Hi TrueJustice. I would say you're not overreacting at all -- you're certainly far from being a brat, too. Being yelled at is always an experience that causes some level of anxiety, so having a fearful response is very typical of ANYONE who is being/has just been yelled at. But having a big history ...

Hey Tigger -- if it's related to the topic of this thread, you can of course ask it here! If it's not related much at all, it might be better to just start a new topic (don't worry too much about which forum to put it in, put it somewhere you think it generally fits, and we can always move it to a b...

Hi TrueJustice. First off, there's an excellent book called "Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life" available online as a PDF that I'd highly recommend: http://www.carovnezrcadlo.cz/TOXIC-PARENTS.pdf Although I do not share exactly the same situation as yo...

Hey annapalooza. I can definitely see where you're coming from with keeping your parents from knowing about this. It's hard when we don't have anyone around us who would be supportive, and that kind of makes counselling all the more important! But you know, you don't have to be specific with your pa...

Hi smoore118. Yep, the pills of a pack stop you from ovulating during that cycle! Have you checked out this article yet? How do birth control pills really work, even during the placebo period? If not, it goes into lots of detail about how exactly the pill works, and hopefully that'll help you unders...

Hey Ralphie. It's really great that you have things in your life to keep you busy and that make you feel good -- I too love me a good distracting colouring book or movie. However, it's also really important to give ourselves the time and space to grieve. If we don't let ourselves have that, we end u...

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Ack it's so hard to read this stuff because it's so true. I texted my mum about it that night, and I also emailed my therapist. My mum said "yes you should contact her therapist because it's about her well-being!! You should find a way of getting her therapist's info even if it means telling a ...

You should totally do that! I know I would for sure read it ;) I think it is my life quest to find books like this, I don't think I've found a single one yet. Man, what I would have given to have those books at age 13. I read Tamora Pierce's Terrier back when it originally came out and I remember lo...

Hey guys. So I've been taking more time for myself, but I haven't had the chance to have a conversation with my friend -- there is a new problem that is getting in the way of this. which I'm about to explain. I'm wondering if it's appropriate of me to ask for her therapist's contact info, and if I c...

I think we're actually making two different points here. I LOVE tamora pierce and I think those books that are like "I can kick ass AND be feminine" are super important and awesome to have and there aren't enough of them at all. However, what I'm thinking about is the need for books where ...

Sunshine and I were discussing in another thread a little while ago the attitude of "I'm not like those OTHER girls". That is, the attitude that if, as a woman, you act like "one of the guys" and reject femininity, then you're superior to feminine women who are just "shallow...

Hi MagiCurious! I totally get what you mean, I used to feel really weird talking online. But as a young teenager I spent many years on forums so after a while I just got used to it and forgot about feeling awkward! Now I feel even less awkward than I do in face-to-face conversations :) I think it's ...

I love my eyebrows! I used to be like "aw man they're so big and dark" but now that bold eyebrows are in, I can laugh in everyone's faces. Mine are so on point and I love them so much. I also love my biceps because they're nice and strong with minimal effort and I love how they just make m...

Well, talking about relationship models and what we're expecting out of a certain situation before we start any kind of sexual relationship is not a strange thing to be doing, so I don't really think that would make it awkward at all. If you come at it from a way that doesn't assume that what she wa...

I think that a big bunch of explaining - in response to "I'm so bad", at least - would really mostly be more of the same, especially if it comes with a big side of you also explaining how it'd be better for her. She's already demonstrated that she's not very able to do things that are goo...

Yes!! I personally have ALWAYS used glycerin (and paraben) free lubes, because I'm a sensitive soul who gets yeast infections easily so I figured knowing my luck, they'd probably not do well for me. I've found that my local super-feminist female-and-lgbtq-focused sex shop has an AWESOME selection of...

Hey IthilienDude. It's awesome that you feel you're getting more assertive at work. And you're right that with more practise asserting boundaries in dating relationships, it does get easier. It's a slow progress but it IS progress! I totally hear you about being assertive around family being the har...

Seriously, well said Sunshine! I got to that line (the one heather quoted) and was like "Bam, there it is." I totally get what you're talking about, and I've been thinking about that a lot lately. Women are expected to throw femininity -- in terms of behaviours and personality traits -- to...

Thanks Mo! I didn't end up having the conversation with her yesterday, because her sister was over visiting from another city (her sister whom she tells me she doesn't like!!!! I just don't understand anymore -- does she actually not like them and is that terrible at setting boundaries, or does she ...

Hey bigbywolf. I have similarly struggled with a lot of anger that was left unexpressed (towards those it was aimed at) and have found a few things helpful. When I had a similarly awful breakup with a boyfriend who was a less-than-healthy partner who said manipulative things, I found myself so full ...

Thanks heather! That does make total sense, and in my brain I've always known that to be true. I just have annoying niggling little "you're a terrible friend and she'll have nobody to turn to!!!" jerkbrain hanging around that makes me feel guilty about setting boundaries. I'm actually a lo...

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Hey, guys, thanks for the replies! I had my session with my therapist on thursday morning and I talked to her a lot about this then, and she helped me work through it (and said an awful lot of the same stuff you've both said!). When I told her how much time I had been spending with T verses how much...

As Sam said, unless it is over 12 hours late, the effectiveness of the pill shouldn't be harmed. The pill is cumulative, so when you've taken all your other pills on time, you will still be covered within those 12 hours even if you haven't taken that day's pill yet. That DOES mean that the first few...