Well, not every sexual activity or sexual experience is pleasurable for people, or is all the time. I would disagree that just because we do something sexual it "should" feel good. Sometimes it will and sometimes it won't, and when it doesn't that does not mean something was wrong with som...

When people say they "didn't feel anything," that is rarely what they mean. In other words, they usually do not mean that they literally could not feel their own bodies having contact with someone else or being touched. Do you in fact mean you literally had no sensation, where you could no...

I think it's difficult to navigate sexuality as girls and women in the world today. Every dimension of our sexual selves is impacted by our current world and by history, both of which have had an awful lot to say about it, and usually pretty loudly. Shame, all sorts of expectations, beauty standard...

Okay, CraftyKid, I'm voting on the bubble-blowing.

...and other related phrases. Not sure what it is people don't seem to get about how okay it isn't to try and coerce people to behave in ways they want by suggesting when they don't behave that way, they are not conforming to their own gender (or to the ideas about gender the person saying things li...

Cultures and communities almost always have a set of ideas about gender that are common within them. But often enough, we or others will have our own ideas about something that has to do with gender that may be radically different than the ideas of our culture or community, usually based in our own ...

New advice column up today: gorg.mel asks: How do I text my significant other without coming off as a thot or a whore? Heather Corinna replies: The idea that women who sexually express themselves in any number of ways -- like something as simple as expressing sexual desires to a partner through wor...

"Addiction" is a very problematic framework for something like sex. Let's see if we can't unpack some of this before we dig in: What if you were asking this about something else you really liked, like say, food. Would you be concerned in the same ways if you always enjoyed eating, thought ...

For more information on CPCs in general, should anyone want it, here's a starting place here on the site: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/abuse ... m_not_help

Have you tried them -- inside condoms -- to see if any of these ideas are actually true in practice?

Also, the FC getting lost inside -- or even sliding inside -- the vagina is highly unlikely, given the size of the external ring.

On the front page poll/graffiti wall today, we're asking what you would or do need to feel comfortable talking to parents or guardians about sex. We'd love to read what you have to say!

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(Kaizen, you just made my whole day! I'm so touched and tickled someone enjoys my metaphors so much. )

You're asking for a statistic no one has, mostly because to give the answer to what you're asking, everyone's fertility cycles would have to be the same and they're not. The relevant data we do have to work with is that in one year of unprotected intercourse -- and since direct penis-to-vulva contac...

It is going to be awesome!

When do you start?

Missed that other question in there while I was replying. Like I said with that initial question, yep. Getting a UTI would be the big one, and because of where the urinary opening is on the vulva, it can be exposed to a lot of bacteria with something like intercourse, where there is a ton of direct ...

Thanks for making me more clear, Ruth.

That all make sense now, AvocadoLime?

I was also to add that my experience of arts school was that it was a place mainly populated by people who did not feel like they fit elsewhere. I recall calling it "misfit paradise." :) In other words, mist likely, many of the students there will have had the same experiences you did in h...

Bacteria getting into the urinary tract, and the body being unable to fight it off, basically. UTIs are very common for people with vulvas, and often especially so when someone is new to being sexually active per activities that involve the vulva. But they are important to get treated, not just beca...

I personally find it helpful when I am feeling stuck with something like this to remind myself that there is undoubtedly at least one person -- and probably way more -- who has something about their body that looks exactly like mine but that they feel good about. That helps remind me that all of thi...

Thanks, acb! On the old boards, we'd done gender instead, but this seemed a bit more useful, and also like a term more people were likely to understand clearly.

Welcome to the boards! :) How about we start with a little education about breasts? The sag, or "slope" of breasts isn't determined by size. It also usually has little to do with gravity, and a lot more to do with genetics than anything else. Breasts of all sizes can, and often do, sag , p...

Snorkmaiden: you know about microbicide research, yes?

If not, have a peek: http://www.who.int/hiv/topics/microbici ... icides/en/

We're getting there!

(I love the idea of a uterus that can be a loaner!)

Those kinds of transitions are so hard and so bittersweet. :( You know, though, in my experience as someone who has been around for bunch of decades now, so often relationships really don't "end." I mean, we certainly can end them, and if one person in them wants them to be All Over at a g...

If you could have a means of contraception, safer sex, or both, that don't (yet!) exist, what would they be? I'd really have always just liked a simple on/off switch for my uterus, when it comes to babymaking, myself. You want the babies, you turn it on. You don't, you shut it off, without having an...

One of our new users just mentioned feeling isolated because she's a teenager who's poly, so thought it might be nice in the newbie area to have a thread for folks to talk about the wide array of relationship models there are out there, and how diverse our choices can be, whatever our age. So, from ...