Hi Fr8, Welcome to the message boards! So one thing about puberty is that it doesn't all happen at once. The ability to ejaculate actually tends to develop well after you start getting erections - which might explain why that isn't something that has happened for you yet. When it does start, it gene...

I'm glad the bleeding stopped, have you spoken to your partner about taking a little care to make sure you don't get injured when being sexual together? If you're not experiencing any immediate symptoms, seeing your doctor in two weeks should be fine. It's always good practice for both partners to g...

Hi Pan, Water-based lube is something that you can usually buy in stores. Depending on where you live, you may find it in the same places you find condoms or over-the-counter drugs - like the health section of a grocery store, or a pharmacy. Sex stores will also have lube, but are less easy to find ...

I don't really see what more you can do here to change the situation with this person you know? As Heather said, if they've made it clear that they don't want to be in a relationship with you now, it's time to respect that - hard as it is. From everything you've said, it's clear you already HAVE don...

If you've taken your pills as directed on the packaging then yes, you should be protected going forward. The HPV vaccine doesn't make the pill any less effective at preventing pregnancy. I think at this point, what Mo said about returning to things that make you worry is important. Most things you c...

One of the things that drew me to volunteering here at Scarleteen is that I think/talk about sex and relationships a LOT. I generally find that the people I connect with best in friendships are the ones who have a similar level of openness, and I think that feeling like it's normal to talk about the...

You have articulated really clearly here some of the things that you and your relationship with this partner need right now, which is a really great first step. Have you shared these thoughts with your partner? I understand that you've talked about the particular date that stirred up all these feeli...

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Okay, so whilst we can give some general advice, the specific instructions that come with your birth control always trumps that; it's written by the experts in that particular brand of medication and they have access to research and information that we just don't. If in doubt, follow the directions ...

Hi Pan,

We don't give advice on specific techniques, as what works for different people is very different. We have an article here that has more: Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation

So grapefruit juice has been found to change how your body processes some medications by causing your body to break them down more slowly. This means that there could be MORE of the drug in your system at any one time, so it won't decrease the effectiveness but could increase the side effects. This ...

Sure, you get to decide what you want to share here. If you want to talk some more about the ways you've been feeling and how that could relate to how you feel in sex we're here.

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hi! Welcome to the boards :) It's great that you're discussing the kinds of things you are and aren't interested in doing with someone before getting intimate. I'm glad you're also thinking about the feelings it might bring up before going ahead and doing it. Can you tell me a bit more about what pa...

Hey :) welcome to the boards! You know, I think it's very easy to assume that everyone wants one particular kind of relationship with particular kinds of people, but once people start opening up about what they really want there is so much diversity that nothing is particularly unusual or surprising...

A smile and a nod is never rude! You could have said more if you wanted to, but you're certainly not obliged to. Plus it's not like this is your only chance to chat to this guy - if you wanted to you could start a conversation yourself, you don't have to wait for the "one perfect opportunity wh...

Emergency contraception is up to 75% effective 5 days after unprotected sex, so yes if you hurry you should still have time. We've got more information here: Emergency Contraception (Plan B or the Morning-After-Pill) Are you able to get emergency contraception today? You'll also need to get an STI c...

Hey :) Welcome to the boards! I'm sorry that you're struggling with this. Figuring out what you like for yourself through masturbation is a great start; it's not something that is you can be addicted to really (although if it is getting in the way of other parts of your life like work, school or hob...

Hi! Welcome to the boards :) So the tissues of your vagina and vulva are fairly delicate and prone to tiny cuts and abrasions if treated roughly, but lasting damage would be unusual. Have you started doing anything different recently? Common sources of pain or discomfort in sex (partnered or solo) a...

Hi Pan,

The size of someones breasts is pretty fixed by genetics - much like their height - there is nothing you can do to specifically change their size without surgery. Some fluctuation is normal and usually a response to hormonal or weight changes - not touching or sexual activity.

Hi Alexis, This sounds like a pretty unpleasant experience for you. Can I ask if this was sex you felt you wanted? And if you felt able to stop when it was so painful? Usually, I would say that if it's that dark red colour and not causing any pain that it's your period come early, but because that i...

Okay! Well that sounds like something you can do. I think that making it clear from the outset that you're not mad, but you have something you want to share should help her understand you're not upset with her. Why don't you start out by reading this: How to Clash With Love: Some Conflict Resolution...

Our article here gives the effectiveness ratings for different combinations of birth control: The Buddy System: Effectiveness Rates for Backing Up Your Birth Control With a Second Method Withdrawal + the combined pill is 97.6% effective with typical use. As Heather said above, for most people who st...

millstreet - this is a thoughtful response. This is the user-to-staff section though, please make sure you stick to the user-to-user forums unless you're asking us a question yourself - thanks! avaiara, If this is bothering you then millstreet is right, a conversation with your friend is probably th...

That sounds like a positive thing! I wonder if centreing that openness to discovery and experience in your thinking, rather than what you are/aren't sure of yet, would help you take the pressure off a bit?