You already have one thread where you're asking us about this, so I'm closing this one. Our user guidelines make clear that sometimes users may need to wait a little for an answer, and ask you to wait at least 24 hours before bumping or asking again. Please don't create multiple threads or posts to ...

How do you feel the kind of life he leads impacts the relationship with you? Sometimes, the way a partner lives their best life - or simply chooses to live their life - impacts the relationship. Maybe it has practical effects, and the kind of shared life isn't what we want or need; or perhaps we hav...

I think everyone feels some discomfort with conversations like this, yes! Of course you don't like making other people upset, especially anyone you care about. It's one of those things that does happen occasionally, though: part of relating to other people is that there are going to be differences a...

I don't think there's a need to do that. There doesn't have to be anything that bothers him for it to be okay for you to say to him what you want to say to him: there doesn't need to be an immediate equal exchange of things like this in a relationship. It's also okay to feel upset if someone tells u...

My first kiss story sounds like the perfect romantic dream story you're "supposed" to imagine, and then it really, really isn't. With someone I'd known and been friends with for a while, someone who'd always been nice to me, someone who I knew really liked me. In private, in a field, in th...

Sign me up to the list of people who can't stand the "leagues" framework! When I was newly together with my now live-in partner, someone I was acquainted with thought I could do "better", on a few common-but-broken ways of assessing what "league" someone's in. It was hu...

I'm wondering if some of your hinky feelings about that conversation are coming from your boundaries being overstepped by the guy you were talking to. Can I reflect back to you a couple of things you said when you started talking with us about this? You said occasionally turned inappropriate on his ...

One extra thing to what Ashleah said: for specific resources from our site, you might share Ready or Not? The Scarleteen Sex Readiness Checklist with your sister.

If you had one late pill, you'll want to figure that the kind of effectiveness your pill is giving you is most likely in line with the pill's effectiveness in typical use: that's 91% over a whole year. If that doesn't feel enough for you, a good option for the future is to team your pill with anothe...

Also, TellyBelly, you said you were taking Flagyl for it: was that prescribed for you by a healthcare professional who had diagnosed you with a vaginal bacterial infection? You definitely don't want to self-treat something like this. Antibiotics - which is what Flagyl is (metronidazole) - upset the ...

Would you like to talk more about the relationship? What do you feel nervous about with your relationship? If you're having unrealistic worries that you know are unrealistic, and they're not going away even when you tell yourself they're unrealistic, that suggests that anxiety might be part of the p...

Please read and respect this: http://www.scarleteen.com/bb/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=450

It might also help to approach things from a different angle: to focus on the things that you both enjoy and have fun doing together. If he's feeling nervous or worried, that's a cue he likely needs a slower pace at the moment, so you both might do well with exploring ways of being close, intimate o...

Not tmi at all, we're here to have these kinds of conversations :) The tissues inside the vagina and around the vulva are quite delicate and can get small injuries from rough treatment. If you're not in any pain and you're not bleeding any more, it doesn't sound like you need to see a healthcare pro...

Also, it looks like you already have an account with us - we ask that people have just one account each so we can do our jobs best. Can you continue with the old one, please, and we'll shut this one off? (If you need the password, you can get a new one sent to the email address you signed up for tha...

Perhaps it might help to try to be very explicit to your boyfriend that "great sex" isn't the same thing as "everyone has an orgasm", and that orgasms aren't a necessary part of great sex? It's a very individual thing, and certainly some people - like you at the moment - don't wa...

Breakthrough bleeding has nothing to do with the effectiveness of your pill, so there's no concern there. It's possible it's connected to taking Plan B, because emergency contraception can cause some menstrual wonkiness for a few cycles. Changes in routine and the physical effects of stress and anxi...

Condoms are designed so that fluids stay inside them and don't come out from the ring. Obviously, we weren't there, so we can't know what happened. However, you said that the condom didn't come completely off: that sounds like you should still be protected, as the condom is still providing a barrier...

The most current research indicates that nearly all antibiotics are not likely to interfere with the pill - the one important exception is antibiotics which are prescribed for TB. Did the doctor or pharmacist who prescribed and gave you antibiotics know that you also take the pill, and what instruct...

Are you up-to-date with your sexual healthcare, including STI testing?

It doesn't talk about vomiting outside of 4 hours after taking your pill because there's no impact, no concern, and nothing you need to do:) Your pill will be absorbed within 2-3 hours of taking it (leaflets often give instructions using 4 hours to be on the safe side, and you should go with what yo...

It can take some considerable time for someone to be able to mentally extricate themself from an abusive houshold, particularly if that household is one they grew up in and/or they have little belief in their own competence. She may have made a very big step by talking so openly with you, and that r...

If it helps at all, the people receiving your email or phone call will be very used to people not being sure how to start talking about things, or finding it hard to start talking. They'll be okay with whatever you feel is right for you to say, or whatever you can manage. They'll also very likely be...

Littlemissms, please read and respect this: http://www.scarleteen.com/bb/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=450

(I removed a previous reply because it was incorrect, and from another user when this board - Ask Us - is for staff replies only.) If you haven't had any sexual contact with her recently that could result in pregnancy, any pills she may have missed this month aren't any concern for you. It's extreme...