There's a long history of gender non-conforming women who feel the same way! Not "weird" at all.

I love calling myself a grrrl! I made a hat that says grrr(l) on it once -- kind of a, "I'll go along with this binary thing, but I'm not happy about it" situation. That said, I'm also a big fan of riot grrrl music, so it works on lots of levels.

If only there were a fun word like "heteroflexible" for this! As it is, I think "submissive-leaning switch," as suggested above, or even "submissive with exceptions," as you posted, seems to get the idea across without compromising the sub label that you value.

You say that you're worried that he'll say no because he doesn't know you very well, but part of the fun of going out is getting to know the other person better! Think of it this way, you know him well enough to know that you'd like to hang out outside of work -- if he's shy, this might be the perfe...