hi gardenGnostic, You're raising some big, important questions here, which is great. When it comes to the differences between abuse and healthy sexual behaviours, I think you pulled out the major points in your first post. As a starting point, abuse is where one person (in this case) exerts power or...

Hi ArzineusYuki, Welcome to the boards :) First off, thewrit3r has made a lot of good points, around looking after your mental health as a priority, and around your sexual preferences not making you a bad person. When you say you can't get therapy, is that because you think you'd have to speak to yo...

Hi Amarie, Exactly how late is a problem depends on your manufacturer, so the best thing to do is to read the information leaflet that came with your pills. By the sounds of it, it may be a good idea to back up your pill with condoms for the rest of this cycle. Since you've had some difficulty takin...

Ok, so when it comes to speaking to her parents, I'm not anticipating a change over night. If you want them to believe that you are trustworthy, probably the most important thing is that they don't find she's been dishonest with them again e.g. by saying she's with friends when she's coming to see y...

Hi Lolools, When it comes to getting support after sexual assault, it doesn't matter how long ago it was, you can always reach out to resources and support. Going back to Sam's questions, have you contacted any rape crisis networks or survivors resources? Is there anyone in your life you've spoken t...

hey OhHeckDatGurl, I'm so sorry that you and your family are going through this right now. It's so awful when the people we love are unwell and maybe don't seem to love or look after themselves the way we wish they could. It sounds like you are doing everything you can to support your family, and I'...

Hi trippyaff, Welcome to the boards :) Sounds like you've already figured out what you need to do, which is have a conversation with him! I get that it can feel kinda unnerving to bring up this kind of conversation but it's pretty crucial to make sure you're all on the same page and no-one gets hurt...

peachypng,

I suggest you read these:

M.I.A or, Dude, Where's My Period?
On the Rag: A Guide to Menstruation

From the second one: "A late period, for the record, is generally considered so only once it is five days later than the latest it is expected."

Hi Tommy, Tommy, I'm sorry that your girlfriend doesn't have the support of her parents to date you. Unfortunately, if I'm remembering your age correctly, as a minor living at home your parents still have a lot of legal decision-making powers and are able to set some house-rules. Possibly, the best ...

Hi jmblya, Like Sam said, we can't know for certain when your cycle will settle down and whether you will get a withdrawal bleed this month. I think that when Sam was asking about birth control options, she meant whether you'd thought about trying something other than the pill, which you wouldn't ha...

Hi jerd_herley! Welcome to the boards :D Crushes ARE sometimes frustrating and fun and irrational all in equal measure. This one sounds pretty high on the frustration axis. I'm in two minds here, part of me wants to believe that this guy has grown up a bit since he treated you horribly in sophomore ...

hi MysteryShadow43 Welcome to the boards! You're right that the exact experience of orgasm varies from person to person, so it's hard for me to tell you for certain what it does or doesn't feel like to you. Feeling some kind of peak, followed by a feeling of being "done" is one way orgasm ...

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I'm glad the note idea feels good to you! Ok, so it seems like we have two separate things here 1) talking to your parents and 2) choosing a doctor. 1) You can keep it simple, for example "Dr XYZ made me feel uncomfortable and so I did some research and got a recommendation for Dr ABC". Yo...

I think you're right that your partner ought not to have ignored your being clearly uncomfortable, I'm sorry you weren't able to speak up more at the time. I don't agree that sex can ever be assumed to be on the cards though, it's not something that ought to happen to us but with us, as and when it ...

Ok, that makes sense. Has your friend ever said anything that suggests they might be interested in a romantic relationship too?

hi dana, I'm sorry that you've had such unpleasant experiences at the gynecologist so far. It's pretty unprofessional for them to do an internal exam without saying what they're doing first, of course it was upsetting. And you're right that your prescription is your business not anyone else's. In an...

Hi dana, Welcome to the boards. Don't worry about the length, this is exactly what we're here for. I'm so sorry that you went through this; both the assault and what sounds like some pretty traumatic sexual experiences afterwards. Neither are your fault, and you don't have to feel this way forever. ...

You're very welcome! Is there anything else you wanted to ask/talk about just now?

Hi Tommy,

We'd be very happy to talk to your sister! We do ask that she makes her own account to speak to us though.

You've clearly done a lot of thinking on this, and you make some good points. I get how confusing and morally ambiguous it can be to be turned on by something you are opposed to in real life. I also hold that fantasies are about our feelings and not our actions - and only our actions impact the worl...

Hi Katy! Whether you "give someone a chance" is all about how you feel - would you do it because you felt good? Or because you felt like you should, or you weren't sure but hoped that is might end up feeling good? Plenty of people have relationships where they don't share exactly the same ...

Hi Jack, Maybe this seems like a silly question, but do you have any idea why orgasm is the goal of masturbation for you? I'm asking because masturbation can be about plenty of other things - like pleasure, or feeling relaxed or getting in touch with your body - and orgasm doesn't have to be the goa...

hey lesbihonest :) Welcome to the boards! So you can't make someone comfortable with something - in fact when our partner reaallly wants something and we're not sure that can make it even scarier if we feel pressured. What you can do is help build a relationship where you both feel happy and comfort...

Hi Jack, No, it isn't your fault. Coercion - coaxing someone into sex when they don't want it - is always wrong and in many places is also against the law. It's only possible to give consent if saying no is also an option that will be accepted. In a caring relationship (even a casual one) both partn...