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by Heather
Tue Aug 05, 2014 10:23 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: YAY!
Replies: 20
Views: 20454

Re: YAY!

This is an awesome yay! (And am very glad you didn't injure yourself in the process!)
by Heather
Tue Aug 05, 2014 10:16 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Getting good at apologies
Replies: 1
Views: 2709

Getting good at apologies

This showed up today at the blog for one of my big-time favorite apps, Unstuck: In the best of times, it’s hard to admit you’re wrong. There’s nothing like digging into a piece of humble pie to remind you that — even if you’re a hot-shot, a genuine smarty-pants, or the nicest of nice guys — you stil...
by Heather
Tue Aug 05, 2014 9:10 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: New user now, but an old-timer at our old boards?
Replies: 64
Views: 189236

Re: New user now, but an old-timer at our old boards?

Okay, I think I have all of you who have posted here moved from the newly registered group. If I missed anyone, just give a shout! :)
by Heather
Mon Aug 04, 2014 4:24 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Two truths and a lie
Replies: 40
Views: 22960

Re: Two truths and a lie

Bah, you got me!
by Heather
Mon Aug 04, 2014 4:23 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Feel like my 'gut' is broken after rape
Replies: 10
Views: 5707

Re: Feel like my 'gut' is broken after rape

Okay. So, an idea I would put out as a starting place per some of this, something I think might help and you can do with therapy or not, is to first just sit down, for a good while, and see if you can't start writing down an idea, or list, of what you really want right now. Not in the far future, bu...
by Heather
Mon Aug 04, 2014 2:15 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Feel like my 'gut' is broken after rape
Replies: 10
Views: 5707

Re: Feel like my 'gut' is broken after rape

Sorry for more with the questions! Per your last paragraph, do you feel like you can or cannot yet emotionally separate "a partner," and "an abusive partner?" In other words, while you likely can do that logically, do you feel like your feelings grok that a partner does not = abu...
by Heather
Mon Aug 04, 2014 2:12 pm
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: New Board Questions or Issues
Replies: 13
Views: 12170

Re: New Board Questions or Issues

Which one, samaraj?
by Heather
Mon Aug 04, 2014 10:24 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: What are...
Replies: 11
Views: 7762

What are...

...three websites you absolutely visit every day (or awfully close to that often)? Alas, because being online is almost entirely about work for me, and almost always has been mostly about that, my own list is work-related: for me it's our website, and then our Facebook and Twitter. However, lately, ...
by Heather
Mon Aug 04, 2014 10:14 am
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: Posting a new topic in abuse and assault?
Replies: 4
Views: 4766

Re: Posting a new topic in abuse and assault?

No worries: everything is new on this system, so we're likely all going to feel a bit confused and disoriented for a little while. :)
by Heather
Mon Aug 04, 2014 9:55 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Feel like my 'gut' is broken after rape
Replies: 10
Views: 5707

Re: Feel like my 'gut' is broken after rape

Thanks for filling me in so candidly. Can I ask if you feel like you have given yourself time to simply feel disinterested in sexual relationships with others without trying to "force" feelings of interest, and with acknowledgements to yourself that it is absolutely okay -- rather than una...
by Heather
Mon Aug 04, 2014 9:33 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Two truths and a lie
Replies: 40
Views: 22960

Two truths and a lie

Just a little icebreaker for those in the newbie group (and anyone else)! Here's how this works: think of two facts (truths) about yourself, and one lie (something that isn't true about you or your life). Post them both here. When you reply, take a guess about which of the previous posters things we...
by Heather
Mon Aug 04, 2014 9:20 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Feel like my 'gut' is broken after rape
Replies: 10
Views: 5707

Re: Feel like my 'gut' is broken after rape

I am so sorry you experienced that, AvocadoLime. I am very glad, though, you felt able to bring this here. Can you fill me in on what you have, so far, done for yourself for your healing since this relationship? That way I can have a better idea of what to suggest, and also not suggest things you ha...
by Heather
Mon Aug 04, 2014 6:51 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: New user now, but an old-timer at our old boards?
Replies: 64
Views: 189236

Re: New user now, but an old-timer at our old boards?

Okay, you two, both of you should be out of the newly registered user group now! And welcome back!
by Heather
Sun Aug 03, 2014 6:34 pm
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: New Board Feedback
Replies: 4
Views: 7362

New Board Feedback

Just so everyone knows, because there are some new tools and features with this new board system, we are trying some new things. However, we are not by any means married to most of these things, so if you have any thoughts or feels about the setp with anything on the new boards, feel free to leave y...
by Heather
Sun Aug 03, 2014 5:35 pm
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: Posting a new topic in abuse and assault?
Replies: 4
Views: 4766

Re: Posting a new topic in abuse and assault?

Welcome the the (new!) boards! When users are newly registered, for their first five posts, they can only post in limited areas. Here's which ones (and more info on this), here: http://scarleteen.com/bb/viewtopic.php?f=21&t=24 In the meantime, you're welcome to get a thread started in one of tho...
by Heather
Fri Aug 01, 2014 11:48 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Scarleteen Rockstar(s) of the Week!
Replies: 10
Views: 7534

Re: Scarleteen Rockstar(s) of the Week!

MoradM, for stepping up to the plate as fast as a rocket and donating his amazing tech talents to us to test our new boards! :D
by Heather
Fri Aug 01, 2014 11:15 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Why don't you use condoms...
Replies: 0
Views: 2644

Why don't you use condoms...

...and what do you think could help you to change that habit? Pretty much every single day we get users in our direct services worrying about pregnancy who are not using condoms - some using other methods, some using none. Or who have had STIs and were not using condoms (or who got an STI and yet ST...
by Heather
Fri Aug 01, 2014 9:45 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Survivors who you look up to
Replies: 1
Views: 2965

Survivors who you look up to

I was reminded today about how many incredible survivors of sexual abuse and assault there are in the world, who have done incredible things. Today that reminder was Elizabeth Smart: http://thinkprogress.org/health/2013/05/06/1967591/elizabeth-smart-abstinence-ed/ I know that a big help in my own he...
by Heather
Fri Aug 01, 2014 9:42 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Breakups
Replies: 4
Views: 4629

Breakups

Whether you're the one who is doing or has done the breaking up, or someone else has broken up with you, breakups can be seriously tough sometimes. So, feel free to vent, sniffle, growl, sob, be bitter as anything or share some virtual sappy movies and ice cream here. You may also find this piece ha...
by Heather
Thu Jul 31, 2014 4:33 pm
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: Posts from the old boards
Replies: 0
Views: 2981

Posts from the old boards

If you used our old boards, you'll notice we've moved some posts and threads from them here to the new boards. Unfortunately, we could not automatically migrate the data from the old boards. All we can do is manually copy some things over and then leave the old boards as a read-only archive. And we ...
by Heather
Thu Jul 31, 2014 4:33 pm
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: Posts from the old boards
Replies: 0
Views: 2294

Posts from the old boards

If you used our old boards, you'll notice we've moved some posts and threads from them here to the new boards. Unfortunately, we could not automatically migrate the data from the old boards. All we can do is manually copy some things over and then leave the old boards as a read-only archive. And we ...
by Heather
Thu Jul 31, 2014 3:14 pm
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: Why them? Why not me?
Replies: 0
Views: 2825

Why them? Why not me?

"Why did you give them <thing you wanted one user got and we said no to you about> and not me?" or Why did they get answered first? If that's a thing you're thinking or wondering, know that we hold all our users to our general guidelines and policies, the ones you have agreed to when regi...
by Heather
Thu Jul 31, 2014 12:47 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Sex when your whole freaking world is terrifying
Replies: 0
Views: 2682

Sex when your whole freaking world is terrifying

Because we serve young people internationally, some of you are posting from areas or parts of the world which are in extreme crisis right now, and where you're literally surrounded by violence, war or fear. That alone is obviously incredibly stressful. That alone would obviously create anxiety, pani...
by Heather
Thu Jul 31, 2014 10:19 am
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: New Board Questions or Issues
Replies: 13
Views: 12170

Re: New Board Questions or Issues

Thanks for checking!
by Heather
Thu Jul 31, 2014 10:19 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: New Board Questions or Issues
Replies: 6
Views: 4516

Re: New Board Questions or Issues

Thanks for checking!