Hi vambrace, I relate to a lot of what you've shared here. I think some of the suggestion others have included might be helpful for me too, so thank you for asking your questions! I want to second the suggestion to try mindfulness. It's not a cure all, and it takes time and practice, but I find it c...

Hi Sam and Mo, Thank you both for your responses. The distinction between pushing past someones boundary and holding your own makes sense. I have a couple more questions: When boundaries are conflicting and compromise is proving difficult, how do you navigate that conversation? I feel like saying to...

Hi Sam, Thanks for your reply. I guess I feel guilty for enforcing boundaries because it feels like I'm imposing on someone else. Like, emotionally it feels the same as pushing someone else's boundaries. I guess maybe part of that is because I've been in situations where I've full on debated someone...

Hi all, This might be a little rambly because I'm not sure how to explain my question. Also not sure if this is in the right sub-forum. It's been on my mind for a while though, so I'd appreciate any ideas. My chronic anxiety often makes it difficult for me to trust my intuition on a lot of things. I...

I've been doing pretty well for the most part, but I feel sort of - I don't know, gaslit I guess? - because I'm trying to follow the guidelines the government has put out here, but people keep reacting like I'm being way over the top. Anyone else dealing with this? I'm grateful to be in a place wher...

That makes a lot of sense. So yeah, going forward I'll definitely make sure to hold my boundaries with this friend as well as respecting his. The more I think about this, the more I realize I have a larger issue with getting stressed and second guessing myself around setting boundaries. The particul...

Hi horriblegoose, You make a very good point. This really struck me: it's really important to me that people don't treat me like a child they can't tell no. I hadn't thought of it like that, but that is what I'm doing. I will try to continue letting him know when he says something that makes me unco...

Hi Heather, Thank you so much for your response. And thanks for those articles on gaydar - very interesting! Yeah, it makes sense that a conversation on boundaries is the next step here. I'm not sure how do to that though. For more context, this is not an equal friendship right now. I'm volunteering...

Hi all, I need some help unpacking something that happened recently. A friend told me that he thinks I am gay or bisexual and just don't want to admit it because of my religion. He said that he can tell because he is gay and he knows when other people are, even when they say they aren't. I'm not fee...

Thanks Sam! I looked at the birth control bingo article, but I missed those ones. I will take a look.

Hello! I saw this article - https://www.theguardian.com/society/2019/feb/25/nine-major-myths-about-the-pill-from-cancer-to-weight-gain - in the Guardian recently, and I was wondering if everything in it is accurate? Some of the information is stuff I already knew, or things that I've learned from th...

Hi Sam, Yeah, that makes sense. I'm honestly having doubts about whether this therapist is a good fit for me in general, but I have at least one more appointment with her and looking for a new one feels intimidating (but I know I'll need to look for someone new if I keep feeling this way). For bring...

Hello, First of all, thanks for this amazing website! I have a habit of looking at pornography, especially when I'm stressed/anxious, but I'm really not comfortable with it. I have had a lot of trouble changing the habit on my own, so I'm trying to talk to my therapist about it. But every time I hav...