Hi usrname, So you're right that masturbation can be a lot of fun, and most of the time frequent masturbation is definitely not something to be ashamed of. From what you're describing though, it sounds like you're feeling really out of control about your masturbation and it's interfering with the re...

You certainly don't have to talk about it if you don't want to! I get that it's important to be recognised for the other parts of yourself, and in an ideal world being trans would just be one part of a much bigger picture. It sounds like that's the relationship you have with most of your friends, an...

Hey TVfan134 This is a big question, and it sounds like there are a couple of parts to it. It sounds like you're feeling a lot of shame about the idea of masturbation at all - is that right? Sexual shame can take a while to undo, and ultimately only you can decide what you do and don't feel okay abo...

Hi robot-chick! I don't think that crushes feel the same for everyone, you know? In fact, having crushes so huge that they prevent you from thinking about anything else actually doesn't sound like much fun! It's perfectly okay to just notice that someone makes you smile, or you feel good around them...

That's good news! If you're concerned about the length of time they're asking you to hold your urine before the test, perhaps you could speak to them about that?

Hi omnomnonny,

It's pretty common for Depo-provera to cause periods to affect your periods - including making them lighter or stopping them from coming at all. You can read more about the shot here: Depo-Provera (The Shot)

Of course this isn't dumb! Making choices about if and how to transition is really personal, and there is no "right" way to go about it. Do you have a healthcare provider or therapist that you have been able to talk through these thoughts with? It's great that you've found confidence in ha...

Hi Sodabutt! You know, I don't think that romantic relationships "just happen" or that kissing "just happens" all by itself. At some point, someone has to ask the question (sure, not everyone uses their words every single time, but honestly I am seriously in favour of using your ...

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Y'know I wouldn't call it a "trick" - that makes it seem like some kind of deception is involved, or like you're making someone do something they otherwise wouldn't. Finding a good reason to spend a bit more time with someone and figure out if you like eachother is a great idea!

Again, it sounds like you're doing the right things, and from the description in your final paragraph I'm not hearing anything concerning - and am really glad you got such a good nurse! - it sounds like you just have textured skin there as part of your bodies normal variation. With shaving, the only...

Okay! It sounds like you have some ideas about what feels good and comfortable for you. What about the rest of Heather's suggestions? I think their point about not doubling down on pain is a really important one - keeping going when it hurts can sometimes make it MORE likely to hurt in future, as yo...

Sounds like you've already done the right thing by getting this checked out to be doubly-sure, but yeah it's not unusual to get spots or ingrown hairs around your pubic area. Different people are affected by things like razor rash to varying degrees, and for some shaving or the irritation from perio...

It's normal - and advisable - for anyone who's sexually active to get tested for STIs! Doesn't matter if you're 14 or 84, or what your gender is. Anyone can catch or carry an STI, and the sooner it's found and you can get care, the better. Definitely ask your boyfriend if he's been tested next time ...

Having sex that everyone involved wants and enjoys is not something you should feel bad about or beat yourself up for. When you say it was different from what you imagined, what do you mean by that? It takes time to unlearn things like the idea of being "easy". And it's perfectly okay to t...

Weird as in you're doing a bad thing? Because there's definitely nothing wrong with masturbating! If it's something that you're interested in doing but shame is holding you back, then it's worth bearing in mind that not only do most people try masturbation at some point - and loads of people do it r...

Jacob said a lot of good things, so I'll just say we see you, we're here when you're done and want to talk. I hope you get more comfort than hurt out of seeing them.

90Hello90, You absolutely DO deserve help. I get that it's hard to feel that way but clearly, deep down you know that you do. If someone in your life you care about - a friend or your family - was struggling with such overwhelming negative thoughts you wouldn't tell them that they didn't deserve hel...

Hey R, I am so, so, glad that you have some good support - both from the constable dealing with your case and from your friends. They sound wonderful. Reading through this thread it's clear that you have been treated awfully by several people and none of it is your fault. It's great that you have so...

Hi Buddyboi, Loneliness is a really hard thing to deal with, and owning up to it can take some doing. i'm glad you could share here. Recognising that you are "shutting down" to cope is also a good step, now the question is are there better ways of dealing with this feeling? It's great that...

Hi alipaige,

It's not unusual for the the exact way your body interacts with hormonal birth control to change over time, and a little spotting between bleeds on the pill is fairly common - nothing in your post suggests to me anything to be concerned about.

I get that. When things are hard it's easy to look back to any other time and imagine it as being somehow better than where you are now and wishing you were still there. The thing about going backwards though, is you lose the opportunity to go forwards. Based on everything you've said about this pas...

hey tomatopotato It sounds like you've made the right decision with this person! It's totally unfair of him to shame you for your level of sexual experience, and not at all okay for him to continue with the encounter when he wasn't 100% sure you were into it. Acting like casual sex is about "no...

Hoping is a nice place to be! You're right to keep this in perspective; not everything that is super promising ends up being all we think it could be and it sounds like it could logistically be a challenge to form or maintain a relationship, depending on how you both feel about long distance. That s...

Hi Booksandoceans, It's perfectly reasonable to take a pregnancy test if it will help you feel reassured, and to speak to a doctor if you are concerned - as we said in your last thread. You've not said anything that makes me think you NEED to do either of those things but you can if it helps you. An...

It's not so unusual to need to use your fingers to gently spread your labia apart when you want to insert something into your vagina - definitely not something you need to worry about! If you're feeling some discomfort when masturbating, then it's all about going slow, being really aroused and a goo...