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by Bubbles
Wed Jan 03, 2018 11:54 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?
Replies: 41
Views: 9307

Re: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?

I really want to cancel my therapist appointment. I made a bad post in the "Sex, Culture, and Politics" message board and the guilt is killing me. All I can think about is what damage I might have done and that I'm the problem. I feel like depression and anxiety is what I deserve, like I'm...
by Bubbles
Mon Jan 01, 2018 1:02 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?
Replies: 41
Views: 9307

Re: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?

I'll try and keep this post shorter. I think that Sam answered all the remaining questions I had and I feel about as ready as I'll ever be for the therapist appointment now. Thank you both for helping me be prepared. I was thinking of waiting until after my first appointment before posting again wit...
by Bubbles
Sun Dec 31, 2017 1:38 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?
Replies: 41
Views: 9307

Re: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?

Sorry my replies are so long, I feel tired just proofreading my last message. :?
by Bubbles
Sun Dec 31, 2017 1:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?
Replies: 41
Views: 9307

Re: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?

Thanks for confirming that everything is okay, I guess it was catastrophic thinking again. I feel like I'm being really unpleasant by casting all these doubts at you both. You deserve better. My apology isn't worth much anymore since I keep making the same mistakes but I'm still sorry. I might have ...
by Bubbles
Sun Dec 31, 2017 10:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?
Replies: 41
Views: 9307

Re: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?

I don't mind you adding thoughts here Sam, I just can't help but wonder if you're here instead of Heather because I made that comment about "is this what close friendship feels like" and all that, in my second-last paragraph. That I was getting too personal. I know I'm in a sensitive state...
by Bubbles
Sat Dec 30, 2017 1:38 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?
Replies: 41
Views: 9307

Re: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?

(Sorry for the random side note here, but... am I sexist for having trouble forming connections with women in real life, as we discussed earlier? Or anything? I'm just a little worried. I'm also sorry if I sometimes use the wrong terms for sex and gender. I'm still trying to figure it all out; I don...
by Bubbles
Sat Dec 30, 2017 12:19 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?
Replies: 41
Views: 9307

Re: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?

I'm sorry. It must be getting annoying that I keep worrying about that, I didn't intentionally mean to be trying to do your job for you, I feel that I was actually kind of disrespectful in acting like that, I'm really sorry; I'll try to stop. I think it might actually be to do with the self-sabotage...
by Bubbles
Sat Dec 30, 2017 1:07 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?
Replies: 41
Views: 9307

Re: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?

I just realised that I might be breaking Scarleteen regulations by asking for help about this. I was reading the section where it talks about isn't supposed to talked about on the site and I saw this: "Ongoing mental health issues or conditions like anxiety disorders, clinical depression, bipol...
by Bubbles
Sat Dec 30, 2017 1:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?
Replies: 41
Views: 9307

Re: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?

I've downloaded the book: "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking". I'm a slow reader though so I probably won't get through it any time soon but thanks for the suggestion. I've managed to get my psychologist appointment moved forward to next week but I feel quit...
by Bubbles
Wed Dec 27, 2017 3:08 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?
Replies: 41
Views: 9307

Re: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?

Oh, I thought you said you were going to do a longer full reply to my last post so I was just waiting for that. I'm sorry, I must have misunderstood. The thing you mentioned about me being introverted and adressing social struggles? That sounded like it might be helpful, since it could be near to th...
by Bubbles
Tue Dec 26, 2017 1:46 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?
Replies: 41
Views: 9307

Re: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?

(You're right again, I'm definitely introverted. Also, I've made an appointment with my doctor to get a therapist referral now; it's in 3 weeks. Don't worry about when you reply, I'm just grateful to have someone to talk with, thank you.)
by Bubbles
Tue Dec 26, 2017 1:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?
Replies: 41
Views: 9307

Re: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?

No that's not it, I really DO want to forge close relationships, I'm just not ready for anything sexual because that level of intimacy seems overwhelming for me and makes me feel uncomfortably vulnerable. Though I would like to be able to experience that one day too. But right now my heart jumps and...
by Bubbles
Mon Dec 25, 2017 12:54 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?
Replies: 41
Views: 9307

Re: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?

I've tried so hard but I can't. I'm 19 years old and I'm just as lonely as I was in preschool. I feel like a child. All the people I've known my age have plenty of quality friendships and have already moved onto more than that with relationships, and I'm still here stuck with the social development ...
by Bubbles
Sun Dec 24, 2017 12:55 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?
Replies: 41
Views: 9307

Re: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?

To tell the truth, I don't really have any friends right now. It's been that way for 2 years since finishing high school. I've also never felt close with any of them; I had 3 friends but I never saw them outside of class, and after graduation we didn't speak again. So I think I'll keep working throu...
by Bubbles
Sun Dec 24, 2017 10:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?
Replies: 41
Views: 9307

Re: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?

Thank you for replying. I did get more distressed with the more researching I did, but you're right; I had a lot of emotional discomfort before even that, regarding all these topics. I just don't know how to talk about it though, given how lost I feel. I think you're right that most of it boils down...
by Bubbles
Sat Dec 23, 2017 9:34 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?
Replies: 41
Views: 9307

Sex too complicated to be enjoyable?

I'm still a virgin and have refused to let myself into a relationship because of my fear of sexuality. It's going to be hard for me to explain my problem but I'll do my best. I have a terrible feeling I won't get answered or maybe my question will be taken down because nowhere on the internet have I...