Hi Cjh01, If the shot was not scheduled at the correct time (e.g. because it's primarily to control your periods) then it may take up to 7 days to be fully effective. Did you discuss how long you'd need a backup method for with your doctor at the time? Taken within 24 hours of unprotected sex, emerg...

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Hi solareclipse, If you're experiencing intense pain and clumpy, heavy or irregular periods it's worth getting checked out by a healthcare provider as these can be symptoms of endometriosis. Periods are highly variable, and experiencing a change in flow pattern is not unusual, but what you're descri...

Great! It sounds like a visit to the gynecologist is also a really good idea. Do you want to talk about what to expect? Or anything else?

Hi Debs, Yes, it is possible to transmit STIs through sharing sex toys. This is one of the reasons that we often recommend covering them with a condom. Just washing with water isn't totally effective - unless you are sterilising it by boiling and not all toys can be boiled. That's not the only reaso...

If sex is not feeling like the right thing for you, then abstinence is the most effective way of preventing pregnancy or STI transmission, and probably the best for your mental health too if it's stressing you out. Do you want to talk about the symptoms you say you're experiencing with sex? I'm not ...

Hey Bubbles, Relationships are so varied that we can't give hard and fast rules for what a "good" age difference is. In your twenties, a 2 or 3 age difference would often be fine, depending on the exact people involved. We can't say that something is *definitely* going to be ok because the...

Hi solareclipse, Can you tell me a bit more about why you want to share this with your father? By the sounds of it he's been pretty unpleasant recently, and in some ways you're talking about opening up to him about something important to you, which is a privilege that some might feel ought to be ear...

Great! That sounds like a really positive choice.

Hi there ILoveHelloKitty, It sounds like you've thought carefully and worked out what's best for you - great! You're right that ending a relationship, even when we know it's the right thing to do, can be hard. I absolutely agree with you that just because someone is a nice person doesn't mean our re...

Hi MM, I'm so sorry that he chose to do this to you, and not at all surprised that you feel weird around him. As Heather says, the fact that he sexually assaulted you has shown that he's not safe to be around. Love isn't a feeling that always changes over night. Clearly there are things about this p...

So there's not one reliable way of making your body get wet. It's something that often builds as you get aroused over a period of time but not always and not to the same extent for everyone. Giving yourself a little more time to get fully relaxed and aroused may help. In terms of getting hold of lub...

hey solareclipse, I'm sorry that he's ignoring you when you try to speak to him. It sounds like his idea of being a friend is not very friendly. You say you've agreed not to get back together, and from what you're describing that sounds like a good decision. Where do you want to go from here? It doe...

Hi askmeblaire,

If you keep finding that you're bleeding even a with a good level or arousal and lubrication, then I'd suggest checking in with your healthcare provider and seeing what they say. Is that something you have access to?

alone - I'm really pleased that you were looking forward to seeing a psychologist, how has that been going for you? Your dad said some awful things, and I really don't believe that they are true. It's also really great that you were feeling able to let go of your worries around fingering yourself. H...

Hi hiim.maria, I'm sorry that this is making your relationship with your mum so difficult right now. I'm assuming that this is a recent change and he was able to come round to your house before? I would give your mum a bit of space to cool down, and then see if you can have a conversation with her a...

Hi random777, That sounds like a lot to be dealing with at home, I'm sorry. It sounds like your mum might not be the safest person to speak to. You suggest other speaking to other family members as a good first step for you - so shall we help you make a plan for doing that? I hear that you want to l...

Hi VeryConfused! Welcome to the boards :) First off, there's nothing wrong or even particularly unusual about feeling aroused at supernatural creatures. Plenty of people have sexual fantasies and most of those don't match up with reality in a myriad of ways, it just so happens that for you those way...

Hi! Welcome to the boards :) I don't know what "too fast" is to you, but most people with a penis will ejaculate after just a few minutes of direct stimulation, whether they are circumcised or not. Reaching orgasm quickly really doesn't have to be a problem - is there a reason why this wor...

hey silva0! I can't say for sure why you're feeling this way, but healing from trauma can take us through lots of strange combinations of feelings. For example, you might be feeling a bit of dissonance between different ideas of yourself in moving between someone for whom intercourse has been associ...

hey :) I hope it's ok for me to jump in. I think you hit the nail on the head with this bit: I...just feel it's unnecessary for me to try and establish a clear cut path of how a relationship should be. You're right that the rules of how we "should" be doing relationships can hold us back f...

hey there :) Welcome to the boards! It sounds like you're feeling a lot of pressure to feel a particular kind of pleasure. That must be tough. I don't think there's anything "wrong" with you; being stressed about what you are and aren't feeling is a really big turn-off, so it's not surpris...

Hi again BuddyBoi, Breakups can be tough, even if we know it's for the best. How are you holding up? It's ok if you need a bit of time to grieve and process. It sounds to me like you're exploring some things that do feel good right now, but are worrying about what those might turn in to - does that ...

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Hi Hibachi! Welcome to the boards :) Deciding whether to masturbate or not really comes down to personal choice - is it something you want to do and feel good about? What I can tell you is that it is safe, super common and nothing to be ashamed about. You can read a bit more about it here: Is Mastur...