If you don't feel comfortable telling your friends, have you been able to talk to anyone in your family? Do they know you were assaulted two years ago, and have you had any help dealing with that? As for what to tell your boyfriend, maybe you can start by writing out what you want to say to him. Jus...

Welcome to Scarleteen, Letter! It sounds like you have been going through a lot of stuff and are in a pretty tough situation. I am so sorry to hear that! Before we talk about anything else, I want to make sure that you are safe right now, since you've said that you self-harmed. How are you feeling r...

While some people do still think that it's not okay to be attracted to the same-sex, it is actually perfectly alright. I am going to link you to some articles that I think you might find helpful:
The Rainbow Connection: Orientation for Everyone
Q is for Questioning

Welcome to the boards, Confused_me! I am sorry to hear you're feeling so scared and freaked. Feelings can do that to us, especially when they're all new and we don't know what to do about them. Can you talk a little about about what scares you about these feelings, and why you don't want to be attra...

Welcome to Scarleteen, najeeb pasha! Good on you for wanting to be safe! I am going to link you to some articles that you'll hopefulyl find helpful, and then we can discuss any specific questions you may have. Safe, Sound & Sexy: A Safer Sex How-To Ready or Not? The Scarleteen Sex Readiness Chec...

If you backed up with condoms, you should be just fine!

If you had a bout of diarrhea right after taking the pill (and by that, we mean real everything-going-straight-through-you diarrhea, not just some loose stools), you would probably do best to consider it missed, and then follow the instructions that came with your pill for making up a missed pill. I...

If you use a condom correctly and for all genital contact, it is 98% effective at preventing pregnancy. You can read more on how to correctly use a condom here: Condom Basics: A User's Manual There is no need to use spermicidal condoms. There is not enough spermicide on them to really add much prote...

Intercourse is specifically when a penis is inserted in a vagina. When you are using fingers, that would be called fingering or manual sex.

Welcome to Scarleteen, qwerty. We cannot comment about the content of other sites - if you have questions about something posted on another site, you can ask them there. if you want more information about whether the situation you described poses a risk, you can check out this article: http://www.sc...

Hi, MoonStone!

No, you are not wierd for liking BDSM. Plenty of people do, after all, and if practiced safely it can be a very satisfying part of a healthy sexuality. Do you want to talk about why you are afraid that you have a 'messed up' mind?

What you are describing sounds like a common side-effect of first starting birth control. You may experience these symptoms during the first three months or so of taking the pill.

Welcome to Scarleteen, PrincessLuLu! It sounds like you have done a lot of research on this and know what you're doing, that's great! Whether you want to go ahead and ditch condoms is a question of how comfortable you feel with risks. If you both have never had any other sexual contact, then your ri...

It sounds like you might be dealing with a UTI, so it is time to be seen by a doctor.

Have you looked at the section for dry humping (which is what you are describing)? It says this right there: "No risk, so long as at least one partner is wearing clothing that covers their genitals." It does not sound like your period is late yet, as variations of a couple of days either w...

Welcome to Scarleteen, Andromeda! Can you take a look at this article? It should answer your questions: Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?

PMS, like everything about the menstrual cycle, can vary a little from month to month. That's not unusual at all. If your PMS symptoms are sometimes very strong, however, you can talk to your gynecologist about finding a possible underlying cause. Whether or not you are having sex has no influence o...

Even a regular period can be late from time to time. And a period that starts a day or two after you expected it would not even be considered late, as there is just usually quite a bit of variation in the menstrual cycle. If the cramps are pretty sever and you are worried, however, it's not a bad id...

If you used a condom for all genital contact, and it did not break or slip off, you can trust that the condom did its job in protecting you from pregnancy. How regular is your period usually? Do you usually experience the PMS symptoms you are experiencing right now? I also want to talk to you about ...

Does your college have a health center? If you paid a health fee with your tuition, you may be able to take advantage of some services on campus. It might be worth it to talk to someone at the health center about your options.

Yep - once you swallowed it, it's on its way to your stomach, and no longer in your mouth.

You had already swallowed the pill, so there is nothing to worry about.

Welcome to Scarleteen! I hear that you feel pretty anxious and insecure. And no wonder, give what you've experienced in other places where you asked for advice. Let me assure you that no one here is going to laugh at you. I can also assure you that you are, indeed, completely normal. One piece of ad...

Welcome to Scarleteen, Hearth6!

I am not sure I can picture what you are describing, but as long as the packets are sealed and none of the blisters packs are broken open at all, it should be just fine. If you want to double check to be sure, your pharmacist is the person to call.

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