I think the way you said you'd phrase the first thing sounds completely fine! With the harshness thing, maybe you could ask them more about what they intend? That can tell you more about what you want to do next, but it can also in itself take some of the sting out of the things they say if they sli...

Hi NambyPamby! I'm sorry your friend is being dismissive about the way you talk and communicate. This sounds really unhelpful of her, there's nothing inherently bad about being intellectual and analytic about things, especially as that is often a big part of many people's personalities - sometimes t...

Hey AQ, I think with Thing 1 it sounds like you already did half the work by telling them you didn't like it and they may already have some partial knowledge that they should have asked. So I'd approach it as a clarification, starting with something like "You know when you touched my hair the o...

Hi tristanitee, I'd leave the decision of whether or not to take medication up to your girlfriend, and refer her first to the instructions on the medication. You are right that if her period comes in the next few days the likelihood of pregnancy would be low. It's the week leading up to ovulation (u...

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Hi €ash! There is no single way for any two people to have sex, and regardless of whatever body you have, the sex you will be able to have and enjoy will always be unique to you and whoever the other person is, and it'll always require communication and experimentation to find out what works between...

Aw I'm so glad that was helpful, Mitzi and I'm glad you're feeling like you know what you want from the conversation!

Good luck Mitzi! I do want to add that if your partner does come at this from an even self-aware but still judgemental angle that this is still his problem. I do feel he has responsibility for responding to what he's ready for, and you might consider part of being ready as including a willingness to...

If you haven't had any sexual activity it's not just a "very small" possibility, it's just not possible at all to have become pregnant. The length of time between periods or a period being missing doesn't change your chances when those chances are already zero. Are there any activities you...

I also love this. I think in terms of physical sensation temperature can be a factor for me: I can find cool surfaces really grounding, also there's this really nice feeling I get when I've had a hot bath and then a cool shower. Speaking of which getting in water feels awesome altogether! Doing so i...

(Moved!) It sounds like your girlfriend is having a pretty tough time with this too. That's a lot to handle, and I'm really pleased you came by to ask for help! One of the things that can happen in situations like these is that the severity of the information we've received can send ripples through ...

Hi MountainMix!

No doubt that's a really big thing to learn of and for you to have to try and process, I'm so so sorry!

I can see AQ's point, so I'm going to move this topic thread to the "abuse" section and then we can continue this conversation there.

I want to start by saying that, when used as a negative, slut is a SUPER unhelpful way to describe anyone for having had sex, regardless of how much of it they enjoy, where or with whom. So before wondering whether or not you are a thing, it could be very helpful to take a breath and recognize that ...

Aw I'm sorry, this sounds like it's been really frustrating Jay! You say you were able to reach orgasm a few times by using a toy, so it sounds like toys might be a part of the solution... Could there be something about worked that time which you could try again? That said there is a lot to be said ...

Hi Artistic_Doggo, Unfortunately there is really no safe way to asphyxiate even if there's no immediate harm felt, there's also the long term risk of brain damage from repeated oxygen starving your brain. So I can't really recommend any of this! However it's definitely not messed up to have wanted i...

For sure!

Depression can be a thing for whatever sibling you are, as can any long-term mental health issue. I agree with Heather in suspecting your girlfriend might benefit from seeking support around mental health. Maybe that could be something both of you could look into?

Glad we could help Marly!

Whoop! Very pleased you got a referral! When I'm nervous before an appointment I like to write down things down which I want to communicate before the appointment, and look over my notes in the waiting room. Getting there early, having some water etc can also help you settle if your concerned about ...

Hi Skyskysky, I don't think anyone is too young or too old to have or not have crushes! I think the difficulty for some people of hyper-specific words for feelings around intimacy or attraction is that our sexuality and personalities are wobbly and imprecise, and so trying to describe those imprecis...

Hi there! It certainly sounds to me like your partner is struggling through many parts of this relationship, and I'm not hearing you saying that you'd like to work through any of that with her, or that you're willing to be affected by the fact that she's struggling. Indeed it sounds like you're stru...

Hi Crensal! I'd recommend making your own thread as this one is several months old... but to give a brief initial answer, I'm not sure this is a a problem necessarily needs a solution - very few people are going to feel able or safe doing every sexual position, let alone feel comfortable in all thos...

Hi rainysky! When you're erect everything is going to be a bit more stretched and it sounds like your foreskin is having a difficult time moving around because of this? If so, perhaps keeping moisturized and lubricated can be helpful here: using water based lubricant will mean there is less rubbing ...

No problem! Look after yourself!

Hi Berkeley, I don't think "gender euphoria" is a universal experience, so I wouldn't worry to much about not feeling it. I don't think it's something I've ever felt, or probably ever would in the way I generally experience gender On "what if I'm a trans guy" - I feel like your a...

Glad to hear we were able to help Desmond!

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