Sorry for replying so late, I've been doing some deep thinking about these things lately. I do know that therapists should be able to help with almost anything, but it's taken a HUGE amount of effort to be able to talk about any personal problems with my therapist already, so I don't think I will be...

Thanks so much, that definitely is really helpful. I guess I have difficulties with this for several reasons, one being that I have OCD (the pure-O kind) so I deal with unwanted thoughts on a pretty regular basis, and its even more annoying (and scary) when that starts to creep into sexual territory...

Hi there and thanks for responding. I wanted to say first that I really love this site and everything that you guys do, it's been really helpful to read through the articles here. I would say it disturbs me that I would have this fantasy even though I know how much it would hurt my partner if they k...

I'm 19 years old and my partner and I have been dating for 2+ years. I'm really happy in this relationship and we try to be as open and communicative as possible, in all aspects including sexuality. Here's the problem: I have a fantasy that I know would be immensely triggering for them, due to past ...