Hi Star23, You mentioned in another thread having an emotionally abusive partner. By the sounds of it he may also have been pressuring you to have sex without a condom, which might be a risk level you aren't comfortable with. Do you want to talk some more about that? We can talk about strategies for...

Hi softuris, That's good! Have you thought about speaking to your partner about slowing things down, or only doing sexual things together that don't carry any pregnancy risks? So it sounds like you're getting a bit anxious here - both about the possible consequences of having sex and about taking a ...

Hi softuris,

Sam has already answered that question for you. I see you have a few threads on the go so I'm going to lock this one so we can focus on the anxieties you mentioned in your other thread, which I think are the relevant thing here.

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You're welcome!

Hi Olive! I just came in for my shift and saw your message, it was a total reminder of why I do this. I wouldn't have been on the forums back when you first used them but it is SO GOOD to hear about the difference they made to you, and I hope you hang around again and manage to keep building the lif...

It's great to hear that you've been reading the articles we've shared. As others have said, I do think that it's important that you're BOTH reading and learning if you want to build healthy relationships in the future - together or with anyone else. Has he read them too? So you're saying your relati...

Hi Kim_2704, I'm wondering why whether your friend follows you on instagram is so important to you? We all approach social media differently, but for some it's normal NOT to maintain social media connections with everyone in their offline circles, or to unfollow people they haven't connected with in...

Hi helloworld! Welcome to the boards :) You know, everyone's body is different. Yes, for many people the glans of the clitoris is super sensitive but that doesn't mean that it's going to be the same for everyone. If you've found something that feels good to you, great! As for finding where your clit...

Hey Lostand_found, Those are some pretty wonderful things to know about yourself. I especially love the last one - being able to recognise how far you've come is really important, and you should congratulate yourself. I also find that looking back and being able to see progress makes me feel more ab...

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Hi Bella, If you think that the condom may not have protected you fully then you could choose to take emergency contraception. In future, make sure that the penis is withdrawn from the vagina whilst still erect, and that one of you is holding the base of the condom so that it does not slip off. Lubr...

Mo - the Imperial Radch series is also one of my absolute top sci-fi recommendations these days! Love your taste. If you're open to a bit of fantasy have either of you read the Broken Earth trilogy by N.K.Jemisin? A friend suggested it for me recently and I was enthralled. It explores themes of othe...

I am SO EXCITED to read the third Wayfarer novel, I practically inhaled the first two - I loved how she approached such emotionally complex subjects with a real honest simplicity in her writing.

Hi spotteddog, One of the things we often recommend for people who are worried about pregnancy is the buddy method - using two kinds of birth control together (like condoms and the pill) - to make extra sure that pregnancy doesn't occur, so from that perspective it sounds like your choice is a sound...

That's great news!

I'd say that it's a good thing you are able to think about other things some of the time. This is absolutely a big change for you and a lot of new scary information to get your head around, at the same time it's just one part of your life and all the other parts deserve your time and attention too. ...

hi bluenikuwi, We tend not to focus on specific techniques as we are all so varied that what works for one person won't necessarily do anything for another. One thing I will say is that many people find themselves holding their breath or breathing more shallowly as they get more aroused and approach...

From what you're saying, you started out doing a consensual sexual thing together - great! - but then you started to fall asleep/actually fell asleep and he didn't stop or check in. When you're asleep you're no longer able to consent and so he should stop or the activity stops being consensual - doe...

Have you talked to him some more about this? It's ok to revisit your boundaries and agree new ones together as Al said.

I can't speak for exactly what Heather was trying to get across when they asked that, but some things you might be able to think about are, e.g.: - Would you feel more comfortable knowing that no-one else is in the house? If so, are there times when you're home alone? - You say there is some privacy...

Hi there thetiniest ghost, Severe period pains are something that we'd generally advise getting checked out by a healthcare professional as it can be a sign of Endometriosis . The additional symptoms you're describing make it something worth getting checked out, and your doctor can also answer the q...

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Hi Anon1234, I'm trying to understand what you feel is missing from masturbation for you when you say you don't cum. Many people understand to cum to mean to orgasm, but I hear you saying you are reaching orgasm. Do you mean that you want to ejaculate? If so, we have some info on ejaculation here: S...

Hey Jellowl, What you're describing certainly sounds like a septate hymen, though of course I can't diagnose over the internet. The plan to see a gynecologist is therefore a good one; is that something you can get to sooner rather than later? It sounds like this is not causing major issues in the sh...