You're not wasting our time! We're happy to be here and listen or talk through things whenever.

It must be tough to hear about your friend and her crush. I'm glad that you feel like the friendship is something you value in it's own right though. Did you want to talk through anything more?

There is always a chance that someone we like will be interested in someone else, and it certainly isn't fun to think about. I would suggest though that if you're main reason for being in the friendship is that you're "waiting" to date this person, that isn't really fair on either of you. ...

We've started to talk about this on your other thread, so I'll lock this one down to avoid confusion

A conversation on Tinder or one in real life? Assuming you're talking about Tinder, the thing about dating platforms is that people tend not to be very invested in the interactions at the beginning, you kind of have to think about it as planting a whole bunch of seeds and seeing which ones grow. You...

Oof, that sounds like some seriously unprofessional behaviour from your doctors, which is a lot to deal with when you're already feeling stressed out. Inappropriate "jokes", irrelevant comments about your body and relationships and pushing you into procedures you've not asked for or consen...

There is no "right" way to masturbate! It's great that you've started to find ways of masturbating and exploring your body that feel good for you - and the grinding on a pillow technique is actually pretty common. We've started talking in your other thread a bit about trauma, so I'll not r...

Hi Firefly, I'm so sorry that your brother did these things to you. It is absolutely not your fault, he is the one who repeatedly touched you without your consent - when you said no even. I'm sorry your parents have been so unsupportive; your mum is in the wrong here - you are absolutely not to blam...

Absolutely! If you're both really excited about having sex together, then all the silly, messy, figuring-it-out bits are a part of the fun, rather than an obstacle in the way

Hi After.math Honestly, I really don't get what all the hype is about when folks talk about having an oversized penis as a super-desirable thing. If you're thinking about pleasing a partner, then it's really not a high priority for really worthwhile, fulfilling sex for most people, especially since ...

I'm really glad that finding Scarleteen has helped you feel comfortable in your sexuality!

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We're here if you want to talk throuh any of this some more - sounds like you're doing all the right things!

Hi Regina, Welcome to the boards. I'm so, so, sorry that your ex is treating you this way and manipulating you like this. We can't tell you for certain whether what he said is true - there is no way of telling by looking at or examining a person whether they have been sexually active before. From wh...

Hi Herstory, Im glad that, for now at least, he is engaging with you in a more productive way and owning up to some of his mistakes. I also want to take a second to point out that the way you are feeling - scared, hurt, betrayed - are normal and, frankly, healthy. Those feelings are a part of how yo...

Okay, great. Whilst it's never okay to mistreat people, you can't go back and change the past. Right now the best thing you can do is learn what healthy relationships do look like, so that next time round you don't repeat the same mistakes - which it sound like you are doing! I get that it feels lik...

Hi Flamy, This all sounds like a tough situation to be in. I think there are two things we can talk about here, one being things with your parents, and the other wanting more connections with people. I get that high-pressure social events can be exhausting. Looking for in-person connections - for fr...

Hi Flamy, There are a few different things here, so I'll do my best to get to them each in turn. If you need to talk more about any of them we can do that! First off, if pads aren't working for you for periods, there are other options such as washable period underwear, as well as reusable cottony pa...

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Hi Herstory, It sounds like you are working through a lot of really difficult things here. I agree that your partner doesn't seem to be versed in how to have healthy polyamorous relationships. I am also wondering if he really knows how to have healthy relationships full stop. A lot of the behaviours...

Hi kotan, As Heather said, they would advise against having sex in the park - as the article makes clear, there are people who don't want to see it when they're trying to enjoy public space, and there is the risk of a fine. I'm not an expert German nudity laws, but as I understand it there are plent...

Unfortunately, in Utah if you are under 18 and unmarried then you need your parent's consent to access prescription birth control. That doesn't, however, mean that your mom gets to be in the room for all of the conversations between you and your doctor, or gets to know more than you choose to share ...

I'm glad that you're feeling like you've been able to move past that bad relationship from last winter. And yes, it can be hard when things change with friends or lovers and we lose something - even if it's for the best, even if it wasn't a serious romantic relationship - and it's okay to grieve tho...

Ouch, that sounds like it would hurt. I really don't know the answer to that why question though - again, she's the only person who can really know. It sounds like this is someone who hasn't been a great partner to you though, so perhaps not being in touch with her would be good for you right now? S...

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Hi Pan,

I don't think that a little bit of hair will be a problem. Yes, it is normal for there to be small amounts of feces when you do anal play - there's not a good way to avoid it entirely. Just make sure you wash your hands, toys and the outside of your anus thoroughly before and after.

Hi Pan, Most of the birth control options available right now are taken by the person with a uterus - so you wouldn't be the one taking it. If you want to know where a partner can go to get birth control then yes, a gynecologist can help with that. Often, a family doctor or sexual health clinic can ...