I think it's perfectly okay to have that urge, acknowledge it and try to work towards being in a position where you could give a good life to a child - not just materially but also emotionally - and also acknowledge that now is not the time. You know, I'm pretty sure Sam did read your post - there's...

Hi ShadowSong, Welcome back! You know, talking about the things you're struggling with - including dysphoria - is what we're here for. You're never bothering us. Looking back at your previous thread though, I see we missed your last reply - I'm sorry about that. We can pick it up again if you'd like...

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I'm sorry that your mother hasn't been supportive in using your correct name and pronouns. If you think your sister might be more receptive, how about you start out by speaking to her first? Perhaps that will help in the conversation with your mother, perhaps not but hopefully you will have your sis...

Okay, so it sounds like you still have a lot to process on the how you feel side of things. Did you want to talk to her about it? Or are you more needing to sort out your thoughts and feelings for yourself? As Sam said, there are kind of two separate things going on here - the cheating and the pursu...

Hi Pan, The best thing is to do an internet search for a sexual health centre in your city/area. Usually, it is the same place whatever your gender, though they may have different opening times for different ages/genders. If you can't find a sexual health centre (sometimes called a GUM clinic) then ...

You're right, if you haven't had a conversation with this person already about your friendship, what you want from it and what your boundaries are this is a good time to do it. Second-guessing what the other person is thinking and feeling is probably a strain on both of you. How do you feel about ta...

Yeah, breakups are really tough, especially when they come out of the blue like this and the ways you're feeling are pretty common in the circumstances. I'm glad you have professionals on your side to talk it through with. I also hope you know that your relationship ending isn't a reflection of you ...

Hi there! Yeah, I get what you mean about toilet paper as a substitute for washing yourself. I grew up with paper being the norm but I do stop and wonder sometimes why that is! In terms of what wipes you use, I don't think you have to go for more expensive "feminine" ones, especially as a ...

Hi memesndreams, Welcome to the boards! If a sex toy sounds like something you'd enjoy I'd say that's a great birthday present to get yourself! Using a vibrator won't "ruin" anything, whether you've had partnered sex before or not - it's simply a different kind of sensation. I'm glad you f...

hi Meadow :) Welcome to the boards! Yeah, a lot of people find talking to new people - especially people we think are cool/fun/attractive - nerve-wracking. Adding on the potential pressure of dating can be extra-daunting, but it doesn't have to be! In general, a good date or a relationship is one wh...

Okay, that's a useful insight. I'd second Sam's suggestion that stepping back a little more from sexual activities that carry pregnancy risks for a while might be good for your mental health. Have you taken a look at the article Sam shared? There are a list of reasons that someone might have this id...

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I'm going to leave you one piece of reading for if you decide to think about insertion some more, feel free to come in again with any more questions

From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse.

hey flannelwearer, So your mother may be knowledgeable about many things, but the only authority on your sexuality is YOU. There's no set timeline for being sure of your sexuality - some people seem to have grown up with the knowledge of who they are, whilst others are growing, changing and figuring...

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Starting slowly is a great idea, and I am totally behind the "if they're not cool with everything I am, they're not the one for me" attitude.

Did you want to talk through this or anything else a little more? Our door is always open.

hi nervouslesbian, Welcome to the boards! I'm glad you made an account to speak to us :) You know how I know you're a lesbian? Because you told me so. Repeatedly. You also gave a lot of clarity on how you came to find that lesbian was the right choice for you, and what it means to you on multiple le...

Hi! So a question to start with: when you're trying masturbation, are you feeling relaxed and turned on BEFORE you start exploring your genitals? From the way you hear sex and masturbation talked about in many places it's easy to assume that the genitals are this magic button, and if you just hit it...

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Hi Pacster, Check the packaging of the test you choose to see how soon after sex it can be used to give an accurate result. Usually, you need to wait a minimum of 14 days from the pregnancy risk. You can read more here: Peeing on a Stick: All About Pregnancy Tests Also, if you've had the kinds of se...

Hi snowwhitex, Welcome to the boards. The buddy system - using two methods of contraception - is a great idea if you are extra concerned about pregnancy, and the combination of birth control pills and condoms is highly effective at preventing pregnancy. You can read more about that here: The Buddy S...

You know, I think you're being pretty hard on yourself here. It's really normal for our interest in sex to vary over time, especially in response to big life events - it's no surprise that in the recovery from a breakup, from a relationship that made you feel pretty bad a lot of the time, that your ...

Hi Sedna, This sounds like a scary situation to be in, I'm sorry. Can I double check that I'm understanding you properly? It sounds like you were sexually assaulted when you were too drunk to consent, is that right? It's common for victims of sexual assault to feel some kind of guilt, but it's never...

Hi andrej, I get where you're coming from but the thing about bodies is there is a whole lot that we can't control - there are always going to be times where sex is silly or messy or doesn't go quite to plan. It sounds like you've got a partner who is understanding of that - which is great! - and of...

When we say clothes we mean exactly that - literally any clothes that cover the genitals.