen? Would they do nothing, say they didn't care, or....? Your friends you barely talk to: ...

As was said in your other post, I feel separating those issues is important. They are both just too big to deal with at the same time in these conversations. However, being pregnant or not -- have you yet taken that test so this is not a hanging maybe? -- really doesn't change any of this. pregnant ...

Those are certainly places I can start with, and I'm glad to help you with this as I can. For one, if you have a hard time verbalizing your no, have you said that to partners before they ever even become partners, and asked to brainstorm together about other ways you can express a no that is both un...

No, these are good cues, thanks! Will add to my list for you some tomorrow!

I think it is really important to recognize that this was not something that sounded like your choice. This was, instead, you having to do what you did because you are a minor whose choices are limited by the people whose rights effectively trump yours, people who you also have to live with, so mana...

Hey there, carryballoons. Sorry to hear you are feeling so frustrated. Can you give me a bigger picture, if there is one, of your sexual history, including with masturbation? Has this been your only sexual partner, for any kind of sex, not just intercourse? If not, has it been similar with others? W...

In this post, Audrey, you are describing verbal, physical and emotional abuse from him, as well as some emotional abuse from you. You are also describing self-harm, and now sexual blackmail and coercion coming from him. This is serious danger and harm that will only ever get worse. Abuse always esca...

Just FYI, it is fine to talk about sex toys here, including explicitly. We just ask people, especially older adults who don't have the same limitations, to bear in mind that most of our users are minors who often do not have access to toys or ways to purchase them.

I would suggest you call into your prescribing physician about this. Likely, using EC here or not is just going to be about your personal preference - one missed pill is generally thought to put someone in typical use effectiveness, not perfect use, but that is the level of protection (typical, whic...

While I am not on board with suggesting what this may be like that due to all the factors here, I agree a second opinion from another GYN, and ideally one who specializes in pain issues, would be your best next step. There also is certainly no harm in researching pain conditions like the above to se...

You're welcome. :) The pill provides the same level of protection during the placebo week as at other times, so long as you start your next pack on time. Again, for the first few cycles of pills, it is more common to have side effects, like breakthrough bleeding, than later. Because some did not get...

If you experienced pain, that will likely gave been for some reason. In other words, chances are you were hurting yourself. My best advice, moving forward, is if, when trying a certain sexual activity, it feels painful, is not to keep trying it again and again that time. Instead, I would suggest try...

Since you are still so new to your pill, and I do not hear you talking about using any lubricant here, AND you are due fir your placebo week soon, what this most likely is is either a side effect of your pill, you getting used to it, and/or bleeding due to abrasion of the vaginal opening or canal. (...

Any one person's experiences are merely anecdotal, but if you feel like it would help you to hear from others who are bisexual per our individual experiences with some of the things you are asking about, I would be happy to share some of my own experience with you as someone who has identified that ...

In terms of books, some good places for you to start might be with: - "The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability," by Cory Silverberg, Fran Odette and Miriam Kaufman - "Sex, Sexuality and the Autism Spectrum," by Wendy Lawson - "The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You," by S....

The thing with that is that that is highly individual, rather than general, and depends on things like the time in history. Where someone is living, what their general community is like, what their individual community and support is like, etc. Even when you do study all of this, I do not think anyt...