Hi, First I want to say how much this site has helped me through the years. I've asked questions that have received awesome answers, but just reading the site's articles and answers to other people's questions have been invaluable in my life. I feel secure knowing I have a resource I can fall back o...

One of my go-to queer movies is "But I'm a Cheerleader". Campy, funny, strange, super-queer, and with a bonus of a happy ending!

Hi, Virginia. My name is Genie. Thank you for coming here and reaching out. I'm sorry for what you had to go through and what you are still experiencing today. I have to be honest, I don't know what you are going through, as I am not a survivor of trauma myself. I can absolutely empathize with you, ...

Hello Scarleteen! Fast facts: Genie is my name Cis girl 21 College student "Virgin", even though I don't really subscribe to that construct. My question has me super conflicted. I watch porn. I used to watched all free porn, but when I discovered Feminism, I stopped doing that because it j...

Hi Confusedwoman12, You are absolutely not alone! I have never wanted children, and as I get older, the feeling doesn't go away- it gets stronger! I am 21 also, and I have been thinking about sterilization for several years now. I actually made a topic on this message board asking about it- similar ...

Hi, Thanks for all the advice you've given me along the way. As you may know, I'm a 20 year old cis girl in college. I met someone (a cis guy) recently. :D I kinda like him. Okay- just full on like - him, and he says that he likes me too. I wouldn't call what we have a 'relationship' by any stretch ...

Hi there! I do not have a penis, but some of my guy friends do. I have some ideas about what I would do, but I really can't spew kto the efficacy/practicality of these suggestions. I will just relay the experiences of one guy friend with whom I talked about this subject. He uses a condom. You can yo...

Like Sam W says, there really is no perfect time to be in a relationship. There's also no age too old not to have had a significant other. You have to be ready, and there also has to be (at least) one person you want to start a relationship with. Forcing yourself into something because other people ...

I havent checked this post in a long time, but when I read the first line I was like :lol: So true. As long as what I use is flexible, it goes in at least partially. For me, smaller is better right now. Thanks for all the help and advice. P.S. I got something way better for Christmas- Your book! I'v...

A couple of things: 1) Most importantly- massaging yourself/your breasts and nipples is absolutely not a bad thing. 2) If it gives you pleasure or makes you feel good in any way, keep it up- there's no reason to stop. 3) Unfortunately, it will not be effective in stimulating breast growth. Your boob...

Thanks everyone! I'll be sure to bring this up. A little update: I bought some "toys" online. They were thinner (less than 1'' wide), and flexible. No problems there. There only seems to be a problem with wider, harder, inflexible things. Maybe a little too much info, but I'd thought I'd g...

Hi! 20yr old cis (non-trans) girl here. Yeah, its totally fine. I agree with Sam. What you do alone and in your own head should stay that way. Totally fine as long as it doesn't mix with your personal life. Treat them like you always do. Just want to note: Its NOT fine if the pictures you use were t...

Thank you so much for your response! I truly appreciate it. You make some good points- I think I will write the issue down and hand it to her, or read it before hand. Also, I was never worried about her telling my mother. I have complete confidence that that would never happen. I guess my main conce...

Hi! My name's Genie. 20 yrs old Cis, Predominantly Het, Able-Bodied Girl Lives in NY, USA Today, I have some questions about my vagina. These questions require some backstory. I consider myself to have a pretty (maybe even very) active sex life. However, that sex life has not yet included another pe...

Hey everyone, Just wanted to give you an update. Today, at college I had an interaction similar to the ones I described however, I feel that this was handled in the correct way. I was sitting in class (its a lecture hall with chairs attach a big table that acts like desks. There are many rows each o...

I dont, but if its super thick, you may have to. The one I use is super creamy and soft, so no water necessary.

Keda, YES! I completely agree. Rejection is not a super big issue for me, but usually when I approach others for sexual/romantic purposes (asking out on a date, initiating a kiss, etc.) it is after I have worked through my feelings, and throughly analyzed the situation (maybe over-analyzed...) and w...

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I am the owner of a vagina, so I may not have much authority in this conversation, but I've had the same problem (wanting to masturbate without parents finding out). I know the vagina is more sensitive than the penis, but I would stay away from heavily scented lotions- also avoid lotions with specia...

Hi again, I have kind of a random question having to do with personal boundaries. I know that everybody has their own boundaries involving their personal space and bodies. But what about when someone's boundaries are violated by somebody who did not know the person had these particular boundaries? I...

This message board is mainly for questions from people asking for help. I wanted to start a thread thanking the people at Scarleteen for the work they do. Maybe whoever posts here can state what Scarleteen means to them, and what the site and the people have helped them with in their lives? I'll sta...

Hi again. This question is actually about a friend. I have this friend I met in college about a month and a half ago. We have class twice a week together, have hung out a few times, run in some of the same circles, and text every so often. I would not say we are close friends, but I feel we are head...

Wow, thanks guys! This was the kind of question where, deep down, I already knew the answer, I guess I was just looking for confirmation. I totally get what you guys are saying! I guess I was just looking for the opinions of people who had already lived similar experiences. Great point, Avocado Lime...

Hi again, Now that I finally got an account I can ask all of the questions I never got a chance to! (Not too many, promise) Ok, so to recap: Name- Genie 20 years old (College Fresh(wo)man- yay!) Cis/Predominantly Hetero Female Virgin (even though I know its a construct :D ) Have never been in a roma...

Thank you so much for such a thoughtful response- and so quick too! I totally get and agree with everything you are saying. In response to sterilization stigma (doing it so young) I was thinking (if I encounter resistance from my regular GYN) about going to Planned Parenthood. Do you think that I wi...