You absolutely did not do anything to deserve this: no one deserves to be treated poorly. It can be difficult to stay motivated at school when there are other difficult things going on in your life, so what you're feeling is totally understandable. What kind of support would you like from us around ...

I've already answered your question in your other thread. Please don't double post: it's against the guidelines you agreed to when you registered, and it can make it harder for us to keep track of your questions. Thanks!

Welcome to Scarleteen, Unknown girl. From what you've said here, it doesn't sound like there's anything wrong with you. Different people like different kinds of stimulation, and you've already identified a couple of things that feel good to you. In addition to that, some people find that they need m...

I also wanted to just check and see if there's maybe a way you could spend a bit more time out of the house from now on, just so you don't have to see your cousin as often?

Would you like some suggestions about how to bring this up with your counsellor? I know this feels confusing for you, but in case it helps to hear it again: your cousin is abusing you. People who abuse others do not care about them, and are not looking out for them, they are doing harm. Your cousin ...

I totally understand wanting to protect the feelings of someone you care about, especially if they're having a rough time. At the same time though his feelings are not your responsibility, and your wellbeing is important too: this is clearly a big source of stress and upset for you, and that isn't s...

As long as you've been taking your pill correctly, plan B isn't necessary. Too, a pill isn't considered late until it's at least 12 hours past the time you would normally take it, so there's no need to be concerned about a few hours difference. (And given that happened in the last pack anyway, it wo...

I'm so sorry, dalisabeth.

Can I ask what you thought about my suggestion in your other thread, that you start just by telling your counsellor that your cousin has not stopped abusing you?

The thing is, consent is something that needs to be negotiated every single time we engage in sex, and past behaviour and level of interest isn't actually relevant. Just because you may have been interested in sex in the past doesn't mean that anyone can assume that you are now, and carrying on unle...

Hi chrabelcrabsnap, and welcome to Scarleteen. Your question definitely isn't unanswerable, so no worries there! To be perfectly honest, given the shame and fear that seemed to exist around sex in the household you grew up in, I'm not terribly surprised that your body isn't responding exactly the wa...

Hi Jellowl. This does sound like a tricky situation to be in. At this point though I'm not sure there's much else you can do beyond continuing to reassure your mother that your boyfriend is not abusive, and remind your boyfriend that nothing he's done is in any way abusive at all. If you want to bri...

You're welcome.

Welcome to Scarleteen, sp3873. Unfortunately, providing advice on this is outside the scope of what we do here as a sex and relationships education service. However, I would really suggest that if you do not have professional expertise in mental health or addiction that you're not going to be the ri...

You want to wait two weeks minimum; if you can stand to wait three weeks it's probably not a bad idea. And, if you've already tested at the two week mark, there's no harm in retesting if you want some reassurance about the result.

Periods can be irregular for several years after they start, so the irregular periods all by themselves probably aren't cause for concern. However, pain and bleeding with sex - especially if you can rule out causes like not being aroused enough or not having enough lube - is something that should be...

Sorry, I should have made that part more clear! So once you've brought it up in general conversation with a few different folks, you'll likely find that some people have more positive reactions than others (and some might even say right out that they'd be interested in it). If there's someone among ...

Reporting to DHS would at the very least result in someone speaking to your mother and to you about what has been going on, and potentially making alternate living arrangements for you if they determine that your safety and wellbeing is at risk. It's up to you whether you report this, but as Sam sai...

I know that all of this is difficult, including telling anyone what's going on. Maybe it would be less difficult to take smaller steps - for instance, what about first just telling your counsellor that the abuse hasn't stopped?

It's not unreasonable at all! Different people have different ways of expressing affection with friends - some people are totally comfortable/interested in making out with friends, for other people that's not something they're into, but it's completely fine to want it. :) As for bringing it up, you ...

You're welcome. I hope the rest of your day is less stressful!

You can read through your previous thread right here: http://www.scarleteen.com/bb/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=5526 However, one thing to keep in mind about anxiety is that continuing to seek out reassurance and information is actually counterproductive, and it just tends to keep you stuck in the anxiet...

Because we've discussed the level of risk with you a lot, I'm not going to get into a conversation about it again, but you can go through the information we've already given you if that's helpful. If you find yourself getting panicky again, these are a couple of tricks that can help you calm yoursel...

First things first: take a couple of deep breaths, okay? I know this is scary for you, but I promise it isn't the end of the world. I'm sorry the person on the phone told you that you need to test again, but that's all that means: another test. It doesn't change anything we told you earlier about yo...

PMs aren't possible, but we do have a live chat service that runs three times a week: http://www.scarleteen.com/our_live_chat_service

Most people would want to know if a partner is uncomfortable or in pain or just plain not enjoying themselves. Has your boyfriend ever done or said anything that might suggest he wouldn't listen if you said you weren't comfortable?