I'm so glad you reached out to us via text and then joined us here on the boards Belcano. It really shows that you're ready to try and move past this, which is often the first step to actually moving forwards. I'm really happy to hear that you've taken the important step of blocking her too - I know...

Okay, where there are two things to consider here. The first is that puberty happens differently for everyone, and that penis growth doesn't happen all at once but continues for years - even into your early 20s for some people. The second, and actually more important one, is that penises come in all...

Hi neon, Most of the time, inserting something into the vagina needn't be painful if you're feeling relaxed and aroused, and using lubricant. If you're experiencing pain it's probably a good idea to go speak to a medical provider about it as whether you've ever had intercourse shouldn't be a factor ...

Hey Buddyboi, Wow, this sounds super exciting! I think I can relate. I've had a good time dating lot's of lovely people who were not quite the right fit for me, and then every now and again I am surprised by an "oh wow, I'd forgotten I could be this attracted to someone/feel this strongly about...

That leaves me wondering, if I can loose interest so quick can I lose interest in people who might be interested in me too, simple because I'm impatient? I'm highlighting this question because I think it touches on an assumption that I want to look at: the assumption that losing interest is somehow...

You are so not alone! You know, I think the phrasing you suggested for setting boundaries is a great start! Starting with "I don't want to hear this right now" is also a good stepping stone to "actually, I don't want to hear this ever". As long as you're straightforward about it ...

Exactly! Do you want to talk a bit about why this is worrying you?

Sunflower12345,

horriblegoose seems to have you covered on this question. I just wanted to pop in to say how totally GREAT it is that you're taking such positive, thoughtful steps to manage your anxiety, and that you've got this.

I'm so glad you've found our site helpful!

You know, I am wondering if ideas about what sex "should" be and those feelings of shame and being out of control are a major factor in the frustrations you're experiencing right now? I think Heather's point about trying to just notice the ways you're feeling for a little while is a good o...

Hey tomatopotato, I'm glad that horriblegoose's thoughtful response on privilege helped you! I think they made great points about using your privilege well -what that is and what that isn't. It links in with Mo's point earlier that you never owe someone interest or dates or sex for any reason. Love ...

Glad to hear it! You're welcome

Great, looking forward to your updates!

Hey GolfingGirl, SpaceCowboy and horriblegoose have pretty much covered everything I'd say here, so just popping in to second them and to say that a private gift exchange and agreeing some etiquette on the room sharing sounds like a really thoughtful response to your sister. I'd certainly be open to...

Hey Buddyboi, It sounds like you've done a lot of thinking about what you want from a relationship and what you can bring to it. One of the potentially frustrating things about dating is how much of it is down to luck and timing. Yes, we can put ourselves out there - both in the world and via apps -...

Ouch! What an unprofessional doctor. It sounds like finding someone else you can see for this kind of healthcare would be really valuable right now. Does that sound like something that would be an option for you?

Yeah, it's funny how sometimes we mentally separate out our mind from our body and feel differently about the two - I know I went through an "I'm not pretty but at least I'm smart" phase at one point. Feeling confident in some areas and less so in others doesn't make that confidence less r...

It's great that you're recognising the pattern for what it is and taking steps to try and manage that anxiety. Doing things that you enjoy is definitely a good start. There are a lot of good additional resources in that link Mo shared, so taking some time to look through them is definitely worthwhil...

I'm so glad that talking to us has helped to reduce your jitters! Breast tenderness can take a week or two to go away after an abortion, so if they are slightly larger than usual right now it may be a short while before they return to normal, but you're unlikely to experience a permanent change. Als...

Let us know if reading the link throws anything up for you! We're always here and happy to talk some more. Would you like to brainstorm ways of bringing this up with your therapist? For example, you don't need to jump into talking to them about masturbation to speak about body issues more generally ...

You've mentioned in two of your posts now a history of feeling suicidal. Is that something you're feeling now? I ask because while it's not something we're equipped to deal with, it is really important you speak to someone if you're having suicidal thoughts. You can call lifeline on 1-800-273-8255 o...

Hi Omotolani, Often discharge goes brownish when there is some old blood present. You say application has been painful, so you may have scraped the the vaginal walls a little during the process. The size of your vaginal canal isn't impacted by whether you've had sex, or how much you've had sex. The ...

Sounds like you have it covered! Any part of the process you want to talk through?

You should never have to put up with harassment. I'm glad that the last time you reported someone it was taken seriously and that your work took steps to keep you safe. Honestly, he was behaving super out of line so the fact he then stopped talking to you sounds like a GOOD thing to me. Well done fo...

Just popping in to say hi, and that I'm so pleased you've found this conversation helpful!

You're welcome!