Ok. It's probably best to keep it pretty brief, and keep it to a level of detail you're comfortable with (so if you don't want to get into specifics about why you're cutting contact, you don't have to). I wouldn't suggest meeting up in person; a phone call could work if you're okay with that, or eve...

Writing is a great help with all kinds of things, and I'm personally a big fan of reading for stress relief too! :) Per next steps, I would suggest not having contact with him, at least for the time being: it's not likely to result in anything except you feeling more uncomfortable and stressed. I do...

If it helps to hear, none of this was your fault. Although having your body respond to something you find scary can make that harder to remember, for sure. It's tough too when someone we like and trust does something to hurt us, so it's not surprising you're feeling pretty icky right now. If you hav...

No need to worry about flooding the boards, you can post as much as you like! (Because we all have different schedules, there's no guarantee that someone will respond right away, but post as you feel you need to.) The steps you've already taken sound like a great start, and a therapist is really goi...

You're absolutely not wasting anyone's time: this is what we're here for. Regardless of whether or not it was intentional on his part, it's clearly something that was upsetting for you and a big deal, and I'm so sorry you're dealing with that. As for what to do now, that's up to you. We can keep tal...

So it sounds like the first three possibilities may not be where the problem lies, but can I ask about your answer to Heather's fourth question? Choosing to have the kinds of sex that aren't intercourse doesn't really relate to whether or not you're enjoying the kinds of sex you have, and whether yo...

Nope, the sex you had before the potential mistake with your pill doesn't pose a risk. Plus, it looks from your previous posts like you use condoms as well, so even if this had presented a risk, you'd still have that extra protection.

It is possible to experience bleeding during pregnancy, but that bleeding is very unlikely to resemble a normal period or to arrive at the same time that a period would: so, if you get your period around when it's expected and it looks and feels like a typical period, then you can assume that's what...

If you're going to use an enema I wouldn't recommend a homemade one, and it's really not necessary to use one at all. The rectum - the last little bit of your intestines - doesn't actually store any feces at all, and your fingers aren't going to reach past that anyways, so the most you'd encounter i...

That's a bummer. Many schools have a resource similar to Craigslist though, where students can post if they have a room available in a share house or apartment - maybe yours has something like that? It also wouldn't hurt to start looking for a part-time job in any field, just to get some financial i...

Do you have any money of your own that you could use for something like this? In other words, is there any way to get there without having to ask for the funds to do so?

Anal sex still presents a risk even without ejaculation because of pre-ejaculate (pre-cum): the fluid that's released when a person with a penis gets an erection. It doesn't contain sperm all by itself, but as I mentioned in another thread of yours, it can pick up leftover sperm on its way out of th...

Dry humping and getting ejaculate on your clothes do not pose any risks of STIs. As for having someone ejaculate on your back, that depends on whether there was any skin-to-skin contact preceding the ejaculation. This piece goes into detail about what does and does not pose risks of STI transmission...

Okay. The only thing to keep in mind then is if you feel at any point like this relationship is going to put your safety at risk or make your home situation worse, then you'll probably need to reevaluate how important the relationship is vs your safety. (Which is a crummy thing to have to think abou...

No problem, answering questions is what we're here for! (And sorry for the slow response.) The vast majority of people who are pregnant realise that they are early on: it's very unusual for someone not to be aware that they're pregnant - or at least that something is different with their body - unti...

Is that just a matter of transport being difficult, or is there something else about it that's making you hesitate? (Just trying to get an idea of where to go from here with this conversation and what to suggest.)

I'm going to be blunt here: I honestly don't know what else we can tell you. The conversation we've had with you so far, and the suggestions that we have made, are based on what we as sexuality/relationship educators know about what is needed for sex and relationships to be healthy and fulfilling, a...

Okay. So what I'd say going forward is that he needs to ask before doing anything sexual with you. That's just a basic part of doing consent, really, and it's actually not that surprising that you felt uncomfortable or panicky about him moving your hand like that, because it sounds like it was somet...

I'm glad those self-care suggestions that Sam linked you to were useful, and it's good that your safety isn't at risk right now. It does sound like you would benefit from working towards moving out of this living situation, though, and of course if you want to talk about the memories/event in more d...

It's an interesting point, but I guess I'm wondering why gay characters need to have crushes or be in relationships to be really gay? (Kind of playing devil's advocate here, I suppose, but your post got me thinking!)

I'd say if that's something you're interested in, then sure, go ahead and practice. (Just make sure that if you're practicing on yourself you're not tying things too tightly or doing any knots you can't get undone easily.)

That does sound pretty cool, and if it's something you feel works for you, that's awesome!

Hi princess.

Can I ask, first of all, if when your boyfriend put your hand on his penis, if he checked in with you first to see if that's what you wanted? I'm also wondering if you have any trauma in your history that might be factoring into this: any abuse or assault of any kind?

You're very welcome.

It's totally understandable that you'd want to let X know how you're feeling about what they did! However, if that's not an option, speaking to the club president sounds like a good move too.