We're not offering you space here to talk about this in the ways that we already have with you, because as Karyn said in the quotation above, we have simply already made any and all of the responses that we possibly can, and repeating those conversations isn't constructive for us, you, or anyone els...

Okay. Let's imagine you and he are going to see a film. You both want to go see an animal documentary. You want to see a film about wombats: you've been reading about them and think they're interesting, and maybe you might do some future study about wombat behaviour or work in wombat care, who knows...

I confess, I feel a little lost about what, exactly, these people think is the matter with your boyfriend. I'm wanting to be a little cautious about not just riding over their concerns, because sometimes people genuinely do find it hard to describe an issue. But honestly, in what you've written here...

Have you seen Your First Gynecologist Visit ? That should fill you in well.

As with any medical procedure, there's always a risk of complications, even if that risk is very low, like it is for abortion. While that means it's very, very unlikely that any one individual person will experience complications, it does mean that complications happen to someone, somewhere. I'm sor...

Too, I assume that you like C and enjoy spending time with her? If so, maybe try focusing on building and nurturing your overall relationship with her, entirely separately from this issue. If she feels like people are just trying to talk to her about this and not much else, and she doesn't want to t...

Yep, you would count that as having some bleeding on that day. If you're wanting to keep detailed records, you can of course note whether you're having heavy or light flow on each day

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Given that you had bleeding for 4 days, that may have been your period - but there's just no way to know for sure. Sorry, we don't have any kind of magic communication with your body to be able to tell you exactly where it's at, and nor is there any in-the-know formula we can let you in on :) So, yo...

Welcome to the boards, rastheexhorter. Some of this is likely simply about your mind and body adapting to the sexuality you're growing into at the moment. Like any change, and any significant new thing, it can take some time and adjustment to get comfortably settled :) . It doesn't sound like trying...

We make it clear in the user agreement you agreed to when you signed up that we ask users to have just one account with us, not least so that we can do our jobs best and most efficiently (or to let us know, in the case of some technical difficulty). There's nothing new or different that we can or wo...

Welcome to the boards, anonymoushuman! Assuming you're asking about vaginal discharge, having some discharge is simply part of having a vagina. The vagina is self-cleaning, and discharge is part of how it does that. Have you seen our piece Honorably Discharged: A Guide to Vaginal Secretions ? It mig...

Have you seen other vulvas, either in person or in realistic pictures or illustrations? There's a lot of odd ideas and discomfort with vulvas in society generally - demonstrated in the awkwardness many people feel about just the words "vulva" and "vagina", simply the names for bo...

I'm a survivor of teen-on-child sexual abuse, and I'm very happy to say that it is very, very rear-view mirror. Things became absolute hell for me around the age of 16 (years after the abuse stopped), when I grew into my own young-adult sexuality, and the abuse came back to me vividly and powerfully...

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You and our many regulars will, I think, be entirely unsurprised that it was Heather

New advice column from Heather: A problem with "premature" ejaculation... maybe isn't premature ejaculation ctguy asks: My boyfriend and I started having sex about a week ago. Our first time was also my first time having sex. The three times we've had sex so far, I've finished a lot earli...

Once you've completed the first pack, so long as you've taken all your pills correctly, you can expect your pill to have its full effectiveness. We would still suggest using a condom or other barrier method as well as your pill. That's because, while the pill is very effective, there is still a smal...

Welcome to the boards! You know, my overall reaction to what you've said about your parents' input here is "oof, people assuming that what would be right for Them (or what they think would be right for them) in a particular situation is therefore right for All Other People... I wish people woul...

Welcome back, Fauna16Maude! For their first 5 posts, newly registered people can only post new topics in the sections Between You and the Scarleteam, and Newbieville, and can reply in All the Things. For our continuing users from the old boards who tell us who you were, we switch your settings so yo...

I think that "listening to them" entails considering, as clear-headedly as you can, whether there's any merit in any of the things they're saying. You may end up agreeing, or agreeing with some of it, or disagreeing with all of it; you aren't required to agree. I do think this is quite rou...

Also, Butterfly, do you want to talk more about how you're feeling? I'm sorry you're feeling so crummy. Maybe we can help you figure out what it is you need in the future to Not feel crummy, and how to seek out what you need and step away from things which don't meet those needs and have you feeling...

There's no reason why your ovaries would hurt because of masturbation. Ovaries are internal organs, and things that you do on the outside of your body can't affect them. Exactly as in the same way that rubbing your lips or nose won't hurt your lungs :) It sounds like you might like some information ...

Welcome to the boards! Masturbation isn't connected to reproduction, so someone doesn't need to have reached puberty or have a body that's capable of reproducing to masturbate. I'm not sure what you mean by the vagina not changing before puberty? A good number of people don't involve the vagina in m...

Welcome to the boards, paperflowers. If you're not doing anything that hurts while you're doing it, it's very unlikely that you're doing anything that's bad for your body. I'm very sure that you haven't ruined your body :) When it hurts, is it anything like the kinds of aches you might get after you...