You know, the thing is, condoms are tested when they are manufactured before you even get them, and more strenuously than anything someone could do at home. Because you did things that would not happen to a condom via intercourse, this is a tricky question to answer factually. But what we can say is...

I also wonder if anyone wants to pitch in and talk about the heteronormativity that is part and parcel with all of this, since way more times than not, this is a a straight-people-thing rather than something we see much of in queer culture or relationships. (In fact, there are still strong messages ...

This is great input, you guys. That said, Zeitvogel, I doubt that is about the idea of being "a good person." Especially since for a lot of women, having sex at all -- especially outside marriage -- is very clearly often presented as not being "a good girl," but quite the opposit...

My once-roomie of many years ago just set the new 40-44 age group world record in the Gay Games, for the Minnesota's men's 4 X 50M freestyle relay. I am beaming with pride. (In so many ways!)

It is nearly guaranteed that sometime in your life you WILL have sexual problems or conflicts of some kind. Everyone does at least sometime.

So, I always vote against not making something going just fine a problem or conflict. It's great when it's not!

I'm hearing you describe something that sounds like so far it's been very good for you and your boyfriend. Addictions -- despite really being about substances in the first place -- are something that very much feels out of control for someone because it is: addiction is something where someone is de...

Whether it was at school at home, or somewhere else, when did you first start getting it? I'm a big fan of data and sentiments like this -- http://ht.ly/A7IXc (And it is so odd to me to see backlash around this, because when I was young in the Chicago area, we all got sex ed -- however rudimentary i...

I think the "man" in there is pretty much a giveaway, but I get how if you hear it a lot -- or maybe you don't have a masculinity it is being directed at -- it might seem missable. But really, that's what it is, a push to say "The way I want you to behave is how I define being a man, ...

Pregnancy isn't magic. In fact, at this point, we have pretty much all the science to make clear EXACTLY what it requires and involves, and, as it turns out, magic or starry miracles aren't any part of it. :) Here's what is, if you don't have the facts to know how it happens in reality, and feel the...

I can get us started here, with a gif I can probably watch about nine million times in a row and never stop LMAO at, thanks to Redskies partner one day when we were having a rough one around here: http://www.reactiongifs.com/nope-badger/

We get a lot of people coming in here in a panic, or struggling with anxiety and winding up getting mighty stuck in their obsessions. Distraction isn't usually the big answer when it comes to getting past that, but what it IS great for is as a temporary coping technique to help calm oneself down, wh...

Nope, it really doesn't. You just want to be sure a test is well within its expiration date and that you follow the directions in taking it.

Have you yet been able to talk to your Mom so you could get some extra support?

It really sounds to me like you are too many people removed from the situation to do much here. It also sounds like at least F knows where to find the resources and help meant for people either in abuse or wanting help with it, so if that is something she wanted to take actions with, she would, no? ...

It appears CraftyKid is crafty indeed! Think she's the only one who pulled the wool over all of our eyes completely so far.

Best present (and no contest): Years ago, I had an ex -- who is now one of my very best friends -- I was initially seeing long distance, and with a time zone difference, so late-night calls were a common occurrence. One night, my phone rang about midnight when I was mostly asleep (I'm a serious earl...

Glad to be of help. Please know that whatever choice or choices you make with this pregnancy, if you need an ear or some support, we're happy to be there for you.

I think one of the reasons that Harold and Maude was my favorite movie of ever from a pretty early age is because of the relationship that is at the core of it. In a word, it's a non-model, something that acknowledges the incredible depth of connection that can happen even in a short-time interactio...

Oh, also! because you're in NY, this may be of interest to you: http://www.doulaproject.org/ Doulas are so fantastic, and especially when you're so young, having an educated and dedicated advocate like that, for both the physical and emotional parts of your pregnancy, may come in very, very handy. :)

Here's the cool part: even if the situation WERE different, it's not like your boyfriend could not choose to be the person who you co-parent with. :) Again, sounds like it's quite clear he also is the biological parent, but as you know all too well, who the actual parent is -- who actually shows up ...

We are supportive of any of the choices someone can make with an unplanned pregnancy here, including choosing to stay pregnant and parent. I really cannot say "no way," because ultimately, that is outside my pay grade. Only paternity tests can say for sure, but again, the alternative sound...

Healthcare providers can date fetuses with quite a lot of accuracy, because their size really does not vary much at all from fetus to fetus when it comes to how big a fetus is in utero. So, given that information from your doctor and the timing of your period, it seems very clear this was about the ...

But you do not need to enjoy food to live. In other words. Really enjoying food is about pleasure - just like sex is about pleasure, though it is also about other things - not survival. We do not have to enjoy food to survive, we just need to eat it.

So far as I know, the only data we really have is about how long inside the testes or the vagina, which is really the only data that would have any relevance anyway, beyond data about semen and sperm in lab conditions for IVF. IOW, semen, and thus, sperm cells, on any of those other surfaces ha e no...

By the by, just so you know, it is very common for people to report their expectations with sex where their genitals were entered - be that the vagina or anus - were nothing close to met. A lot of people seem to have pretty unrealistic expectations in this department, especially if they expect it to...

Well, not every sexual activity or sexual experience is pleasurable for people, or is all the time. I would disagree that just because we do something sexual it "should" feel good. Sometimes it will and sometimes it won't, and when it doesn't that does not mean something was wrong with som...