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- Wed Apr 29, 2015 1:22 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
- Replies: 174
- Views: 52385
Re: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
Okay, I think it might help for us to circle back to the beginning and refocus a little. What, as of now, would be things that we could do to help you? And what are things you are willing to do to try and help yourself? Too, if you'd like, we can talk about some ways to keep closing channels with th...
- Wed Apr 29, 2015 12:51 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
- Replies: 174
- Views: 52385
Re: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
And then what would happen? That may sound like an odd question, but their emotions are theirs to deal with. So, if all that happens is they would be worried, but they wouldn't stop you (or might even help you), that's not the worlds worst outcome. And, in truth, we cannot go through life letting ou...
- Wed Apr 29, 2015 12:14 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
- Replies: 174
- Views: 52385
Re: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
I see. If it's possible, would you be able to explain how you getting help or taking care of yourself would hurt the people you care about (also, are those people friends? Family?). I mean, given his behavior to you during the relationship, this was not someone who ultimately had your best interests...
- Wed Apr 29, 2015 11:41 am
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
- Replies: 174
- Views: 52385
Re: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
I know how that feels hawley-smoot. It can feel like, sometimes, if you could just keep the image of being okay going long enough, things would actually start to be okay. But the hard truth of things like this is that, no matter how hard we're trying, the unhappiness and hurt shows (and the process ...
- Wed Apr 29, 2015 11:28 am
- Forum: Scarleteen Updates
- Topic: Poll: Do you feel like the expert of your own body?
- Replies: 0
- Views: 1839
Poll: Do you feel like the expert of your own body?
We'd love to hear your thoughts!
http://www.scarleteen.com/node/7719
http://www.scarleteen.com/node/7719
- Wed Apr 29, 2015 9:04 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Does this count as an orgasm?
- Replies: 26
- Views: 8739
Re: Does this count as an orgasm?
I want to take a little detour here to ask, is this kind of dissatisfaction or decrease in pleasure happening elsewhere in your life?
- Wed Apr 29, 2015 8:49 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Does this count as an orgasm?
- Replies: 26
- Views: 8739
Re: Does this count as an orgasm?
Hi namlop, I think something that might help with masturbation, and be translatable to partnered sex, is to do some experimentation or exploration of your body and what you do and do not find pleasurable. That be just taking your time and trying out new motions, positions, or sensations (and some pe...
- Wed Apr 29, 2015 8:41 am
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
- Replies: 174
- Views: 52385
Re: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
Hi Hawley, I will say, it says something about the quality of that relationship that many of your depression symptoms stopped once this person broke up with you. Finding a counselor who you mesh with can be tricky, and sometimes you do have to try one or two before you find someone who works for you...
- Tue Apr 28, 2015 3:10 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Plan B Effect on Menstrual Cycle?
- Replies: 9
- Views: 4428
Re: Plan B Effect on Menstrual Cycle?
Hi anon082,
Yes, one of the side effects of Plan B is that it can create irregularity in menstrual cycles.
Yes, one of the side effects of Plan B is that it can create irregularity in menstrual cycles.
- Tue Apr 28, 2015 2:21 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
- Replies: 174
- Views: 52385
Re: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
The thing is, we can't tell you about the next few years and what they will be like (as much as I wish I could predict the future, I can't). But, one thing I can say is that we have users in this space who have been around for years, and who we've talked with through multiple events and life changes...
- Tue Apr 28, 2015 2:11 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
- Replies: 174
- Views: 52385
Re: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
Okay, we've given you quite a bit of info and a lot of stuff to process all at once and that can be super overwhelming. Something that might help at this point is to take a few days (or as much time as you need) to sort of process and think through what we've talked about, and then decide how you'd ...
- Tue Apr 28, 2015 1:47 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
- Replies: 174
- Views: 52385
Re: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
Hi hawley-smoot, I know the instinct to blame yourself for what happened is strong. But believe me (and Johanna) when we say that, from where we're standing it doesn't look like your fault. That might be something to keep in mind when those thoughts come up. That's not too say that how you're feelin...
- Tue Apr 28, 2015 1:30 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Does this count as an orgasm?
- Replies: 26
- Views: 8739
Re: Does this count as an orgasm?
So, between now and when you have your next partner, it might help to work out what about porn/fantasy would be translatable to an actual interaction (certain dynamics, positions, activities, etc). Too, I think something that might help is to when you are masturbating, start being mindful of how you...
- Tue Apr 28, 2015 1:19 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Does this count as an orgasm?
- Replies: 26
- Views: 8739
Re: Does this count as an orgasm?
Okay, so in those sexual interactions, were you and your partner engaging in stuff where you were able to express your desire to be submissive? Or did that not enter into the interaction? If it hasn't really come up before, that may be part of why you're not finding yourself particularly turned on. ...
- Tue Apr 28, 2015 1:01 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Does this count as an orgasm?
- Replies: 26
- Views: 8739
Re: Does this count as an orgasm?
Hi Namlop, Okay, so if you're someone who tends to enjoy being submissive, then there might be some difference in the pleasure you feel (especially mentally) when you masturbate vs with a partner (it can be hard, after all, to replicate having someone dominate you when you're alone). When you've bee...
- Tue Apr 28, 2015 12:38 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Does this count as an orgasm?
- Replies: 26
- Views: 8739
Re: Does this count as an orgasm?
Okay, that's still on the physical end in a lot of ways. In those memories you have of those physical things, do you have a sense of what your mind and emotions felt like at the time? Too, let's take it a step back and talk about pleasure in general. With things (that aren't sex) in your life that y...
- Tue Apr 28, 2015 11:48 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Does this count as an orgasm?
- Replies: 26
- Views: 8739
Re: Does this count as an orgasm?
Hi Namlop, You're right that if some of what you're experiencing has to do with not recognizing what's happening as arousal, then the underlying issue has less to do with getting the feelings to happen and more to do with how you're reacting to those feelings. I think it can help to take a step back...
- Tue Apr 28, 2015 10:18 am
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: What happens during ovulation?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2669
Re: What happens during ovulation?
Hi Icantthink,
If you haven't, I'd start by reading these pieces and seeing if they clarify things for you:
Get With the Flow: All About FAM
Honorably Discharged: A Guide to Vaginal Secretions
On the Rag: A Guide to Menstruation
If you haven't, I'd start by reading these pieces and seeing if they clarify things for you:
Get With the Flow: All About FAM
Honorably Discharged: A Guide to Vaginal Secretions
On the Rag: A Guide to Menstruation
- Tue Apr 28, 2015 8:46 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Does this count as an orgasm?
- Replies: 26
- Views: 8739
Re: Does this count as an orgasm?
Hi namlop,
Just to clarify, is this sensation occurring while you're doing something sexual (either with a partner or on your own)?
Just to clarify, is this sensation occurring while you're doing something sexual (either with a partner or on your own)?
- Mon Apr 27, 2015 2:29 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Your Wishes Around Parents and Sex
- Replies: 8
- Views: 4937
Your Wishes Around Parents and Sex
So, we'll be launching a new section of Scarleteen soon, one that's aimed at parents. Specifically, we want to create a space to talk with parents about what their teens wish they knew/would do (or not do) around sex (and that includes things like body image, relationships, and sexual orientation/ge...
- Fri Apr 24, 2015 8:57 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Withdrawal Bleed Question
- Replies: 4
- Views: 2019
Re: Withdrawal Bleed Question
Hi celica, I'm going to quote Heather from this article: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/what_do_you_want_to_know_about_periods_and_sex "a period has you shedding the lining needed for a fertilized egg to implant in, and because around the time a period starts, there usually is not an ...
- Fri Apr 24, 2015 7:50 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Sexually Abused Trigger
- Replies: 1
- Views: 1240
Re: Sexually Abused Trigger
Hi whatacath, First off, I'm sorry for what happened (both the initial abuse and the trigger). Those are sucky feelings in so many ways. I think, if it's not something you're already doing, seeking out a therapist to talk about this with would be sound. It would give a trained person to work through...
Re: Acurracy
Hi Ashley, We have a guide to how to use fertility awareness method here, if you're interested in it: Get With the Flow: All About FAM If you are having pregnancy worries, we ask that you start out by walking through this article: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodies/the_pregnancy_panic_companion
- Thu Apr 23, 2015 7:51 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Picky Mother
- Replies: 14
- Views: 5028
Re: Picky Mother
Ah, I see. I think a part of this may be that she's having trouble adjusting to the fact that you are growing up, and are hitting the point where more and more of your decisions (big and little) will be made without treating her view as the final word. But, whatever her reasons, it's still not pleas...
- Thu Apr 23, 2015 7:46 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Feeing smothered by my mom
- Replies: 7
- Views: 3286
Re: Feeing smothered by my mom
Hi muskratsunshine, I'm glad to hear that you two were able to talk in that way, even if the realization you came to was not a happy one. It can be incredibly hard when someone we love (and someone we view, in a way, as a caretaker of us) is struggling with depression in this way. You want to help y...