Ah, okay, so if you're using a condom and withdrawl (aka pull-out/off) then your odds of pregnancy from any intercourse are very low to start out with. If she ever decides she wants to use hormonal birth control, you can always send her our way

I'm going to quote an answer from elsewhere on the site to a similar question: "Pregnancy isn't something that happens instantly: it's a process which takes around a week or so to complete. However, because a period has you shedding the lining needed for a fertilized egg to implant in, and beca...

Hi Charlott3,

I'm not sure if we have a general get to know you thread (if we do, it's likely buried in this section) but we do have many threads spread across the boards that are discussions about slightly more specific topics, but are definitely letting folks get to know each other as well

Just to clarify, are you saying that you and your girlfriend had intercourse (sans birth control) and then she got her period a day or so later? Or are you talking about a hypothetical situation?

Your girlfriend is correct, it's not uncommon for periods to arrival at odd times now and then. You can read more about that here: M.I.A or, Dude, Where's My Period? And yes, someone who is pregnant will not have their period. But, she's had at least one since the incident you are worried about.

New article from Heather!

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/relat ... ing_bummer

If she has had her period since the incident, then she can assume she is not pregnant. However, if she wants to be extra sure, she can always take a pregnancy test. Also, since you sound anxious about this, do you want to talk about ways to prevent that anxiety in the future, be that using a differe...

Hi mj2002, So, many people experience some weirdness in their menstrual cycle when they start the pill, since their body is adjusting to being on it. And, with her starting one, using it for two months, then stopping for two months, then starting a new type of pill, that could definitely cause her c...

Hi JB, I want to second Heather's suggestion, and also let you know that the way you're feeling is not weird or out of proportion. When you've been around someone who acts like Jay does, it can be really hard to gauge and trust your own gut and reactions. So, spending time without contact may make i...

Hi JB, You're quite welcome, I'm glad it's helpful. For that text message he sent? I'm betting on further manipulation. Because, in the past, when you've told him your feelings, or what was upsetting or bothering you, you end up apologizing or getting caught in an endless loop or having to justify w...

Hi JB, I'm glad you feel safe talking to us about stuff like this. I think your internal warning bells are reading Jay about right. There were several things that jumped out at me, including how you felt like you were always in the wrong when you two were in a romantic relationship, his jealousy and...

Yep, that's correct

If you've been having anxiety like this for awhile, it might be time to check in with a counselor, so you have someone to talk to who can help you figure out ways to address those anxious feelings.

Hi Daisy,

I think a good place to start is with this article (it actually addresses you initial question, but also discusses the mechanics of the pill):
Three questions about taking the birth control pill (and plenty of answers)

Hi daisydaisy, Yes, she was incorrect, someone who is pregnant will not get their period (or their withdrawl bleed). So, if you're on the pill and have a pregnancy scare, getting a withdrawl bleed will signal that you're not pregnant (although we recommend testing as the best way to get a concrete a...

Hi Reduxx, So, for perfect vs typical, I'm going to quote what Heather writes in BC bingo: "Effectiveness rates of contraceptive methods are all figured based on one full year of use, not for each single incident of sex or use of a method. Perfect, or proper, use of a method means that in one y...

Hi Fender,

Keep taking the next pack as directed and see what happens. Although it sounds like you're having symptoms that tend to come before your period, so it might arrive soon.

(also yay! on being able to see you old therapist )

Something we talk about a lot when it comes to relationships (both with romantic or sexual partners, but also with friends and family) is the idea that a healthy relationship involves trust. But what does that trust actually look like in practice, and what does it feel like to you? What have been si...

Hi Faunamaude,

I'm so glad you're still doing well! We're all sending good thoughts your way

Hi Maya, One further thought: if S threatens self-harm again to M (or you)? Treat it as a genuine threat, and respond accordingly (not by giving in to their demands). Tell S something along the lines of "Gosh, I'm really worried you are going to hurt yourself with how you are talking, so I need...

Hi maya, For the condom issue, it might be that the size of condom he was using wasn't quite right. Fixing that is just a matter of experimenting with different sizes and brands of condom. As for positions, that's really up to you two to play around with what's possible and comfortable. You can also...

Hi brokenballerina, So, just so you know, there is no way for this doctor to know you've engaged in sexual behavior (or if you were sexually assaulted). They can't tell just by looking at your genitals. Have you let your mom know that you'd feel more comfortable seeing a woman? If not, try telling h...

Hi beedrill, So, if you haven't done so recently, it's time to schedule an appointment with and OBGYN. It's a good habit to get into, but it will also help you determine if the source of the discomfort is coming from something physical. Do you have a way to access that type of resource? I will say t...

Hi aj2234, If the person who proscribed the pills has instructed you to switch that way, then go ahead and follow their directions. And, using a condom is always a good plan for backing up the pill. The day you used withdrawl, since you were taking your Yasmin like normal, you still had protection f...

Hi Icanteven, No, it makes sense (even when someone is awful to you, it's pretty common to have an impulse to protect them). Although, given her behavior towards you, one has to consider how safe she is for a newborn. I'm glad you're with your dad and (it sounds like) somewhere you feel safe. One th...

Hi Questions,

PMS symptoms are the result of hormone fluctuations in your body, so even when you're on the pill, those fluctuations are not going to disappear entirely.