There's no such thing as super sperm, I promise. :) If a condom is used for all genital contact, and does not slip off or rip, then pregnancy is extraordinarily unlikely. The people who are saying that they got pregnant even though they used a condom properly are either not being truthful about that...

Ah, I misunderstood. I'd still say it's worth sitting down with X when you can and talking to them about this. As for how they got in to your files, you could double check the settings on your account, but it might not ever be clear how it was possible. (And really, I would suggest that you avoid ke...

That sounds reasonable, and if the president is still there with you, it might be worth sitting down with this person and just letting them know that what they did was an invasion of your privacy and you're not okay with it.

Did you have a look through those two articles? They explain exactly what's needed for sperm to stay viable, and what's needed for pregnancy to happen.

It's understandable that you want some resolution to this, but confronting someone when you're still angry often doesn't really resolve things. If you did speak to this person, what would you be hoping to get out of the conversation? An explanation? An apology? Having your point of view heard?

Pre-cum or pre-ejaculate doesn't contain sperm all by itself, no. It can pick up sperm on the way out of the urethra though which is why it can pose a pregnancy risk, and one of the reasons why the withdrawal method (pulling out) isn't 100% effective as a method of birth control. It isn't true that ...

Hi catsarecute. With your best friend, I would say that you could probably talk to her about how you're questioning your identity without getting into the fact that you have a crush on her if that's not something you feel comfortable sharing. (And if you want to brainstorm a bit about how that conve...

Okay. The not being in a relationship isn't something a therapist can help with directly, but the feeling inadequate piece is something that therapy can be very useful for (as well as working through the consequences of your previous abusive relationship). Is this therapist someone you're still seei...

I'm not entirely sure where Heather was going with their comment about seeing men as your brothers, but I'd venture a guess that it has something to do with learning to view men not as this totally incomprehensible group of people, but just as...well, people. People who you can communicate with and ...

Have you ever asked permission from your family to do something before? Like spend time with friends, or join an activity at school? If so, how have those conversations gone?

We do have a couple of articles that might help him out: M.I.A or, Dude, Where's My Period? On the Rag: A Guide to Menstruation It could be that he's just not that informed about periods and the menstrual cycle and how common irregularity is; if that's the case then those two pieces should help with...

Even though it's not normal for you, periods do stop and then start again sometimes, and it's nothing to be concerned about. Just one of those unexpected things bodies do sometimes! If you have intestinal issues and you're concerned about the pill's effectiveness because of that, have you spoken wit...

Glad to help.

There are a couple of pieces on the main site, by the way, that if you haven't already seen them, might be useful to you in thinking about all of this:
Supermodel: Creating & Nurturing Your Own Best Relationship Models
Intimacy: The Whys, Hows, How-Nots, and So-Nots

Okay. So what I'm hearing from your post is not that there's something 'wrong' with you at all, just that the way you express affection and intimacy doesn't line up with how those things are portrayed in the media and the way your girlfriend might express affection. But: things like baby talk and ma...

We actually have a piece on this very topic that might be helpful in your decision-making: Should I Stay or Should I Go? Ultimately, if you do decide to end the relationship, even if you want to stay friends that isn't something you have total control over. The other person gets a say as well, and i...

Okay. Moving forward here, where would you like this conversation to go?

Rape is the term used to describe someone doing something sexual to someone else without consent: so yes, I would say it's the correct term to use here and if it feels right to you to use it, then that's the term you get to use. As for the why, sexual assault or rape is generally about power or cont...

You're not overreacting at all; what this person did was clearly coercive and non-consensual. That said, what kind of help or support would you like from us here at Scarleteen around this?

The big post-election project that Redskies mentioned is here, by the way: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/polit ... ed_america

Hi Scarlett, hope you don't mind me popping back in. :) It sounds, from what you've posted here, like you have a lot of really wonderful people and relationships in your life, balanced with a good amount of independence and self-reliance, which is fantastic. The thing that really stood out to me, th...

This piece should answer your questions: Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?

If you still have questions after reading that, just shout and we'll do our best to clarify things for you.

There's no need to cover anything more here in a day than you feel comfortable with: that's one of the benefits of a space like this, conversations can go on for as long as you like, at whatever pace you want. :) So, as Heather said, just let us know what where you want this discussion to go, what w...

That's totally understandable - even if the person isn't in our life anymore, objects that were gifts can still have a lot of significance. Is there anything you need from us around this? (As Jacob mentioned, some self-care might be in order, but if there's anything we can do to help, just say so!)

I wouldn't say it's as simple or straightforward as "bad parenting = bad relationships later"; it's not totally true but it isn't a myth either. People are more complicated than that. :) Parenting does often have an influence on how people 'do' relationships, just because parents are one o...