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- Mon Sep 01, 2014 5:05 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Tired of Being Bored
- Replies: 12
- Views: 6133
Re: Tired of Being Bored
Thanks for being so candid. :) So, don't mean to do reruns here, but can we circle back, in light of all this discussion, and revisit if you DO actually want a sexual relationship with this person? Not if you want to want to - which, about anything, is usually something that describes feeling like o...
- Mon Sep 01, 2014 4:55 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Coming to terms with sexuality -- beyond sexual orientation
- Replies: 13
- Views: 5955
Re: Coming to terms with sexuality -- beyond sexual orientat
Got tied up with other things today, sorry about that! On my list for first thing tomorrow!
- Mon Sep 01, 2014 3:39 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Request for Closet Experiences/Resources
- Replies: 6
- Views: 3746
Re: Request for Closet Experiences/Resources
Glad to hear you are looking to care for yourself better around this. :) Are print books something you can access? And, if you have looked through all our content on the site about bisexuality as well as orientation, can you fill me in on what gaps you would like to have better filled from those add...
- Mon Sep 01, 2014 3:36 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Questions about Manual Sex and Pregnancy
- Replies: 28
- Views: 12133
Re: Questions about Manual Sex and Pregnancy
Hey, we live, we learn. :) I would be happy to talk with you about that. Can you fill me in more on where you think your partner or partners are not doing it well, or where you feel you aren't yourself? In other words, what gaps are you looking to fill in with them, or what parts of consenting do yo...
- Mon Sep 01, 2014 1:38 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: HS, girls and relationships, oh my!
- Replies: 10
- Views: 6468
Re: HS, girls and relationships, oh my!
Happy to help! :) Might also help to remind yourself that from all I can gather just from your posts and interactions here so far? You're pretty awesome. And I imagine that you're someone who is probably pretty awesome to be with in any relationship, so it's not like someone hanging out with you or ...
- Mon Sep 01, 2014 1:31 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Lots of breakthrough bleeding on pill. still effective?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 2701
Re: Lots of breakthrough bleeding on pill. still effective?
Have you called into your prescribing GYN and taken the first step by asking them about this, as they are the ones with your health history to reference? FYI, breakthrough bleeding isn't what it sounds like you're assuming: that it must be happening because there are not "enough" hormones....
- Mon Sep 01, 2014 1:26 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Tired of Being Bored
- Replies: 12
- Views: 6133
Re: Tired of Being Bored
Am I also getting it right, by the way, that you are saying that where things changed per feeling connected was when you understood what was really going on, and that those initial feelings of connection you thought you were feeling were actually NOT connection at all, but you being pressured and ma...
- Mon Sep 01, 2014 1:23 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Tired of Being Bored
- Replies: 12
- Views: 6133
Re: Tired of Being Bored
Okay, so it sounds like perhaps we know at least something bound to be an issue, which is having your whole sexuality tied up in someone else, rather than having a sexuality that also is absolutely your own, and not tied up with that other person or relationship. That doesn't have to mean watching p...
- Mon Sep 01, 2014 11:24 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Questions about Manual Sex and Pregnancy
- Replies: 28
- Views: 12133
Re: Questions about Manual Sex and Pregnancy
Straightening underwear and shorts probably does not involve sticking your fingers inside your vagina or rubbing your vaginal opening, right? If not, what you're describing, even if there WERE fresh ejaculate in your hands, doesn't include the kind of direct contact needed for pregnancy to even be a...
- Mon Sep 01, 2014 9:58 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Tired of Being Bored
- Replies: 12
- Views: 6133
Re: Tired of Being Bored
Can I check in with you about how you are feeling per your sexuality that has nothing to do with your partner? In other words, things like your own masturbation, your feelings about your sexuality as not related to your partner (or perhaps even any partners), and your own feelings of desire and arou...
- Sun Aug 31, 2014 4:22 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: What are...
- Replies: 11
- Views: 7769
Re: What are...
Btw, for any fellow sexuality geeks in the house, while I am normally very bored with most sexuality blogs, this one always has things I did not know about, or know details of. It is some seriously delicious deep geekery. :) Http://www.notchesblog.com (It is not in any way porny, btw, for those who ...
- Sun Aug 31, 2014 3:38 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: HS, girls and relationships, oh my!
- Replies: 10
- Views: 6468
Re: HS, girls and relationships, oh my!
I think that's perfect. I feel like relationships, and what they turn into, really have much more to do with plain old timing, and then what ends up feeling like the right kind of relationship for people as they get to know each other. What we want and are looking for matters, too, but really, we're...
- Sun Aug 31, 2014 2:24 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Coming to terms with sexuality -- beyond sexual orientation
- Replies: 13
- Views: 5955
Re: Coming to terms with sexuality -- beyond sexual orientat
You got it! I'll have a list for you sometime tomorrow. ![Smile :)](./images/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif)
Any preference when it comes to online vs. print?
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Any preference when it comes to online vs. print?
- Sun Aug 31, 2014 1:49 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Period and pregnancy
- Replies: 6
- Views: 4095
Re: Period and pregnancy
When people aren't expecting a period, and are only seeing light spotting right after, or a couple days after, intercourse, what that usually is is bleeding due to vaginal abrasions, which people get sometimes when they are having intercourse too roughly or hastily, without enough arousal, or withou...
- Sun Aug 31, 2014 11:44 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Tired of Being Bored
- Replies: 12
- Views: 6133
Re: Tired of Being Bored
I wonder, too, if it might help to revisit what KIND of relationship you want with him. After all, there are a lot of ways of spending - or aiming to spend -- a lifetime with someone. To have that with each other, our relationship doesn't have to be a sexual one. It can be, but that's just one of ma...
- Sun Aug 31, 2014 11:35 am
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: Breast Growth Question!
- Replies: 3
- Views: 3970
Re: Breast Growth Question!
As well, know the breast changes -- both visible and not -- occur through all of life. There will tend to be far more of them during adolescence, but it's not like your breasts (or any other part of your body for that matter, though with breasts there tends to be more constant change than with some ...
- Sun Aug 31, 2014 11:34 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Coming to terms with sexuality -- beyond sexual orientation
- Replies: 13
- Views: 5955
Re: Coming to terms with sexuality -- beyond sexual orientat
Well, we're certainly happy to talk to you about it, but if you otherwise have a good relationship with your therapist, I think that would also be a good person to talk to. I do not think it's creepy to bring up topics like the ones you have here with a therapist. They're pretty core for most people...
- Sun Aug 31, 2014 10:08 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Coming to terms with sexuality -- beyond sexual orientation
- Replies: 13
- Views: 5955
Re: Coming to terms with sexuality -- beyond sexual orientat
You are so welcome! I'm thinking the best place to start might be to see if you can't be more clear -- with yourself, in our communication -- about what makes you uncomfortable about having a sexuality. In other words, why do you feel like having that part of who you are feels less comfortable than ...
- Sun Aug 31, 2014 9:52 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: HS, girls and relationships, oh my!
- Replies: 10
- Views: 6468
Re: HS, girls and relationships, oh my!
I'd also be sure that whatever you are finding has been working for you when it comes to socializing with other guys? You bring those same things to socializing with women. Really, there aren't different skills when it comes to engaging with people of any given gender based only ON gender. For sure,...
- Thu Aug 28, 2014 1:54 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Pain instead of orgasim
- Replies: 7
- Views: 4265
Re: Pain instead of orgasim
Is this your prescribing doctor for those meds? If so, it IS within their license and education to address possible sexual side effects of your meds or the conditions they are treating you for, as it is with any other side effects. Given your other answers - especially since they make clear arousal ...
- Thu Aug 28, 2014 1:44 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Trouble inserting tampons
- Replies: 4
- Views: 3570
Re: Trouble inserting tampons
Before anything else, has using a lubricant and doing so ething to relax your body first - like deep breathing or a hot bath, for example - made any difference with this, be it tampon use or masturbation? If we are talking about an issue with the hymen, that tissue is normally super-stretchy, so jus...
- Thu Aug 28, 2014 12:24 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Copper iud - weird bleeding?
- Replies: 7
- Views: 4604
Re: Copper iud - weird bleeding?
I am sorry to hear that, that screening really is standard practice no matter someone's sexual history. :( Sounds like, too, this clinic then probably did not make clear that STI screenings are an essential part of preventative care for anyone sexually active or who has been, regardless of whether o...
- Thu Aug 28, 2014 12:20 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Pain instead of orgasim
- Replies: 7
- Views: 4265
Re: Pain instead of orgasim
This may well be something where we really cannot help, alas, but let me check in about a few things just in case. - Do you have any other issues with pain in general, or would you say you have a very low pain threshold? - When you are trying all of these things, do you feel a string ohysical and em...
- Thu Aug 28, 2014 11:29 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Copper iud - weird bleeding?
- Replies: 7
- Views: 4604
Re: Copper iud - weird bleeding?
Yes. Safer sex reduces infection risks, it does not eliminate them, alas. The risk is much lower with most infections, but there still always is one. But it is standard practice for providers to do an STI screening before an IUD insertion because of the big risks IUDs can pose if someone has an infe...
- Thu Aug 28, 2014 11:00 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Copper iud - weird bleeding?
- Replies: 7
- Views: 4604
Re: Copper iud - weird bleeding?
Unexplained bleeding, at any time, is one of the most common side effects of IUDs. This may well only be that. But, for sure, your healthcare provider is the person to check in with to be sure, especially if you worry you may have PID, or - because you express that concern - are not current with you...