I'm sorry it didn't go the way you were expecting - is there anything we can do to help?

Back rubs are the best, and I love it when someone runs their fingers through my hair. And for some reason having the back of my neck touched or kissed (as part of sex, or not!) just makes me melt.

You're very welcome!

Hey, Born_from_Books. Welcome to Scarleteen. :) I'm sorry you're so scared! There are a lot of messages in society about how first-time vaginal entry will be a horrible painful thing (and sometimes even that it's supposed to be that way) but that's really not the case. Some people do have a more res...

I know it probably isn't what you want to hear, but given all you've said about him and his behaviour, this is not a relationship I would suggest that you try and hang on to. As hard as it might be right now, ending it definitely and moving on is likely going to be far more positive for you in the l...

Hi girlyprob, I hope it's okay if I jump in here with some thoughts. (And I'm sure Heather will have a lot more to offer next time they're here too.) What I'm hearing is that this relationship is the first you've had where you really felt like the other person felt just as strongly about you as you ...

Welcome to Scarleteen, BobbyBlobfish. (Love the username, by the way.) First off, you won't get any judgment here: this is a safe space to discuss pretty much anything related to all of the diversity and complexity of sexuality, masturbation included. For the record, masturbation is something that m...

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...

Hi Chubbybunny. I've already answered your question in your original thread.

I don't see any need for Plan B: it's very likely the implant was effective by the time you had sex, and so Plan B wouldn't do anything the implant isn't doing already. However, you can always phone the doctor who inserted it for you and double check if you like. (I appreciate your wanting to abide ...

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...

That's totally up to you. Like Jacob said, and the article talks about, virginity is a social idea, not a physical or medical one, so you get to define it in whatever way you like and decide what it means to you.

Hi MusicNerd. First off, I don't think you're overreacting. This person's behaviour sounds completely inappropriate, and they clearly do not/did not respect your boundaries, which is a big deal on its own: it's not surprising you feel weird and gross about it. Too, please know that sexual abuse does...

Hi Yummysammy. I've moved your post to an area of the boards that is only visible to moderators. That isn't something we do very often though, so in the future, it's worth keeping in mind that this is a public, searchable forum, and post accordingly. (Picking a username that you don't use in other p...

Genital pain and irritation of any kind is really something that needs to be investigated by a healthcare provider. As we've mentioned to you before, masturbation is not something that normally affects health unless someone has injured themselves in some way, so it's unlikely that's the issue here. ...

It's pretty rare for IUDs to be expelled, so as Heather has said, unless she has a medical reason for using the pill and an IUD, the pill isn't necessary and can actually be a health risk. Condoms are a far better backup method if you feel more comfortable using two methods, and again as Heather poi...

You're so welcome!

Yep, taking two extra placebo pills means you missed two active pills. If doubling up for the next couple of days is what your pill instructions say, then that's what you should do.

Okay. Extending the placebo week the way that you have - taking an extra two days before starting your next pack of active pills - means that you can't count on being protected from pregnancy anymore. So, as I said, emergency contraception (Plan B) is a good idea: it can be taken up to 120 hours (ab...

Just to clarify: how long has it been since your last active pill? More or less than a week? If it has been more than a week (past the time that you would have started your new active pills) then you would no longer be protected and Plan B would reduce your risk if you don't want to become pregnant....

Glad to hear you have an appointment scheduled for tomorrow with your rape crisis counselor, and that you have a list of things to bring to them: they'll likely have some suggestions about where to go from here in addition to what the police are doing for you.

Hi, Northstargirl. First of all, kudos to you for realising that you needed a break from dating and taking care of yourself in that way. Ending a relationship and losing a pregnancy is a lot for anyone to deal with, and I admire your figuring out what you needed and following through with it. It can...

Welcome to Scarleteen. :) Pregnancy is just one reason a period can be late, and manual sex does not pose a risk of pregnancy, so pregnancy isn't something you need to be concerned about. We have a piece that goes into more detail about possible causes of a late period here: M.I.A or, Dude, Where's ...

Hi Mikeysaiah, welcome to Scarleteen. When your doctor recommended antidepressants for you, did they give you any information about the different kinds there are, and how they work? (Like, for instance, the fact that these medications don't have the potential to change your personality.) Did you hav...

Welcome to Scarleteen. I'm so sorry you've gotten such poor sex education, and that you haven't been treated well at school because you're gay. The deal with sexually transmitted infections (the newer term) is that they don't come out of nowhere: you have to have contact with someone who has an STI ...