Hi Jon,

I'm so, so sorry. Breakups can really suck - especially if they're unexpected or not of our choosing. How are you feeling right now?

It's okay to not be looking for a relationship right now, for any reason. It's also okay to not have a new crush every five minutes - it doesn't mean anythings wrong or that you won't again soon enough. Something that is coming through quite strongly to me both in this thread and your others is that...

Hi pinkpopcorn, When you say first bc pill do you mean first ever, or first of the pack? Starting a new method of birth control can do lots of weird things to your periods whilst everything settles down, including making them super light and appear more like spotting (which can appear as small amoun...

You're welcome! And no worries.

Hi Sara, Is there anything you can point to that suggests something like that could have happened? Things like gaps in your memory, time you can't account for, physical signs like soreness etc? I'm not seeing anything in your post to suggest anything happened, so please share if there is more. I'm a...

Hi! So let's start by acknowledging all the things that you DO do. Speaking up when people say awful things about who gets to use what bathroom is important and hard so doing that is a great start and more than plenty of people manage. It's also important that you look after your own safety and well...

Yeah, I totally get that. It's a lot easier to say "sit with the hard feelings and let them be" than it is to actually do the thing, which is something that comes with time and practice. I don't think that changing your mind means that you were wrong before btw, just that you're figuring t...

Hi Pan,

Wet dreams (or nocturnal emissions) when you ejaculate in your sleep are totally normal and nothing to worry about.

It's okay to have felt one way then and feel a different way now. It even makes sense that as you have had more experiences and learnt more you have developed more of an understanding of what feels right for you just now. I think in terms of what you need to give yourself, you hit on a good point wh...

hi kiiiimbela, It sounds like you might have some microabrasions from the manual sex you had with your boyfriend - tiny scrapes or tears that can bleed a surprising amount. This can happen if the sex is rough or rushed. If it starts happening every time, it's time to see a healthcare provider to mak...

It's totally normal for your desire for sex to vary through your lifetime, so what you're describing is not unusual. If you're both happy and this isn't a source of tension then I'd say you have nothing to be concerned about. Is there something specific you wanted to talk about still?

Hi Herstory, I am glad you have spoken about what you both want from this, and are trying to enjoy as your time together to the full. It's hard to feel powerless in the face of unchangeable things like serious illness, but his options for treatment are his to choose - at the end of the day it's up t...

We're here to answer your questions! Ask away. In answer to your question about projecting jealousy, it sounds like something that happens quite frequently. The important thing here is that these are YOUR feelings to have and to work through, and it's not your partners job to "fix" them an...

Hi Tania, It can be hard to find privacy when you are sharing your space with other people. I would think that maybe you can have a conversation with your roommate about how you live together and give each other space and privacy. This doesn't have to mean talking about masturbation! More sitting do...

Sounds like you have a lot of good insight on what is right for you just now. I totally get what you mean about knowing you're not in the right place for a relationship but also sometimes thinking about how it could be nice, you're right though that you need to be able to maintain a relationship wit...

What would you specifically like help with here unicyu? It sounds like you have a lot of concerns about this relationship, and you've said before that you'd like to learn to have healthier relationships - what have you been doing to achieve that?

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I think it's totally possible to have a friendship with someone when you have those feelings. It can feel odd at first, but if you put your friendship and what is best for each of you first and let your feelings just be without trying to do anything about them you can continue to enjoy eachothers co...

Hi Pan,

We don't give advice on specific techniques, as what works for different people is very different. We have an article here that has more: Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation.

Hi Pan, Heather has already answered that question Pan, they said that there are no health benefits to ingesting semen. There is a lot of information online, and a lot of misinformation too. It's sometimes hard to tell the difference between what information online is reliable and what is not, you m...

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Hi Pan, Just like any other sexual activity there's nothing bad or wrong about enjoying and engaging in anal play as long as you're being safe and everyone involved is comfortable with it. There is no reason to stop if you enjoy it and are safe. On being safe, STIs can be transmitted by sex toys if ...

Emergency contraception is for use after a something that can cause a pregnancy, like unprotected sex, a condom obviously breaking or coming off or sexual assault. It is not designed to be a replacement for birth control . You say "anything sexual sounds like an emergency". That makes me t...

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