Jasppuppy! I don't think it's weird to want to have connections without too much of a romantic element, but it is also not unusual to struggle to to find people who want to explore a specific thing with you in a specific way, at any age. As Latha suggests, growing your social circle beit through dat...

Crushes can take many different forms, but if you felt things, then you felt things. There doesn't need to be any underlying reason or proof which makes those feelings legitimate, they're already legitimate. I also don't think there's anything delusional about using any of those words to describe yo...

Hey chy!

My immediate thought is that he's not being a very good friend by acting this way, and overreacting to you continuing to have a dating life.

What do you think about it? Are you still thinking you want to be friends with him?

I think it depends on the therapist, but I would fully explain the situation... You never know, they might be great, or might be able to refer you to someone else if it doesn't work with them. Regarding trusting your memories or your instincts, that is a choice, but it is a choice you make. Not me o...

Hi Boh! I'm so sorry you're going through this. Losing faith in your own memories can be such a difficult spiral to get out of because it also affects your ability to trust your decisions . I have been through different but similar feelings. What I can say is that external validation as with all thi...

High whitelies! That situation isn't going to affect your cycle or your discharge, there is no way for it to, but it is true that there can be plenty of variation in a person's cycle, sometimes unpredictably. I've known stress to be a factor in varying menstrual cycles, but it's hard to know if that...

Oh Emelyn, I'm so glad you got some validation from the moment, but I also can't help feeling sad you're having to frame your gender within the confines of this particular relationship. I don't think recognition of your gender has to always be the number one concern of every relationship when there ...

Just to add here that the negative opinions you're talking about regarding vore, are actually not super mainstream, mainly because the most mainstream reaction to "What do you think of vore?" will invariably be "What's that?" (i.e. the reaction I've gotten when I've mentioned it ...

Echoing Kier: Reaching out to people first could be the way, beit moderators or just people who post whose posts you like, it's usually out of the conversations that we arrive at "Right! Lets make a group on focused on 'this' medium, which works in 'this' way, hosted on 'this' service." I'...

Hey Malla! I think it's worth just remembering that if you can be into a thing, then a person can be into you being into it... And that goes for any version of a fantasy, and wherever you position yourself. Whether you're an observer, a participant or whatever, all parts of the fantasy are you perfo...

We love you Sam! Bon Voyage and happy trails, and don't let the bastards grind you down!

Hey stateofgrace! That doesn't sound weird to me at all! It sounds like there is a kind of immediate rush of excitement you feel, and that's the kind of thing that can fizzle out. If you wanted to experiment going slower and exploring more around what feels good and is different from that frantic fi...

It's not stupid at all. I think it is good to work on finding closure internally, rather than only based on external things, but if getting rid of the external problem is quick and it helps you focus on that, then why not!

I have deleted it now anyhoo, I hope that helps!

Hey Bowler! I wonder if it might be helpful to think of this as in terms of "ideas", "people" and "things", instead of "spaces" (which might involve an array of people and things and ideas, but getting more granular feels like it might actually be helpful here...

Aw, I am sorry you find yourself going back to it, and good job in seeking ways to lessen the opportunities for OCD spirals to take hold, it ain't easy! I am more than happy to delete it or if its OK with you moving it to our "vault" section where you won't have access to, it but staff wil...

Hey Taylor! I feel you on the post sex "something must be wrong" feeling. I get that pretty often, and it was worse during my early experiences. That little text exchange you had is usually the ticket to putting some of those anxieties to rest. I think a big the thing with descriptors whic...

Just wanted to tack-on that you made some excellent points there labrat!

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I might also tack onto what Sam said that medical diagnoses are not completely neutral either. Sometimes a diagnosis can exist because of the severity of the issue and unfortunately they can be about bias, either historically or for an individual. Some things which are completely healthy and actuall...

Maybe some of this depends on context and/or the specifics, but I think it's usually not a consent issue, but with some caveats? If there is identifying information in there, not cool. If it's a sly attack on an ex-partner, because, say, you know they read your blog or whatever, also not cool. Even ...

No problem! And good that you're planning to speak about it. I understand, there is definitely a degree of whiplash which comes from finding out that how you viewed a situation is different from how somebody else viewed it, or that what you were told is different from how things probably went down. ...

Looks like me and Sam tried to answer at the same time: I definitely wouldn't try and do that in everyday life... Think of it more as play acting, and something you agree on with your partner... it won't go down very well if you walk into public places and start telling people what to do, or start a...

Hey there! I wonder if it wouldn't be better to work with the sexual response you already have rather than trying to make it be something else. It probably wasn't anything you did, but is just how your body works! I think one of the things that makes people want to "last longer" is narrowi...

Hey Kaualves! I have been told similar things by previous partners and to me it always felt a bit more like pressure than a compliment! But we're all different. I want to point out here that what you read in her messages was only really for her, and regardless of what you read, what she told you abo...

I'm sorry you're feeling bad after masturbation! Any idea why that might be? I personally don't think addiction is a useful way to think about this. There's nothing extra here that isn't accounted for by "people get aroused sometimes" - like when you say your libido is higher around your p...