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Re: Foods
You are in luck: we just added a new article about what does and does not interact with hormonal birth control. Check it out - http://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodie ... th_control
- Thu Jun 11, 2015 4:22 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: First Gyno Visit tomorrow, advice?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 1878
Re: First Gyno Visit tomorrow, advice?
We have an article that may help ease some of your fears: Your First Gynecologist Visit In terms of what questions to ask, why don't you make a list of all the things you want to discuss and and the concerns you have right now? That way, you can have a reminder with you and don't need to worry about...
- Mon Jun 08, 2015 4:10 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: straight yet confused
- Replies: 16
- Views: 6008
Re: straight yet confused
I would advise against it. From what you are reporting, it sounds like this is already a situation full of confusion and uncertainty, and in situations like that, foregoing communication is only likely to make things more confusing. How do you feel about the idea of making a list to put some order i...
- Mon Jun 08, 2015 3:54 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: straight yet confused
- Replies: 16
- Views: 6008
Re: straight yet confused
I hear you - rejection can be hard to face. But I do think it's important that you talk to her and see how she feels. That conversation can totally include you letting her know that you feel ambivalent, and that on the one hand you miss kissing her, but on the other hand you're feeling conflicted an...
- Mon Jun 08, 2015 3:12 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: straight yet confused
- Replies: 16
- Views: 6008
Re: straight yet confused
It sounds like you two have been able to talk about this topic before, so can you tell me why you are reluctant to talk to her explicitly about where to take things from here?
- Mon Jun 08, 2015 3:05 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: straight yet confused
- Replies: 16
- Views: 6008
Re: straight yet confused
Well, because sexuality is not static. Who we feel attracted to and what gives us pleasure can vary a lot. We all have the capacity to be attracted to all sorts of people, all sorts of genders and personality traits and physical traits. And even if we feel that we have a type, a specific kind of per...
- Sun Jun 07, 2015 9:48 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: straight yet confused
- Replies: 16
- Views: 6008
Re: straight yet confused
Welcome to Scarleteen, sunburnt! I'll start with answering the questions you posed at the end of your article, if that's alright. I think that you both can totally consider yourself whatever you feel most comfortable with. Identities and labels are not prescriptive, they are not given to you by some...
- Wed May 27, 2015 9:42 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Going back on Birth control
- Replies: 7
- Views: 2682
Re: Going back on Birth control
Rainbow, did you discuss your IBS with your doctor? An oral contraceptive may not be the best choice for you, if you regularly have gastrointestinal issues. Something like the implant or the shot, or an IUD, may be a better option for you. Please let me know if you'd like some more info about any of...
- Mon May 25, 2015 3:20 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: I told my Dad I had Sex
- Replies: 26
- Views: 12730
Re: I told my Dad I had Sex
Have you talked to your father about your feelings that your relationship with him feels problematic lately? Has he voiced specifically feeling like you made the wrong decision about being sexually active with your partner? Because it sounded to me like he was fairly cool in his reaction when you to...
- Mon May 25, 2015 3:02 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: I told my Dad I had Sex
- Replies: 26
- Views: 12730
Re: I told my Dad I had Sex
Welcome to Scarleteen, BabyRedbirde! There is a lot of stuff going on in your life that we could talk about here (and if you're up for it I would really like to talk to you about your relationship with your boyfriend because I see some red flags there), but it sounds to me like your primary focus ri...
- Mon May 25, 2015 11:16 am
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
- Replies: 174
- Views: 54095
Re: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
Can I ask what those methods are, and how they are impacted by your self-esteem? If you need new methods that are healthier and work better for you, you can also take a look at our "Anxiety Lies" article, if you haven't already, and follow the links we have in the side bar: http://www.scar...
- Mon May 25, 2015 10:53 am
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: did my ex rape me?
- Replies: 5
- Views: 4218
Re: did my ex rape me?
Coming to terms with having been in any kind of abuse, but certainly having been in an abusive relationship where you also cared a lot about that person can be a really long process. So some going back and forth on this is certainly to be expected. While I understand the impulse to be hard on yourse...
- Sun May 24, 2015 3:07 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Whether to take EC
- Replies: 1
- Views: 1364
Re: Whether to take EC
This is really a decision you need to make for yourself. You already know that the risk was very low, so there is nothing for me to add to that. If you know you'd feel better taking EC, then it's the way to go. In terms of condoms, have you tried using bigger condoms to give him some extra room? Ano...
- Sun May 24, 2015 3:02 pm
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: did my ex rape me?
- Replies: 5
- Views: 4218
Re: did my ex rape me?
Hi Furiousa! Welcome to the boards. I love your kick-ass name! It sounds like you already know the answer to the question in your title, but I also know how much it can help to hear it from someone else, specially someone who is impartial - yes, what your ex-partner was sexual assault. In fact, it s...
- Sun May 24, 2015 11:39 am
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
- Replies: 174
- Views: 54095
Re: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
Thank you for being honest with us, Hawley. I really appreciate that. I understand what it can be like to be in the middle of a panic, and talking or writing through things can sometimes really help. However, if you're writing through your panic and then asking us questions as though this is a thing...
- Fri May 22, 2015 1:21 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
- Replies: 174
- Views: 54095
Re: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
Hi Hawley. I've been following this conversation between you and Heather, and reading this, it seemed to me like there is a pattern with the way you interact with us here. There've been a few instances in this thread where you reported something to us that sounded pretty serious, and where you seeme...
- Thu May 21, 2015 8:48 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
- Replies: 174
- Views: 54095
Re: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
If a lot of this is happening in class, then I do think that a teacher or your guidance counselor would be the right person to inform. If you have saved some of his threatening text messages, you might want to show those, as well. And if he is harrassing your friend now, as well, maybe the two of yo...
- Thu May 21, 2015 8:14 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
- Replies: 174
- Views: 54095
Re: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
This is absolutely a place where we can discuss this! You've said before that you are in touch with him via mutual friends, and he still calls you. Do I have that right? Is there any other type of interaction that you have with him?
- Wed May 20, 2015 6:44 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Brown discharge and Birth Control Pill
- Replies: 7
- Views: 3756
Re: Brown discharge and Birth Control Pill
Are you up to date on your reproductive healthcare? Did you have a break between stopping your old pill and starting this new one? And how long have you been having this discharge?
- Tue May 19, 2015 7:50 pm
- Forum: Sexual Health
- Topic: Worrying for no reason? (not a preg scare)
- Replies: 1
- Views: 2113
Re: Worrying for no reason? (not a preg scare)
Can you please follow the steps outlined for your situation in this article? http://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodie ... _companion
- Tue May 19, 2015 7:44 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Feeling Yuck About Natural Lubricants...
- Replies: 12
- Views: 4891
Re: Feeling Yuck About Natural Lubricants...
Have you given flavored condoms a try? They're not a stellar idea for intercourse (the sugar in them can cause infections) but they're a great option for oral sex! But also, it sounds like you two have found a few activities that you both really enjoy engaging in! There is no need to rush on to othe...
- Tue May 19, 2015 7:13 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: stressed about pregnancy
- Replies: 7
- Views: 2670
Re: stressed about pregnancy
Condoms may still fail, even when used correctly. However, a failure is noticeable - when a condom fails, it bursts like a balloon.
- Tue May 19, 2015 7:10 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: The Pill and Spotting?
- Replies: 27
- Views: 8051
Re: The Pill and Spotting?
This may well be your withdrawal bleed and it just showed early this month. Or you're having some breakthrough bleeding and will have your regular withdrawal next week. We can't really know, but breakthrough bleeding isn't unusual, as others have assured you, and since you're backing up with condoms...
- Tue May 19, 2015 4:20 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: stressed about pregnancy
- Replies: 7
- Views: 2670
Re: stressed about pregnancy
Here is our info on condoms, which should also answer your questions:
Condom Basics: A User's Manual
All the Barriers! All the Time!
Condom Basics: A User's Manual
All the Barriers! All the Time!
- Tue May 19, 2015 5:54 am
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
- Replies: 174
- Views: 54095
Re: I'm struggling with how I feel about sex
What is your homelife like? You have not really told us much about that, and what we learn in in our childhood about relationships as well as other interpersonal dynamics, and what attitues about sex we grow up with, absolutely impacts how we conduct our own relationships as adults. So if you want t...