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by Heather
Fri Feb 14, 2025 5:39 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Finding a Queer Community!
Replies: 2
Views: 11471

Re: Finding a Queer Community!

Just FYI, I personally would not suggest at this time that queer and trans people seek out community on X given that it is owned and run by someone who is strongly anti-trans and also clearly not a friend to queer people. Harassment of QT people on X is no longer even considered harassment by their ...
by Heather
Thu Feb 13, 2025 5:53 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm so anxious and i really need help.
Replies: 1
Views: 697

Re: I'm so anxious and i really need help.

Hi there, talarose. So, I want to share a couple links with you so that, moving forward, you can know what actually presents a real pregnancy risk and what doesn't. What you have posted doesn't, namely because direct contact between your genitals and a penis are what's needed for pregnancy, outside ...
by Heather
Thu Feb 13, 2025 4:58 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to Handle Large Penis
Replies: 1
Views: 247

Re: How to Handle Large Penis

Hi there, Queen of Crows. Just for the record, this sounds like a penis that's only a little bigger than average (the average is between around 5 and 6 or so inches). So no, this partner will not likely need larger sized condoms. You also won't have to try and do anything special around it. The vagi...
by Heather
Wed Feb 12, 2025 12:16 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Online sex work (findom) for HRT - Mixed feelings?
Replies: 2
Views: 1051

Re: Online sex work (findom) for HRT - Mixed feelings?

Bowler, I also want to say that Scarleteen sometimes over the years has given micro-grants to our users in need -- like for temporary shelter, for what an abortion fund wouldn't cover, etc. This certainly would be within the arena of things we'd like to help with, so if you email us (feedbackATscarl...
by Heather
Tue Feb 11, 2025 4:43 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: What are the exact risks in a mutual first time?
Replies: 3
Views: 835

Re: What are the exact risks in a mutual first time?

Hey, Lydia, you've posted some inaccurate information here. A pap smear isn't even a test for HPV, instead it's a test that looks for changes in cervical cells that are most opften caused by HPV. And not having had a pap smear doesn't mean HPV can occur: having them doesn't and can't prevent HPV, ag...
by Heather
Tue Feb 11, 2025 3:41 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Support around the L.A. fires
Replies: 3
Views: 11969

Re: Support around the L.A. fires

I'm so sorry to hear this, Lydia. <3
by Heather
Tue Feb 11, 2025 9:40 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: What are the exact risks in a mutual first time?
Replies: 3
Views: 835

Re: What are the exact risks in a mutual first time?

Hi there, Lande. If you have never been sexual with someone else, your risk of genital HPV is zero. It's not something that can be transmitted during childbirth. Really, given both the kind of bodies you two have and the fact that you haven't had any kind of intimate physical activity with anyone be...
by Heather
Tue Feb 11, 2025 9:36 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: I am a person of faith who is having trouble reconciling my Christian identity with wanting to support LGBTQ+ people
Replies: 11
Views: 13377

Re: I am a person of faith who is having trouble reconciling my Christian identity with wanting to support LGBTQ+ people

I do just always want to remind folks in this arena of conversation that there is literally no mention of homosexuality or consensual sex between people of the same gender or sex in the bible. There is only mention of sexual assault between people of the same sex. Please also, when discussing religi...
by Heather
Mon Feb 10, 2025 1:19 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: weird complex about sexuality
Replies: 1
Views: 844

Re: weird complex about sexuality

Hi there, catcreature. I'm glad you're here, but I'm sorry that you're feeling so distressed about so much of this. You know, in 2025, 16 is actually on the early side for people to be being sexual with other people, but in this era, as in others, there really is a world of variation around this. Th...
by Heather
Mon Feb 10, 2025 12:36 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Chat Support
Replies: 4
Views: 1101

Re: Chat Support

Okay! We could also answer those on the boards right here, but if you'd prefer chat, I can open that up for you in about 15 minutes, so you can just keep your eyes peeled for the chat open icon!
by Heather
Mon Feb 10, 2025 12:32 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Chat Support
Replies: 4
Views: 1101

Re: Chat Support

Hi there, Michael. What kind of help are you looking for in chat and what time window would work for you, if chat feels like the best place to find that help?
by Heather
Thu Feb 06, 2025 12:45 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: my weird dysphoria makes me feel unsexable (is that a word)
Replies: 1
Views: 2294

Re: my weird dysphoria makes me feel unsexable (is that a word)

Hi there, eggsquisite (what a fun handle!). So, the way you're talking here sounds to me like the way I hear people talk who really don't have a good sense of both exactly how diverse human sexuality is and who also don't have a handle on the many layers of any given relationship or interaction that...
by Heather
Thu Feb 06, 2025 11:43 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: 18F. What is healthy, normal, and not weird/wrong when it comes to sexuality/attraction?
Replies: 11
Views: 5474

Re: 18F. What is healthy, normal, and not weird/wrong when it comes to sexuality/attraction?

Hi there, honeyboo. I want to start by saying that the framework of hyper (and its inverse, hypo) sexuality isn't one everyone agrees is a valid one, and it's something very rarely used by people who actually work in sex and sexuality, and instead tends to be a term found more on social media. I'm o...
by Heather
Wed Feb 05, 2025 2:40 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Chat...support
Replies: 9
Views: 5251

Re: Chat...support

Thanks for filling us in. So, how about we get started here by sharing some information we have on the site that can answer some of these questions? This one is a good, very basic explanation of one framework for the human sexual response cycle, including orgasm: https://www.scarleteen.com/read/sex-...
by Heather
Wed Feb 05, 2025 9:39 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Wondering If Sterilization Is Right For Me
Replies: 7
Views: 4454

Re: Wondering If Sterilization Is Right For Me

Mallory, I'm so glad I was able to help. I agree with you, it sounds like this just isn't feeling right to you right now, going forward with the tubal. It definitely sounds like the best move for you right now is to try and find a different method or combination of methods that you feel good, not sc...
by Heather
Tue Feb 04, 2025 3:23 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boyfriend and sexual intimacy
Replies: 5
Views: 3854

Re: Boyfriend and sexual intimacy

So, this given, the stakes feel pretty low here. What I mean by that is that all this would be for now then is talking, it's not like anyone is going to feel any kind of pressure to be physical if that's not what they want. What is it that you'd like to share with him that feels different than what ...
by Heather
Tue Feb 04, 2025 2:58 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boyfriend and sexual intimacy
Replies: 5
Views: 3854

Re: Boyfriend and sexual intimacy

Okay, thanks for that.

Have you yet been physically intimate at all? Like, has there been any kissing, cuddling, anything like that? If so, how has talking about any of that gone so far?
by Heather
Tue Feb 04, 2025 2:57 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Problems with pleasure
Replies: 3
Views: 3898

Re: Problems with pleasure

So, so long as you trim your nails and wash your hands first, if what you are doing feels good (or doesn't hurt), you really don't have to worry about hurting yourself. What to do is really all just about exploring and experimenting to find out what it is that does and doesn't feel good to you. For ...
by Heather
Tue Feb 04, 2025 2:54 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Wondering If Sterilization Is Right For Me
Replies: 7
Views: 4454

Re: Wondering If Sterilization Is Right For Me

Thanks for filling me in more! As someone who has had to have surgeries, I totally hear you that it's different to make choices with elective surgery. You're right! Because yep, a time may come when you have to have one that isn't a choice, and with surgery always having risks, often costing money, ...
by Heather
Tue Feb 04, 2025 2:19 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boyfriend and sexual intimacy
Replies: 5
Views: 3854

Re: Boyfriend and sexual intimacy

Hello again!

Can you tell me a little more about why you're worried about making your boyfriend uncomfortable? What do you think you could say that would make him feel that way?
by Heather
Tue Feb 04, 2025 2:18 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Problems with pleasure
Replies: 3
Views: 3898

Re: Problems with pleasure

Hi there, Ronny. So, if by fingering, you mean inserting fingers into the vagina, then no, it's not surprising that this doesn't feel exciting to you. I am assuming when you say you feel nothing, you don't actually feel nothing, it just doesn't feel like you expect it to. The thing is that anatomica...
by Heather
Tue Feb 04, 2025 11:41 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Wondering If Sterilization Is Right For Me
Replies: 7
Views: 4454

Re: Wondering If Sterilization Is Right For Me

Hi there, Mallory. There's a lot here that you want to address, and I first want to make sure I've got it all. I'm seeing that you want to talk about: • How safe this kind of surgical procedure is or isn't • If we think it's something you should do • What the recovery process is like and what you'll...
by Heather
Mon Feb 03, 2025 4:05 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Fictional characters affecting relationships.
Replies: 3
Views: 4352

Re: Fictional characters affecting relationships.

If I can offer some additional help, I'd suggest that you make very clear to new therapists you are screening (be that by email, phone or in person) what you specifically want help with. Then I'd ask them what their treatment plan would be for someone looking for help with this. If anything anyone s...
by Heather
Mon Feb 03, 2025 3:45 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: What is the normal age for someone to start ejaculating?
Replies: 2
Views: 4183

Re: What is the normal age for someone to start ejaculating?

Hi there, Angelz. Ejaculation is something that, on average, tends to start happening for people with penises and testes between the ages of 11 and 15. I also want to make sure you know that if you're basing your ideas about how much ejaculate to expect on what you might have seen in any kind of sex...
by Heather
Mon Feb 03, 2025 11:15 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: fantasies in partnership
Replies: 4
Views: 8680

Re: fantasies in partnership

I do want to add that I'm not so sure it's fair to count someone's masturbation as acting on sexual fantasy. What it sounds like you are more thinking about this like is as if your partner had sex with another person. I mean, yes, masturbation is an action, but partners checking in on each other bef...