Hey Afte.rmath. I understand how tough it must be to feel that nobody is, or ever will be, attracted to you. But -- and I don't mean this in a patronizing way at all, simply that you haven't experienced it yet -- you will come to find that the world outside of high school is much bigger than we can ...

Hi gatesy08, it sounds like your doctor is in agreement with what we suggested may be going on here (that it's a side effect of your pill and nothing to worry about). Have you done anything to take care of yourself and let go of your anxiety around this at all? Do you have any strategies you can use...

dear younger self: - being attracted to/liking/having a crush on someone =/= compatible for a relationship - also, if you are not compatible, you do not have to try to force it!! - please, for the love of god, pee + wash before and after sex. You are going to regret not knowing this - find some bett...

I personally am not good with using planners, and instead have a big huge calendar on my desk that I write in the due dates of my assignments on. That way it is there in my face and very clear, and I have a much better visual sense of the spacing and pacing of my assignments. I also use to-do lists,...

Hi confusedteen, welcome to Scarleteen! Your thoughts on this subject are not "weird" at all! Many people agree with your ideas around this. We even have a few articles here at Scarleteen about how "virginity" is kind of a useless, outdated, and sexist concept! Whether it's a goo...

hi cherryxocola. The doctor CAN do a pregnancy test on your urine or blood samples, but that doesn't mean they WILL. Usually they have a list of regular things they run tests for. You can ask them about whether pregnancy is one of the things they test for. Furthermore, any results from your blood an...

Hi milkshake.angel. Welcome to Scarleteen! I personally don't think it's disgusting in the slightest; I mean, after all, they're all just bodily fluids and body parts! When it comes down to it, there really isn't much difference between saliva and, say, vaginal lubrication. And of course, if safer s...

Hey Angeldelight123. I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so crummy around this. I have a few articles to start you off that I think might help, and you can let me know if there was anything in any of them that really resonated with you or that you'd like to talk more about: When Sex "Just Happened...

I'm glad to hear that you're feeling less anxious than you used to. Getting in-person support from someone who's trained, like a school counsellor, will help you to manage any remaining anxiety, and you'll learn ways to handle it so that it doesn't get overwhelming. Stress absolutely can affect some...

Hi Jambo. I feel like we've discussed the ins and outs of pre-ejaculate with you pretty much as much as we possibly can. We've given you links to all of our articles on the subject, including on what factors are necessary for pregnancy to be a possibility. I just don't think that going over the info...

Hi MxSid! I hear you on the difficulties of getting into counselling, it's a shitty reality and I'm sorry you have to wait so long. I'd say the fact that you have been taking responsibility for your actions, and seriously thinking about ways to do better and make amends, is plenty of proof that you ...

Hey Fender909! I would second Mo's suggestion to go to a walk-in clinic (we can help find one near you if you're having trouble with that) but if you'd rather go to the ER, that will absolutely work too! It's certainly possible that your lowered immune system is making you more susceptible/making wh...

Hey FadedPassion. I'm glad to hear the good news! How are you feeling? Is there anything else we can do to support you right now?

Hi wildprincess. As someone who suffers from depression, I can say that in my own experience, during times of great stress and work overload, I do find myself feeling detached from and "less affectionate of" all of the people in my life. This feeling always goes away over time, it never la...

Hey myriad. Although I know it can be hard not to dwell on those "what ifs", it's also important to recognise that 1. we will never know for sure, so we can "what if" for the rest of our lives and it will never help solve anything and 2. at this point, there is nothing you can do...

Okay, so you probably haven't started building a repertoire of coping strategies yet. Is that something you'd like to talk about with us here, and we can make some suggestions? We also have a lot of resources on our site for people struggling with anxiety: Anxiety and Other Mental Health Resources

Hi gatesy08. Please do not post more than one copy of a thread, as this goes against our user guidelines & agreements.

Since corsets, when formed and laced properly, don't really cause health risk, I doubt there would be any health risks involved in wearing one during sex (other than what you mentioned, and also potential discomfort since the item isn't really designed for physical exertion). I would, however, be co...

Hi gatesy08. Looking back at your previous posts, it's clear to me that all of your concerns around your use of birth control have been addressed for you already. Thus, it's looking to me like your anxiety around this isn't so much about the effectiveness of your pill use, and more about something e...

Hey myriad. Although the concept of "normal" is pretty irrelevant when it comes to sex (and most things in the human experience, really) as everyone is so individual, and thus there kind of is no "normal" -- losing interest in sexual activity after masturbating is a pretty typica...

Absolutely. If both the clinic AND the leaflet say that particular antibiotic doesn't affect your pill, you're totally in the clear.

Yup! That's correct

No problem at all, we're here to talk, so you can talk as much or as little as you want :) I'm sorry to hear that your whole family is totally against anything other than heterosexuality. That's a tough situation to be in. The fact that you're still remaining true to yourself and not only surviving ...

Hey junojagger, I hope you're alright with me adding my two cents in here! It's awesome that you guys feel comfortable enough with each other to communicate, and it sounds like you're pretty great at communicating. So you told him that it may help you if you get more feedback from him -- did you go ...

Hey Jellowl! Glad to hear you managed to stave off that UTI -- they really are hell. As for tips to help keep them at bay in the future, you could try using pads that are made of natural materials, or even reusable ones (they'll save you money too!). All the methods listed in the UTI article Danny l...